What makes you parent? What makes you a bad parent?
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mmmmm lot think about thank you. just having trouble understanding what my son did and said. and why he would prefer to be with my husbands parents who abusive and probably more. just don't get it. i know we made mistakes but i thought we taught him honest, morals, respect for others. we gave him rules and boundaries he broke everyone.
These days I wounder if what we learns has kids where good or bad. and how much of it is in our own imageions or fact.
Stacey - posted on 01/31/2010
Being a parent is far more than just bringing a child into this world...I look at some children in todays society and it is apparent that they are being thrown up rather than brought up. I believe that you have to have clear boundries and consequences and stand by them. I believe that you have to be their parent and not their friend. I believe that it is important to be involved in your childs life, to talk to them, and to listen to them. A parent should set an example, teach morals, and point out mistakes and talk about how they could handle things differently than they had, but it is also just as important to praise when they do right. A parent also needs to understand that none of us have all the right answers and we are not perfect we will make our mistakes and we will do things that when our children are grown and have children of their own are going to say I will never do that with my kids....so don't be too hard on yourself. I believe that you get from your child what you put into them, so if you put love, trust, confidence, understanding, beliefs, morals and time into them, you will get that out of them. I have three children, and I will say sometimes they think I am the worst person ever because I have rules and they have to follow them. But there are other times when out of no where they will thank me just for being there.
Tamara - posted on 02/01/2010
To me a Good parent is a parent who lets their child learn from exploring, by being there to help them if/when they fall, offering support when the child needs it, and lets them be themselves. When a child falls we know they do some harder then others, taking them supporting them but Not fixing their problem, helping them fix it themselves guiding them how to do it.
Bad parent, one who neglects, abuses, and just dont care about his/her kids.
There are other ways of parenting that are also 'good' just differing parenting styles. The only time I will say anything or judge anothers parenting is when I see abuse going on. Aside from that they are doing their best to raise their child(ren) the best they can.
Shannon - posted on 02/01/2010
I'm a good parent because I actually parent my kids. I can be a bad parent because I have to watch the suffocating. Parents who put aside time for their kids, don't put their kids, off, listen to their kids, pay attention to changes in their kids, are the good parents. Those that slack off, let their kid hide in their room, take a grumble for an answer, and let their kids do whatever and don't set rules, in my opinion, are bad parents. Kids grow up, and they make look more like an adult than a kid, but they are still kids who need constant guidance. Leave a kid to their own means, and you will end up with trouble somewhere. Communication/honesty/really listening are what teens need to feel valued, loved, a part of the family, and like their voices are being heard.
I hope I answered somewhat correct. :)
Staci - posted on 02/01/2010
I do not believe that anyone can judge someone else on if they are a good parent or a bad parent. I believe the answer is in the child and what that child becomes or does with his/her life as they become adults. Every child is different and every parent is different. What works for one child/parent may not work for a different child/parent. Parenting is a learning process just as childhood is also a learning process. Every parent will mistakes and every child will make mistakes along the path of growing up. It is what the parent/child learns from those mistakes and the choices made that will help them grow into healthy happy adults.
Shelly - posted on 01/30/2010
WHat makes you a parent is giving birth theoretically. However i have found that in todays society.... kids will call some one their MOM if that person cares, listens, understands, shows concern, gives guidance, or even is able to give a set of guidelines that shows them the way morally and ethically, then makes the child adhere to the set of guidelines they were given...
What makes a bad parent... in my eyes a bad parent is someone that just walkes away or doesnt try to raise their child to the best of their ability including asking others for help if needed... takes 2 people to make a baby takes a village or community to raise a child
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