What to do if 15 yr old son and drugs

Kristin - posted on 07/05/2012

When i found out my my son was smoking pot at 15 i took him to the police station and let the police give him a lecture on jail time and where it will lead, I also made him watch intervention. Now I did things different than most parents, I never did get mad at my son or take things away from him, I sat him down and calmly had a long chat with him telling him the pros and cons and asked him why he wanted to smoke pot in the first place. He did open up to me and said all his friends smoke it. So i calmly told him that he was an independent individual and should not do things just because his friends do, I also told him to maybe find a different set of friends. Then after our talk I then gave my son a choice he could either quit smoking pot and go see a counsellor or he could move out and live on his own with no help from us. I told him I loved him too much to let his go down the wrong path but I also told him I loved him enough to make his own decisions and that whatever he chose he would suffer the consequences good, bad or otherwise, After a week of thinking my son quit smoking pot and enrolled himself into a drug therapy session. Sometimes giving your kids freedom of making adult decisiions and communicating with them works wonders. Also, as for your sons acne I found a wonderful new product called Skincerity, it works to get rid of acne, scars, wrinkles, everything and it really works. You can google skincerity for more information and ordering if you so choose. Good luck with your son

Christina - posted on 07/05/2012

Hi Louise, oh yes we've told him about the evils of drugs... so has his counselor (highly recommended)... but as you said he thinks he knows better, "I don't know what I'm talking about, pot should be legalized"...goes on about alcohol a more dreadful drug... on and on with his arguments... he reads all sorts of stuff from the pot advocates point of view... I keep saying "you're FIFTEEN!" Any way he's is grounded for a month now... I'm considering taking his cell as well... we are going to the cottage for 2 weeks (it's his favourite spot and we enjoy our screen-less, tech-free cabin in the woods). We've told him no pot is allowed. I will personally check his bags. He won't like the scrutiny... He and his father have had such a close relationship but I fear we might lose that. My husband hated his own father from the age of 16 till he died at 84! I can't let that happen to them. It'll be tough love and love and understanding... thanks for your feedback. Awaiting the counselor's response.

Louise - posted on 07/05/2012

He is really pushing the boundaries here isn't he. Sit him down and tell him that there will be no drugs what so ever in the house because one way or another they will kill you. Tell him your job as mum is to keep him safe and seeing him do this is very upsetting. Get some facts from the library about pot and tell him the dangers he is doing to his young body. He wont listen he, like all the other 15 year olds think they are invincible.

get the councillor to drum it into him that if he chooses a life of drugs now he is darkening his future drastically. It's that important. If this coucilor is wasting your time find another. Also ask at the school to see if they have a drugs programme running. If your son is doing it then lots of lads his own age are too!