WHAT TO DO WITH MY 14 YEAR OLD SON WHO HAS AN AWFUL ATTITUDE?

TAMMY - posted on 03/27/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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MY SON WHO IS ABOUT TO TURN 15 YEARS OLD, HAS THE WORSE ATTITUDE AT HOME. HE HAS A NO CARE ATTITUDE, ROLLS HIS EYES. WHEN YOU ASK HIM TO DO SOMETHING HE

ALWAYS HAS TO GRUNT AND ALWAYS ASK WHY DOES HE HAVE TO DO IT AND WANTS TO PUT IT OFF ON HIS SISTER.

HE KNOWS HE HAS CHORES, BUT YET HE DON'T DO THEM OR WHEN HE DOES DO THEM, HE ALWAYS DOES THEM HALFWAY, BY HIDING UNDER THE BED AND CLOSET. WHEN AROUND HIS FRIENDS HE WILL LAUGH, I CAN ASK HIM A QUESTION ABOUT THEM AND HE WILL LOOK AT ME AND TAKE UP FOR THEM BY LIEING.

THEN IN FRONT OF OTHER PEOPLE I CAN BE HAVING A CONVERSATION AND HE SAY SOMETHING NEGATIVE ABOUT ME AND THINK ITS FUNNY. WHEN I HAVE A COVERSATION WITH MY DAUGHTER, HE WANTS TO ALWAYS PUT HER DOWN. MY HUSBAND CAN ASK HIM A QUESTION AND HE JUST SHRUGS HIS SHOULDERS LIKE WHO CARES.

WHEN ASKED A QUESTION, HE HAS GOT TO GIVE AN ATTITUDE WITH IT LIKE HE HATES TO ANSWER US. I DON'T UNDERSTAND BECAUSE AT SCHOOL, HE HAS GOOD GRADES, THE TEACHERS ALWAYS SAY HOW RESPECTFUL HE IS AND WHEN I TELL THEM ABOUT HOW HE IS AT HOME, THEIR SHOCKED.

AT HOME HE HAS STRUCTURE, HE HAS CHORES, HE IS MADE TO ANSWER MAAM OR SIR. SO WHY IS HE THIS WAY.

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TAMMY - posted on 03/27/2012

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IF ANYONE COULD HELP ME UNDERSTAND HIM, MAYBE I'M MISSING SOMETHING.

I LOVE HIM AND I DONT WANT HIM TO GROW UP WITH THAT KIND OF ATTITUDE

Staci - posted on 01/04/2013

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I dont know, but when you do find the answer, let me know. Same thing with our son and he will be 15 next month. I thought teenage girls were hard...he takes the cake! Im at a loss. Good kid, with a good heart, yet we go through this more often than not....it wears me down. To the point Im really asking myself what am I doing wrong...He never takes responsibility for his actions. It's always our fault and not his?? I just dont get it. Is this a phase, will he grow up thinking the world is wrong and he is always right? I feel your pain and sympathize!

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Doting - posted on 09/25/2012

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He's just a typical teenage tw*t. either put up with it or confront him head on and vent your dissaproval of the way he is, cut his pocket money, take away any privelages, but for gods sake stop him calling you sir or maam. your his parents not his bloody local senator.

Jackie - posted on 04/02/2012

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It could just be a stage, but if he were my child, I would want to "get to the bottom" of things. I'd be wondering to myself, "Is he upset over something?" Is he jealous? Does he feel that I favor his sister over him?" I'd want him to open up to me and tell me what is troubling him.

TAMMY - posted on 04/02/2012

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thanks for the response, i thought of maybe going to counseling with him and i have spoken to his teachers and they tell me they feel it's just a teenage thing, to wait and see.

i am waiting but it seems that he has the worse attitude at home, i have tried to talk to him and he only says he knows, it's like he doesn't want to open up with me or even try to speak to me.

My son, my daughter and I have always had a good relationship with each other and we spend alot of time on the weekends doing things together, but lately he doesnt want to do anything with us, he wants to do his own thing and also he thinks its okay to be negative to me in front of people and put me and his sister down. I told him not to ever put his family down but he just shrugs his shoulders and says things like, whatever, or i can't make him do something.

i feel like sometimes just to scream but i hold it in. But overall my son has had a good

and active childhood, so i can't imagine why he acts the way he does.

Mariam - posted on 04/01/2012

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Just sounds like normal teenage behavior to me. I have. 3 teenage boys presently, so I should know. If he is respectful outside, that shows you have raised him well, and he is probably just acting out from all the stress of school, homework, etc.



Try to do fun family stuff together whenever possible, talk to him on the way to school or wherever, and resist the urge to boot him out of the car when he rolls his eyes!! Pray, pray, pray that he remembers his good upbringing and you all make it through these years with some hair still on your head!!!

Jackie - posted on 03/30/2012

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Sad to read this. Perhaps you and your family should try family counseling. Or your son might need individual therapy.



You are lucky he is doing so well at school. He may be very unhappy about something at home.



Is he jealous of a brother or sister? Does he feel that one or both of his parents don't appreciate him or frequently criticize him? Sounds like he feels very alienated at home.

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