why do young teen-agers want to date so badly these days.
Pati - posted on 01/13/2009
Take a look at what is on tv, vh1 and such. It is alarming what kids think is normal anymore. then add in the Jamie Lynn pregnancy and the Bristol Palin pregnancy and it is glamorized to be with someone and go all the way. I have always talked to my daughter about what the music /movies imply and why there is some crap I just don’t want her listening to or watching and WHY. I don’t want her to think its ok for a guy to talk to her like that, it is demoralizing to say the least. It starts and ends at home as far as Im concerned. I set the standard for what she should strive to be, not the TV. AND she was not allowed to date till she was 16.
Clarissa - posted on 01/11/2009
Society has put it out there that dating is the thing to do. I think also teenagers have that feeling of being invincible and think they know everything, nothing bad could happen to them, they are smarter than us adults who have been there done that. They want to grow up so fast. This involves dating. This involves lots of other adult behavior as well. Peer pressure plays a role as well. My eldest is dating a boy and feels like she is being pressured by her friends to have sex with him because her friends have done that already. I guess misery loves company. I told my daughter that if they weren't smart enough to hold on to something so precious and valueable and to throw away their youth on things they have plenty of time to do later in life when it was ment to happen then let them take that road but you don't have to follow down their same path just because they are your friend. A true friend would encourage you not to take the same bad path they did. I also believe that to many young men out there are not being raised to respect women. This is due to lack of parenting and/or porn. I believe also that girls are not being raise to respect themselves due to lack of parenting and/or media. Our youth are not being givin the tools to handle these trials, these temptations.
I was a mother at 16. It wasn't from lack of parenting. I just felt I was invincible and that because he said he loved me it was okay. I did go on to finish high school with honors. I did not stay with the father. I later met a man who became my husband and we now have a total of 6 kids. I have made the most of my short comings. I love each of my children very much and have the best husband in the world. I know things would have been easier had I not started so early. But I wouldn't change them. I learned so much from my experiences. I just hope my children and maybe even others will learn from me.
I am sorry for my rant. I feel very close to this subject. I probably didn't help answer your question either. But all I have is what I have lived and am now living to go on.
Erica - posted on 01/11/2009
Hi Judy! I think that kids are just progressing to the next stage in their life and exploring their feelings that their hormones are putting out there. My 13 yr old daughter now has a "boyfriend" for the first time. They still call it "going out", like we did in the 80s. She and I are very close and she knows that I keep tabs on all her text messages and her internet usage, and so far I have found nothing but innocence in this relationship. It is just a natural progression of feeling attractive to each other, and finding they have common interests and exploring that. I think that as long as the kids know what is appropriate and accepted by us, the parents, there is nothing wrong in letting them explore their feelings.
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