What stores do you shop for appropriate clothes for middle school girl?

Cheri - posted on 11/30/2011 ( 19 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 14 and in the 7th grade. She was adopted from another country 5 years ago and we held her back a year in school so she could learn English. She is a great student now, but I think she feels like she's older so she assumes she can dress older than her peers. She's overly obsessed with makeup and fashion. She recently used gift cards from Christmas and birthdays to buy $180 worth of makeup from Target. I blew a gasket! We tell her all the time to take makeup off her face and have taken the majority away from her. Now she has a dance party to attend on Friday and she emailed me a pic of the dress she likes. It looks like it came out of Kim Kardashian's closet. Hoochie mama all the way. She doesn't understand that she would be the talk of the party were she to wear that. I think she thinks she's getting stiletto heels to wear too. I have an older daughter so I've been through this before, but she never pushed the "sexiness" factor. Where can we shop for clothes that are appropriate for her? Everywhere I go it's skin tight clothing and five inch heels.

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Cassandra - posted on 10/27/2012

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I take my teens to Rue 21. They have beautiful, fashionable clothes and have AMAZING sales. That is the first place I go when I have to shop for my kids school clothes.

Valerie - posted on 07/18/2012

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Personally, I think 14 is the PERFECT age to start wearing light-medium makeup. To buy a cute dress for her that doesn't make her look like she's from George Washington's time but not too Miley Cyrus, I would DEFINITELY suggest going to Abercrombie & Fitch, Aeropostale, Hollister, American Eagle, Forever 21, Charlotte Russe, etc. At those stores you can find the prettiest dresses ever without making your daughter look like a stripper or an old lady. It's the perfect balance of beauty and modesty. Sure, the dresses are above knee length but at least you can't see her butt! Whatever you do, never buy a dress at The Children's Place for a 14 year old daughter. You don't want her to get teased for wearing a bright pink dress that says 'Daddy's Little Girl' on it at the dance do you? And remember, don't overreact if she is showing a bit of leg or skin!

Cathy - posted on 12/01/2011

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My daughter is 13 (14 in May) in the 8th grade. She too uses make up, although she is limited to eyeliner (softly applied, not this THICK stuff I see some wearing) and mascara. I don't think you'll get away from the form fitting shirts and jeans, it's just the fashion now....my daughter LOVES Hollister, American Eagle and Forever 21 ....I LOVE Forever 21, because she can get the style she wants, but it's must easier on my pocket book than Hollister :^ ) Hope this helps.....my husband and I continually remind one another "WHO'S THE PARENT"? :^ )

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Lily - posted on 04/18/2014

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I have twin girls and one of them skipped two grades and it was hard for her to grasp that she is still younger and can't dress like those in her grade. I found that both of is can compromise with stores like forever 21, rue 21, Charlotte Rousse, and Hot Topic with my input

Briana - posted on 06/25/2013

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i am a kid dont let your daughter be a hoochie because everyyone gonna be talkin to her and paarents do not over react to some clothes cause it gets us mad make makes you look older than you are and is not healthy for the kid try forever 21,charlette rouse, love culture ectc. make sure it is cute but age approppriate

Botorr - posted on 02/04/2013

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my daughter is 11 turning 12 soon but she doesnt really like shopping into stores like primark but apparantly its embarssing ? but look at the clothing dont take notice of what they think go to matalan primark highstreet stores

Starr - posted on 10/25/2012

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At least it wasn't MAC makeup! That's what my daughter and all her friends love, think its just more "in" these days, at least it is in their school. So much of this stuff is now aimed at younger girls, like Victoria's Secret "Pink", all the kids love that stuff. My girls, 13 & 16 shop at Forever 21, Hollister, Charlotte Russe, H &M, Nordstrom Jr's dept., Macy's or even Windsor for dresses sometimes. I think that at this age Children's Place and Justice are a little too young for them, my kids wouldn't be caught dead in there unless their buying something for their little sister. Heels are okay as long as they can walk in them and also I figure the taller the heel the longer I want the dress.

Arianna - posted on 10/25/2012

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Well i made this account because i can relate to this topic im in 7th grade and have my school dance tommorow i was having trouble finding the right outfit i found one but when i was looking I found really "slutty " outfits

Samantha - posted on 08/17/2012

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Try Old Navy, my high schooler has been going there since the 6th grade. The clothes fit without emphasizing the wrong thing. Target is too much into marketing and the bottom line. We don't even shop there. Most of the kids around her have discovered thrift shops. As to the make up, mine had to wear it for ballet performances so that slowed her down. She also has to budget her money for her makeup and it's not money from gifts, it's earned money, so she is frugal. You might want to ask the school counselor what the other kids are wearing, most pay close attention. Our school dances, still have to follow dress code so the Hoochie Mama look never shows up. Good luck, sounds like the battles are just beginning.

Kristi - posted on 07/25/2012

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I guess you have to define "expensive" for each family. I know that I can't afford $25-30 for 1 top. I mean, I could but she'd only get about 2-3 tops. If it were a sweater or a hoodie, I can see spending that much but for regular shirts, not so much. She loves Aeropostale and so do I, almost everything is on sale most of the time and we've had great luck with the quality, as well. Forever 21 is another favorite of hers, I'm not exactly thrilled with it but most of the stuff is my kind of "pretty reasonable." Justice has some really cute stuff! But we need a little more bang for our buck.

Layla - posted on 07/25/2012

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My daughter is12 goin to7th she stops at justice for girls i thinks it not that pricey either each top is like $25-30

Chaya - posted on 07/24/2012

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Tell her to dress more conservately if that's what you wish. If you have to pick out her clothes, do it, If you don't want her to wear stiletto's refuse to buy them for her and tell her she's not allowed to have them, if you need an excuse, tell her you don't want her breaking her neck on them.
If my kid spend $180 on makeup, I'd know she'd never have to buy it again. If it's her monies or gift certificates, and it's harmless, don't worry about it.
I buy my daughters clothes at thrift stores. Yes, they are used, but so are yours. She gets a set amount of monies to spend for school, she couldn't buy much with it if she went to a regular retailer. Thrift shops are also more likely to have what you wish her to wear.

Kristi - posted on 07/19/2012

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My daughter is 13 and going into 7th grade, as well. So far she is not into make-up but she loves to put fun, funky outfits together. Her school dress code doesn't allow for hoochie skirts, they have to go down 3 inches from your finger tips. They can't wear tanks or camis unless they are covered by something else. She has heard that they enforce the dress code all the time by older kids so she is good with that, otherwise, what I say goes. In addition to the other stores mentioned, she likes The Buckle and Maurice's but Forever 21 is her fav. Good luck!

Jen - posted on 02/01/2012

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5 inch heels are a little much for a small dance, 3 inches are about the perfect size.



$180? I got extremely mad at my daughter for spending $50! But it wasn't using gift cards.



She's 14 - not technically an adult, but definitely not a girl still. Just find a reasonable compromise.

Nelly - posted on 01/02/2012

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We shop at the gap,old navy,h&m,lands end,dockers my husband and i r the parents and we choose what our children wear

Arecia - posted on 12/04/2011

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Cherie~ Cathy is right, those places she listed are high on the pre-teen/teen list of places to buy fashionable clothes. As far as a hoochie mama dress for a school dance (or any kind of dance) is a definite NO! If she doesn't abide by your rules then she can't go, simple as that! I would help her pick things that won't make her look like Little House on the Prairie but are age appropriate, no cleavage, down to the top of her knee and a small heel. She probably doesn't like anything in Justice but that place has cool clothes too. I have a teen daughter (18 in Feb) who went thru this stage (among others) and she now dresses in the Hollister/American Eagle type clothing! Put your foot down and good luck! Ciao!!

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