what to do with my teenage daughter?
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Michelle - posted on 08/07/2009
I have 2 teenage daughters 14 and 12. I know at that age, it can be awkward for them and very emotional. Most teenagers that age are trying to fit in and trying to figure out who they are. I would highly suggest to keep the lines of communication open to your daughter and let her know that she can count on you at any time. As a mom, I would hope that my daughters can come to me about anything regardless if I agree or not with the situation. My older sister has 4 teenagers. She says that the best thing to do, if they come to you,is not to over-react no matter what. Yes there should be consequences for bad choices, but if you over-react, your daughter will most likely feel that she cant come to you. I hope this helps you a little bit and best of luck!
Michelle - posted on 08/05/2009
Not really knowing what the problem that you are having with your daughter it is kind of hard to give advice. So here is my suggestion. Take her out just the two of you some where like to a lunch or a dinner and just talk to her. Find out what her interests are and how school is going for her. See if she is having any problems in school or with anything else? Maybe she is having a problem with her Dad or one of her siblings that you dont know about (that is if she does have other siblings). But most important before you start the conversation reassure her that it is okay to talk to you about anything at all no matter how big or small it may be. Just let her know that you are there for her no matter what the issue may be. My son is 19 and he moved out and he still comes to his "Mommy" and talks to me about everything because he knows that I am always here for him no matter what the issue may be. Be very open with your daughter. Good luck...
Gloria - posted on 08/05/2009
I do this with my 16 yr old, sit her down put off TV, and I'd ask her what it is that she'd like to talk about, or whatever it is we both go on our knees and i'd pray and ask God to take hold of the situation, and if you've done all there is to do...........Give her to the Lord and let Him see her through, that's what I've done.
I've cried, talked, listened, punished etc. when I felt that I needed help I just streched my arms out to the Lord and said She's in Your hands Lord, have Your way and let Your will be done in her life, use her and mold her into whatever, whomever, You wish her to be for Your Glory.
I will be praying for you Rana, just trust and believe that God will soothe your hurt and He'll come through and He'll draw her.
Lunakid - posted on 05/14/2013
look think back to when you were teenagers, by the way im 13, and think what you needed the most. have a girls day out or tell her to bring her friends over. sometimes i think that my mum doesnt understand anything but then i have to reasure myself that its all okay and not to worry. you could allways try and talk about school or whatever with her.
hope this helped :)
Samantha - posted on 01/28/2012
Teenagers have a lot of hormonal issues that may make them more moody than usual, but ultimately its the way parents handle it that makes or breaks the relationship...
..Oh, and teenagers don't cut themselves just "for attention" or to "get back" at someone. It's because they feel so utterly hopeless that nothing else would work, and because deep down they don't want to commit suicide because maybe they can get through this.
NATALIE - posted on 08/08/2009
hi my name is Natalie, i have a 16yr old daughter and we have been through the mill and all the hating me,abusing me, cutting herself for attention,not going to school she even hated me and went to live with her dad for 3 months and hated that too and him it all has finally stopped, she now is back living with me. Rana be patient your daughter is at a difficult stage give her the space she needs and respect it and she will in her own time come round but please don't remove those rules and boundaries for a minute or all will be lost you will be surprised of the outcome when she will come to you and say sorry mum you were right....good luck
Rana - posted on 08/07/2009
many thanks for the advice. i think you touched the right point in which you said i musn't over react. i have to admit that i sometimes over react and then i find my daughter draws back. although it is very difficult to try and just listen without any reaction but it is something i have to do, keeping in mind that i have another 3 kids who are growing and the future of them depends on the outcome of my relation ship with my teenager girl. wish me luck.
Rana - posted on 08/07/2009
Many thanks for all the advices. i feel i am not alone and that i am not the only mother who is suffering from her teenager. some of the advices are really encouraging. i will try to talk, reassure my love to her and hope to succeed. my problem with her is attitude. she doesn't accept advice and believes she knows it all. i feel she is jealous from her siblings and feels my attention goes to them before her. i find it difficult to care for two youngesters and a teenager. i believe they need me more but i think i will put an effort and have some time out with her for her. i hope this will work.
thank you all again for the advice.
Angelic - posted on 08/05/2009
Not really knowing exactly the problem you are having, I am guessing with attitude. We need to remember that they are going through a lot of emotional ups and downs with becoming a woman and trying to figure out how they fit in. The best advice that has worked for me is to let them know you understand what they are going through and that you are on their side not trying to ruin their life. Be honest with what your concerns are and talk to them. Share your past experiences with them so they know you really can relate and that is why we are the way we are - protective. We want them to avoid the problems we went through. We are sitting in a different seat as a parent, but we need to be relatable so they feel they can come to us with anything without judgement. Hope that helps.
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