What is a reasonable bedtime for a 15 year old on a school night?

Robin - posted on 12/15/2009 ( 139 moms have responded )

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My sons father thinks that 9:00 or 9:30 is a reasonable bedtime for a teenager on a school night. I would like some input from other mothers out there.

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Jessica - posted on 01/29/2013

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My 2 dughterrs (16 and 18) go to bed at 7 pm latest during the week. 6.30 pm on weekends

Jen - posted on 01/16/2012

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I'd say about 11 or 11:30 is acceptable. If they go to bed at 10:30 they have a hard time falling asleep, but if they go to bed at midnight or later they usually fall asleep in class.

Tina - posted on 08/17/2011

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This is such a sticky question, and I think it is more complex than it seems. Each kid is different, so you have to know your kid. Does he have difficulty getting up in the morning? The time should be based on a more personal note than a blanket time for all kids that age. Also, teenagers need more sleep and are programmed to sleep more as their brain develops and their body adjusts to hormones and matures. I would say 9:30 or 10:00. This allows for homework, free time, tv, and plenty of rest.
Hope this helps!

Kelly - posted on 11/16/2010

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my daughter is 14 and her bedtime has been 10pm for 2 years. There are night when she goes to bed at 9..they know when they are tired. I say as long as he gets up in the mornings for school with no issues then whats the problem staying up later. He is getting older
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Denikka - posted on 01/31/2014

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As others have said, depends on the kids and their sleep requirements. At 15, I was regularly staying up to 2am and getting up at 6:30-7am. But I am DEFINITELY not the norm. I've had insomnia issues for most of my life and never needed much sleep. :P

In my house, my general rule is you get an extra hour, every 5 years. 0-5 is 7pm, 5-10 is 8pm, 10-15 is 9pm and after 15 is 10pm, all during the school or work week.
Now, this isn't a hard rule, I'm willing to be flexible (and seeing how my oldest is only just about to turn 5, this obviously hasn't really been implemented yet :P) and will adjust it as necessary when the time comes.

Chloe - posted on 01/31/2014

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My parents have my bedtime at 9:00pm on school nights and 9:30pm on weekends. I think it is pretty fair, Just remember as you get older it will be later than usual.

Shawnn - posted on 01/16/2014

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Depends on the kid, and their sleep needs. My 16 YO knows that 10 pm is absolute lights out on weekdays, but often is ready and in bed by 9. My 19 YO, when he lived at home, was always in bed by 8:30, but up at 4 am.

Plus, at some time, they need to be given enough freedom to stay up late, way too late, and realize what it does to their bodies. Usually they'll come around to a reasonable bed time on their own after that...

Patrice - posted on 11/24/2013

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That what time my daughters bedtime is. She has to sleep with the tv on, I would love to break her out of that habit

Jackie - posted on 11/24/2013

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My 15-year-old starts getting ready for bed at 8:30 or earlier sometimes if she is really tired. She has to get up early so she's ready for bed early. Sleep is really important at that age. I don't think 9 or 9:30 is unreasonable.

Sonya - posted on 10/08/2013

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If the father has already set the rule---why are you questioning it? Do you want advise to break the rule or reasons to enforce the rule?

I've had boys that put themselves to bed when they are tired at 8:30---at 16 years, but they are getting up at 5 AM to milk our cow.

Some teenagers require more sleep during these years because they are growing so fast---by the inch. And will sleep during the day if able. (probably not a good thing at school.) Others run, run, run and then sleep soundly.

I have one son who leaves by 7AM and doesn't get home from practice until 9PM---he is exhausted and talks of sleeping during a class that he's caught up in...He's physically active and mentally engaged in his classes. It is demanding sitting in class listening---when I try to listen attentively for an hour on Sundays---I'm tired. (How did I ever stay awake through grad school?)

Does your son come home and sit in front of the tv? If he is not tired by 9---maybe he needs some physical exercise. Otherwise, 9 sounds reasonable to me---our family with boys from 7 years to well out of the house, seeks to get to bed 8 for the younger, 9 for the middle ones, the older we let homework and need determine it--but do remind them that tomorrow is another day. (They are working on homework, or reading, not watching tv.)

Does this help? Or am I just rambling?

Nicole - posted on 10/08/2013

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My 1, 2 & 3 year olds go to bed at 7pm. My 11, 13 & 15 year olds go to bed at 9pm. Any later and my husband and I would have no time for us, to either talk or watch telly together - child free quiet time!

Kristy - posted on 05/22/2013

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My son is 13 on Monday the 27th of May and he goes to bed at 9:00...he is fighting me to stay up later, but I am wondering what a good time is for a school nite please!

Joe - posted on 12/19/2012

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A 15 year old should get 8 to 9 hours of sleep so he should go to bed at 11pm

Sally - posted on 08/24/2012

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Her bedtime for this years 8th grade is 9, lights out by 9:30 It's funny, 'ironic' to see this post as I had this delema this morning. My almost 14 yo dd didn't get up this morning for the 1st time by herself for close to a year. She had her 1st soccer practice last evening & think she was just pooped. She forgot to set her alarm too. I did wake her up but haven't had to do that for a long time unless she was ill, etc. How do others feel about waking up a teen at this age? I want her to rely on herself but don't want her to miss the bus, etc too.

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My 18 year old (who works) goes to bed approx 3.00 or whenever he finishes work (7.30), my 16 year old goes to bed approx 8.30 although she does read for a while till she goes to sleep, she has finished school though

Nishon - posted on 08/23/2012

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I normally went to bed whenever I finished my homework, around 12:00 to 1:00, I did have a lot of extracurriculars, though.

Emma - posted on 01/16/2012

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i have a 20 yr old son who goes to bed at 10 pm gets up for coxing at 5am, a 14 yr old girl bedtime 8 pm, 13 yr old bedtime 7:30pm and 10yr old boy bedtime 7pm weekdays, saturday nights they can stay up half hour longer only...less sleep means they're grouchy and nasty to each other and i wont have bad manners and bullying. so until they can learn to control themselves they abide by our rules and they are nice kids with no bags under their eyes :)

Jen - posted on 12/07/2011

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I think it depends on the teenager. If they were fine with that, then I guess it's ok. However I asked my teenager, aged 14, and she responded that she would "die if I made her go to bed that early." Lol. She goes to bed around midnight.

Kristen - posted on 10/30/2011

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My 15 year old daughter goes to bed at 8:30 on school nights and gets up for school at 5:30. She seems to do much better on 9 hours of sleep, than on 8. She was upset with us for awhile, but I think she has learned that it is best. On weekends she can stay up until 11, unless there is something special that she needs to stay up for.

Marlene - posted on 10/30/2011

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At 16 my son goes to bed at 20:30, not a minute later. Then again he has to get up at 05:00. He gets himself up, showers, sees to his own breakfast as is ready to leave for school at 05:50. We have always given him strict boundaries. We have never had any behaviour or social problems with him.

Marlene - posted on 10/30/2011

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At 16 my son goes to bed at 20:30, not a minute later. Then again he has to get up at 05:00. He gets himself up, showers, sees to his own breakfast as is ready to leave for school at 05:50. We ahve always given him strict boundaries. We have never had any behaviour or social problems with him.

Dana - posted on 10/29/2011

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That sounds about right... unless they have to get up really early for the bus or something. My teens were lights out at 9p on school nights at that age; 930p, then 10p on weekends when they got a little older. However, they got up for school at 630a. The agreement was: if there were ever tired-issues (attitudes, school problems, etc), the bedtimes would be earlier.

Sarah - posted on 10/28/2011

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well i would say what time do they have to get up? and so on . 12-18 year olds need 8-9 hrs. a day i hope this helps!

Patty - posted on 10/28/2011

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i would say it depends on what time you have to get then up. if they get up early to ride a bus or something them might need an earlier time. count back 8 hours or so and then be sure you add time to get settled in and asleep.

Stephanie - posted on 07/05/2011

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My dad let me go to bed whenever we wanted, however we had to get up in the morning no ifs ands or buts. We learned quickly that the later we stay up the harder school gets. haha. the only thing he enforced with us was that we were in our bedrooms by 10, and we could do whatever we wanted to untill we choose to sleep.

Savanna - posted on 07/03/2011

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Personaly i think thats ridiculous. My 6 year olds bedtime is 8:30pm. My 13year old is aloud to stay out till 11pm on weekdays and 2am on weekends and he doesnt have to be in his room till 1am on a school night.

Joy - posted on 11/17/2010

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We changed it to 11 when they turned 12 as long as I didnt have to fight them getting up.My daughter goes to bed at 10:30 cause she has a hard time getting up.

Tracy - posted on 11/17/2010

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Bedtimes in our house on paper look like this:
9 year old - 8 pm (school night), 9 pm (non-school night - unless you drive me nuts, then it's earlier)
16-17 yr old: 10 pm (school night), 11 pm (non school night, unless you drive me nuts earlier)

However, in reality life happens. Kids don't always go to bed when they are suppose to because of homework, church events, school events, meetings & chores. If my youngest would show she can go to bed on time (or within 30 minutes of returning home from a crazy night) AND get up and dressed ontime, then her bedtime will change.

So I guess my answer would be that it depends on the child, but I would still keep it reasonable because you want to go to bed at a decent hour also.

Vicki - posted on 11/16/2010

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It depends on what time he needs to be up in the morning and his level of personal responsibility. My boys set their own bedtimes when they asked, which was around 11 or 12 years of age. We agreed to a "permanent" trial basis, which could be revoked at the first sign of abusing that bedtime (crankiness, oversleeping, etc.), but both sons are in their mid to late teens now and we don't seem to have issues. They each get 7-9 hours of sleep a night.

I think if you force a child to go to bed when they aren't tired, you're setting that child up for a lifetime of insomnia and sleeping issues.

Carrie - posted on 11/16/2010

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Well, every year my teens get older( son 15,daughter13) I up their bedtime by 1/2 hour. My 15 year old son's bedtime now is 10:30 and my 13 year old daughters is 10:00. They are to have everything turned off in their rooms. I decided to do this because as they get older, they need less sleep(I find) and well, we adult go to bed when we are tired(whenever we want) and so, as my teens get closer to being an adult they should have(slowly) or be allowed to have a bit more "freedom" so to speak...but not TOO much. On weekends, my kids can stay up a lot later,but reasonable times. My 4 year old son, goes to bed sometimes at 9(depending on if he's had a nap or not). Teenagers are young adults who need to be treated like young adults and not children. BUT have some boundaries of course and limits.

Ann - posted on 11/12/2010

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Hi, 8.30 is still a bit early for a 15 year old, with a early start in the morning. I would go for 9.pm earliest and 9.30pm lastest on a school night.

Sherri - posted on 11/11/2010

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9pm is the bedtime for my all most 14yr old and will be in effect for quite sometime.

Theresa - posted on 11/11/2010

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My 14 year old starts getting ready for bed at 9 and is in bed by 9:45-10:00 (he lifts weights, then showers before bed). I think 9- 9:30 is probably a little early for the average 15 year old. You could try moving it to 10. If he's too tired and/or crabby in the morning, then move it back.

Ann - posted on 11/11/2010

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My daughter is 15 and normally makes the decision herself. The lastest on a school day is 11.00pm, but its normally homework thats keeping her up that late, usally its 10.00pm. It all depends on what time they have to be up in the mornings. Over here its 7.00am

Theresa - posted on 01/21/2010

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I think it depends on what time he has to get up in the morning. My son is in 8th grade, but has to be up by 6. He has to leave for the bus by 7. He goes to bed at the same time his 5th grade brother does (8:30) because his brther gets up an hour later than he does. Next year he will be in the high school and will be able to sleep about an hour later. He will probably be going to bed between 9 and 9:30 then. I think you need to see how your son is handeling it. If he goes to bed every school night at 9:30 is he tired and crabby in the morning, is it hard for him to get up. If it is then maybe move it back to 9 and see how that goes. Some kids need more sleep than others. I personally think that 9-9:30 is a reasonable bed time for a 15 year old. 9PM unitl 6AM is till 9 hours of sleep. Plus if he's like most teenagers he makes up for it on Sat by slepping until 10 or 11. :)

Marion - posted on 01/21/2010

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My 15 year year old settled into his own sleep pattern.Took a while but this has worked unless his school work, important tasks are disrupted don't take the power away when I get up in the morning I say thank god I went to sleep early let him hear the goodness of sleep and he is in control of his night sleep

Tracie - posted on 01/21/2010

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I know how tough it can be trying to set a reasonable bedtime for any child, let alone a teenager. My daughter is coming up to 17 now but when she was 15 it was a different matter. I would send her upstairs at about 9-9.30 and tell her that she had an hour from the time she went up to get herself sorted out and either read or watch the t.v, then it was lights out. If she was still awake when I went to bed, the following night I would reduce the time by half an hour. So sometimes she was going upstairs at 8pm. She soon got the message that by doing as she'd been told she got to stay up a little later every few months.
I hope this will help and your son doesn't give you too much trouble. But you and your husband need to sit down together when your son isn't in the house and discuss the issue. If you show a united front your son won't try to push his luck because he'll realise that there's no point.

Rachel - posted on 01/05/2010

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wow they have a "bedtime" at 15? sorry to make light of it, but ive got one daugher in college (shes 16). she does her homework, watches csi and is off to bed (no arguments). ive got anoher one (who is 15) who would tell me to f*@$ off if i set a "bedtime" for her, and it wouldnt even be worth it to make it an issue. All kids are different and ive been wondering what was appropriate for a 15 year old, myself.

C.C. - posted on 01/05/2010

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MY 14 YEAR OLD HAS ALWAYS PRETTY MUCH SET HIS OWN BED TIME. EVERY MORNING I GO IN HIS ROOM 1 TIME AND SAY COME ON SKYLER ITS TIME TO GET UP...HE GETS UP AND DRESSED AND IS OUT THE DOOR FOR SCHOOL. I TOLD HIM IF HE EVER GETS TO WHERE HE'S HARD TO GET UP THEN HE WILL HAVE A BEDTIME BUT UNTIL THEN IT WORKS FOR US.

Kristi - posted on 01/05/2010

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My son who just turned 15 knows he has to be at wrestling practice at 6:30am. I start sending all my children to bed at 9pm. He is allowed to stay up until 9:30 but he usually goes to bed himself @ 9 like his younger sisters, sometimes earlier. Yet if we didnt live a block and a half from the school I would probably make them all go to bed @ 8:30. The only time that we make a big deal out of it is when they dont listen about bedtime. If you dont make it a battle out of it they will go to bed on their own which is right around 9 to 9:30. Give him the chance to do this and you will find that once he sees what kind of sleep he needs he will adjust it to that and you never know he might go to bed earlier than 9.

Cathy - posted on 01/05/2010

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Hi, my son is 14 and extremely difficult, he gets the bus at 7 AM and is hard to wake up his bedtime last year was 9 PM. He had a hard time falling asleep and an even harder time getting up. We also had alot of other rules about TV, computer and video games, and doing what he is told the 1st time (still a work in progress), but anyway this year I decided to give him the chance to go to bed at 10 PM as long as he is mature enough to handle the responsibility and I also allow him to watch TV or play video games right up to 9:55 PM and to my surprise, by giving him the opportunity after hearing his complaints and many arguements, he is getting to bed and falling asleep better and actually getting up in the morning and getting to the bus on time. (He was told that if he cannot handle the responsibility than he must go back to getting to bed early, I did have to punish him once this year and he went to bed at 9 PM for three nights and he wasn't happy about it, he's been okay since then............ So listen to there arguement and maybe try to give them alittle bit more responsibility as long as they can handle it. I found that once I eased up on all the rules and turned the responsibility over to him to my surprise he was able to handle it, I just wasn't giving him the chance and that will truly hurt them in the end!

Bonnie - posted on 01/05/2010

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Okay, my son just turned 16. He has a tv in his room and is a texting addict. I just told him yesterday that he needs to stop texting (give me his phone) by 9:30 and tv needs to be off at 10:00 or possibly 10:30. It is so hard enforcing rules when they get older....I go to bed before him at times and he could still be watching tv at midnight but I have to somewhat trust him and give him the benefit of the doubt. I honestly would go by how much sleep you think your son needs and if he gets up in the morning okay. Each kid is so different!!

Michelle - posted on 01/04/2010

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I sound like a mean mom, I guess my kids are right, lol. my teenagers are 13, 15, 17, 19. I make sure they are all in by 8 no later than 8:30, except for the 19 year old. I don't want to hear no complaining in the morning that their tired.

Roberta - posted on 01/04/2010

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I have a 17 year old daughter and her bedtime is about 9:30 to 10:00 on school nights. We are not too strict with it though. If she has nights with alot of homework we give her some additional "down" time to relax before bed.

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