Tiffany - posted on 08/05/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
I have a talented, intelligent, caring, gorgeous 16 year old daughter who's boyfriend just broke up with her. He's going off to college and I understand his need to be free. I have never liked the way he treated my daughter and I don't like the way he went about breaking up with her. She is just crushed and I know I can't say "He wasn't good enough" to her. I want to comfort her and take her pain away. I know that isn't possible...how do I reinforce that she is such a wonderful girl who is going to find the love of her life? I remember how I felt but my mother wasn't in my life to tell me anything. My daughter and I have a very good relationship and I am the first one she told and came to for comfort. My response was to tell her how I felt about her and that maybe now was the time for her to do something good for herself, something she wants to accomplish that will make her proud...was that the right thing? My problem is that my mother (her grandmother) is in our lives now and her response is to tell my daughter to get back at him by dating his friends. I don't agree with that!!!! My poor girl is such a wonderful, kind, and loving and sensative person that I want to say the right thing but have no experience to go on. Any advice would be so helpful! I want her to feel pride in herself, which I think this boy did a pretty good job of taking away from her. What can I do?