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What do I with a 13 year old girl that has issues?

Karen - posted on 10/31/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have a 13 year ols daughter that has OCD and me and her lately dont get along together she always call me a lier and blames me for are relationship. I have tried grounding and when i go to sleep she sneaks out and goes eny where she wants to go I have taken her lock of the doors that she goes into. And my next step is to take the doors off the hinges until she changes her attuide they havent put her on medicine because they said that they are taking it ine day at a time I am afraid that is she doesnt chance soon it will be to late for eny measurements Please help me enyone

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Cindy - posted on 11/01/2009

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Karen, I think the reply from Lucinda is right on. I have 3 teenagers and sometimes I think they need me more now than when they were little. Teenagers need our time and attention even when they don't act like it. Peer pressure is so powerful. You can start slowly spending more time doing things she enjoys. Sometimes when you're doing activities together they open up more than when you try to sit and talk. Don't be afraid to be honest with her that you don't always have the answer and sometimes you mess up like all moms do but that you'll never give up on her. Remind her often of all her wonderful qualities and everything you love about her. Don't forget to take good care of yourself and be patient with yourself too. It's hard to be a mom. OCD is treatable and it sounds like you're getting her the help she needs. God bless you both :)

Karen - posted on 11/01/2009

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Thanks alot for relpying t my need I will try enything once just to see if it will work and I will also check to see if her school has that class

Lucinda - posted on 10/31/2009

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Hi, in your letter you stated that you feel your 13 year old has OCD but didn't say why you think that. What is she doing that gives you that clue. As far as her not listening and having respect for you,stand your ground and believe me sitting down and talking with her goes along way. Ask her why she has these feelings and take it from there. Please never say that you fear its gonna be to late someday. Always remember to never give up. I know one thing that does work with myself and my 13 year old daughter is once in awhile just her and i go some where to eat or just get an icecream sit and talk about her,her friends,school and whatever else comes out. Also ask her school if they have a anger management class she could sighn up for. My daughters school as it and she took it upon herself to attend and she loves it. Has it turned her into a perfect angel no but it does help.

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