WHERE DOES THAT ATTITUDE COME FROM?

Linda - posted on 07/26/2009

They get that attitude from friends and television! I know i have been there with my 18 year when she was 15. The funny thing is now that she is out on her own, she has realized how bad she was. I actually got I'm sorry mom from her. They do out grow it and well i figured out it just comes with the age and friends!!

Teresa - posted on 07/24/2009

I think reality TV has had a lot of bad influence, especially on girls, I mean, have you watched some of them? They pride theirselves in being hateful and self centered. I have 2 teen boys, they too have attitudes. The weird thing was and is, that in the summer when they were away from friends so much, they were like my loving sons again, but come school time.....The aliens settle in their heads. I am still waiting for my 18 year old to say, "You were right, high school grades ARE important."

Angela - posted on 07/24/2009

i wd luv 2 no the ans 2 that 2 coz my 10 yr old has a very bad attitude at the mo and its drivin me nuts and wiv the eye rollin and b in spitefully 2 her 2 yr old bro ive had 2 contact chid services 2 try and get sum help coz wot ever i do ie ground etc dnt work!!?

Dusty - posted on 07/23/2009

Yeah, um, I'm ready to all but kill my 14 year old daughter. So now she's lying about things...dumb things and when you catch her on it the attitude goes up ten fold...anyways I just saw this topic in passing and was like, damn I have to say something...maybe someone has a solution that doesn't involve chaining her to her bed post and duct taping her mouth shut. Days of my perfect child are long gone, I know...I need to come to grips with it.

Kimberly - posted on 07/23/2009

Right!!! My daughter is an amazing girl.So far no trouble except for the attitude thing and OMG the eye rolling.I have found that now that we have moved into a new house we have started new rules like eating dinner at the kitchen table where it leads to talking...I always ask"What was the best part of your day"and wow...
I also think that I have realized I was only half paying attention to her when she talked to me and now I stop whatever it is I am doing,look her in the eyes and really listen.These small changes has made a HUGE difference in her attitude and her eye rolling.

Cindy - posted on 07/22/2009

too funny we are waiting for ours to grow out of it,she's fifteen and it only gets worst...stay positive and keep your head up,bedtime is my favorite time of day,lol

Kelly - posted on 07/22/2009

The answer will depending a little on how old your child is. Small children are centered around their own wants, as you know. If it's a teen, the attitude can come from a number of reasons, but Ruth is right - do your homework. I have 3 daughters and all went through adolescense differently. My oldest was my rebel. It is a gaining of independance; a change of power. They are gaining more independance over their life and you less. It is painful for both of you. Your child is likely not acting the way he or she is to purposely hurt you any more than your actions are done in order to hurt him or her. I is a change of power that must happen if your child is to become a responsible and happy adult - which is the goal of parents everywhere! Hang in there, do your homework, pick your battles, keep communication lines open and continue to love them no matter what - and this too, shall pass!

Jenny - posted on 07/22/2009

oh I know the attitude can be horrible my daughter is 13 and alot of times when she gets introuble for getting an attitude she seriously dont think she is getting one either that or she is putting on a really good show to try to get out of trouble and she loves to roll her eyes at you

ANGELA - posted on 07/22/2009

TELL ME ABOUT IT. MY DAUGHTER IS 14 AND IS A GREAT GIRL. I THINK SHE GETS THE ATTITUDE FROM MY SIDE. ALL THOUGHS ITALIANS IN ONE ROOM. IT'S A WONDER HOW MY DAD WAS ABLE TO MAKE IT OUT ALIVE. WITH A WIFE 4 GIRLS AND A FEMALE DOG. ! BLESS HIS HEART!

Ruth - posted on 07/22/2009

They are starting to break away and we're learning to let them go. It's a brutal dance that needs to happen or our kids would never leave home. I have a few books to suggest - "Parenting Teens with Love and Logic" by Foster Cline and Jim Fay and "Active Parenting of Teens" by Michael Popkin. I've found it helps to do some homework to understand why our teens do what they do. It also helps to remember that we (I know I did) did the same to our parents.

I have written about both of these books at SuchASmartMom.com. Here's a link to several stories that might help: http://suchasmartmom.com/tag/teens/

Leasa - posted on 07/21/2009

I know right... I don't have an answer to that one. But I was asking myself the same exact question last night when my 15 year old started with hers, Lol... So many people told me I would need patience when I had a baby, but honestly I think the patience comes when they are teenagers,LOL!