Why does my teen sleep so much when she gets home from school?

Nicki - posted on 04/23/2010 ( 66 moms have responded )

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When I get home from work she is sleeping, she is not very active but she's not over weight either so I don't understand this lack of energy! Anybody have suggestions or comments?

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Saminda - posted on 10/16/2013

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Hi my name is Saminda my daughter (15)comes home everyday and goes to sleep after getting a snack she's not overweight .She just does this EVERYDAY and I have no idea what's wrong.She thinks it's just a teen thing ,but I think she has restless leg syndrome she has a dr appointment next week so hopefully I'll find out but I'm worried about her.If anybody can help me out please do.

Alicia - posted on 04/16/2013

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I am reading your posts and most of you are talking about inactive children. My 13 year old plays basketball from Nov - July and Soccer from Aug - Nov. Basketball practice is 4-5 days a week, 3 games every Sat and sometimes falls into Sundays. During our down times, all she wants to do is sleep. If she has a Sunday off, she sleeps till 12/1 pm and I let her because she usually played hard the day before. She comes home from school everyday, completes her homework and chores (sometimes on the chores) and then takes a 1-hr (at most) nap before practices. I control how long she naps and I make sure she doesn't sleep longer than an hour so that she won't stay up late at night. This helps to not keep her up late at night, as she normally eats dinner as soon as we are home from practice, showers and may watch TV for an hour and she is off to bed (sometime between 10-11).
I too tho have been very concerned with all the sleeping. As active as she is I thought she should have more energy. I flat out ask her if she is using drugs or if she is doing something that might get her pregnant. I have no problem asking because I don't want to be caught off guard. but after reading everyone's comments, I really do think this is a very normal part of being a teenager.
When I ask her if she is using drugs or pregnant she does get mad and asks me when does she have time for all that or tells me that if she was using drugs she wouldn't be able to play as hard as she does. She knows I am asking because I am concerned but it bugs her because she feels she is just being a teenager. She did have problems as a baby/toddler with low iron, so for her upcoming physical, I've requested blood work. However, this is the pattern with ALL of her teammates and most of the girls have very similar schedules as to hers. And appearantly, ALL of us parents are asking the same questions of our extremely healthy, extremely active teenagers.
I do know she isn't eating right, as she doesn't eat breakfast or lunch (she is supposed to eat at school, but doesn't and I can't force feed her) So the only nutrition she is getting is at home for dinner. She also refuses to drink plenty of water, which I also know is affecting her, but again, I can't force it down her throat. This can also play into why she is so tired. But again - ALL her teammates have the same problem with eating, sleeping and drinking.
They are a good group of well balanced girls and they aren't starving themselves because trust me, they do eat. They just all claim to not be hungry during certain hours of the day, so they don't eat. And they all complain about drinking water. So I am starting to think it really must be a teen thing.
But because I am concerned, I am taking her in for her annual physical + blood work. And will probably find out she is a normal teen who needs to eat better and drink more water - but I'm still having the blood work done just in case.
My best suggestion for the rest of you - rule out any health or nutrition or drug/alcohol concerns by getting them to the Dr. But chances are, this is just the normal cycle of teenagehood.

Cindy - posted on 05/29/2013

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Oh my goodness! I have recently been wondering the very same thing! I have a 16-yo who complains about being sleepy all the time, and recently has been falling asleep in class! Maybe it's because she stays up all night texting her friends, listening to music on Spotify, or doing piles of unnessary homework! In fact, I just wrote about this subject on my blog! It's all about raising teenaged girls with humor. If you like to laugh, especially about their strange sleep habits, check this out:
http://thedaughterdiaries.wordpress.com/...

Lala - posted on 12/21/2013

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The reason is because teens tend to go to bed later than what you really think, and they have to wake up early. This is either done by texting, watching TV, etc. So when they are at school for 7-9 hours a day, they aren't able to actually rest. Their bodies have to be constantly working to focus on everything that is going on in school. They get mentally/emotionally exhausted throughout the day, this is whether they do sports or not. So when they get home, all they want to do is sleep. This is NORMAL in almost every teenager and it will happen if it hasn't... Personally, I wish I could still do this.

Sahra - posted on 07/10/2013

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I sleep a lot and i went to the doc they said it is normal but it could be iron not in my body that much huh so yaa do not worry

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Jodie - posted on 04/05/2014

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I'm 15 so im still in school, i'll be 16 on the 15th of this month, but when I get home from school, I always go to bed and sleep for a few hours, my sleeping patterns really messed up, but I still sleep okay at night... Today, I slept until 12, went downstairs watched a movie, but fell asleep during it, woke up at 4, went back to bed and napped for around 10-15 mins, but then didn't sleep at all after that... When I was 14 I used to sleep all day BECAUSE I didn't sleep at night, I don't know if theres like, anything wrong with me or if it's just a teenage thing or what but I don't want to ask my mum, because she'll probably think im just being silly but yeah...

Dale Ashley - posted on 02/24/2014

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I have a theory, bare with me...maybe, just maybe, she and every other teen simply likes to sleep?! I know crazy right. But seriously, considering I'm a teen myself and I do this, it doesn't necessarily imply that we're tired, ill or damaged in anyway, sleeping is just generally a pretty nice thing to do, some people even fall asleep when their board, when you're sat doing nothing you might just nod off, stop worrying. In fact try it.

Dale Ashley - posted on 02/24/2014

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Or maybe, and this is just a theory, maybe they just like sleeping...Considering I'm a teen and do this myself everyday when I get home from college (I'm British) it's not because we're necessarily tired or somethings wrong, sleep is just nice. Try it.

Ana - posted on 01/29/2014

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hate to say it but is she pregnant? or what does she do at night? sneak out? Clubbing?

Marie - posted on 01/29/2014

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My kid is tired all the time when it's time for final exams. She mostly eats well and plays a sport, so is generally in good health. She just takes school almost too seriously sometimes and reacts to this stress by wanting to sleep.
I think an important thing for kids who have trouble getting to sleep is (besides no late night electronics) is exercise, which can increase overall energy levels. Also, sugar is really bad. So many people, not just kids, get too many of their calories from sugar, and this wears away at one's nutritional health. The popularity of energy drinks among kids is somewhat alarming.

Belinda - posted on 01/27/2014

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What a great thread. My teenage daughters favorite place to be at the moment is in bed. Reading everyones comments has made me realize that hey on a school day she gets up at 6:30am after school and all the social stress of being there as well as dealing with all the gossip and politics that go along with being a teenage girl.She then stays up until 9:30 if not 10pm most night doing homework ontop of swimming twice a week. No wonder she is so happy hanging out in bed. I'm going to stop worrying and let her be.

Katty - posted on 01/23/2014

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AS A TEEN

If you want us to sleep, take away the internet! I mean everything with a screen because when it comes to a teenagers addiction to the internet, we get innovative and desperate. If you take it away we will either get bored and sleep or do the exact opposite. Stay up all night.. outside of the house.

Oh yes, you're angel is probably worse than you were! Seriously with the amount of sex, drugs, and violence fed to us a hourly bases, It's a wonder we even care anymore.

If you completely remove the internet, we wouldn't DIE, just rebel in different ways. To us, the internet connects us to people with similar humor. we can laugh out loud at things moms would cringe if the actually understood.

We need our internet and we need our sleep. It's up to you to workout when we get to do both, because we will do both. Just trust me, we will find a way.

Jade - posted on 01/04/2014

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because she is tired that's what i do when i get home from school just be happy she does her school work let the girl sleep their is nothing wrong with her trust me on weekends i sleep till 4 o'clock in the afternoon and then stay up till about 4 or 5 in the morning and i have good grades.

Taeya - posted on 12/07/2013

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ok lets see im 14 almost 15 in feb and you moms dont understand the process of what we teens go through all day first theres people with me i learned not to trust then there is bullies that are bulling them or others and it just stresses us out like theres days when i dont have a care in the world or im down in the dumps and ill be like you guys are mean why got to be so me to people like no lie people are jerks then theres first period liike me i have pe so it all depends how it goes how people are and stuff like that then all day theres the one teacher that you have that is just in a bad mood everytime you have them and like for me its 5th period but like me i decide to try and get on her good side and i really didnt do my work in her class and i was on her bad side but no im on her good side because i do my work now i have lunch before 5th so that sometimes ticks me off because there sometimes is some people there i really dont like or just irritate me an it just ruins the rest of my day so by the time it get to 6th per thats my last class of the day for most freshmen at my school so when i get to home i eat before i go pick up my little bother from kindergarten and or after i pick him up or not at all the only reason i eat when i get home is because i dont eat breakfasts or lunch (i eat lunch once in awhile)but i dont like breakfast for some reason then i do my homework and go take a nap or something around 3 ill wake up around 7 and then do what i have to do and go to bed at 9 its school school is exhausting so thats why us teens are tired and taking naps.

Charlotte - posted on 11/18/2013

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This is totally normal:
Teens need about 9 1/4 hours of sleep each night to function best (for some, 8 1/2 hours is enough). Most teens do not get enough sleep — one study found that only 15% reported sleeping 8 1/2 hours on school nights.
Teens tend to have irregular sleep patterns across the week — they typically stay up late and sleep in late on the weekends, which can affect their biological clocks and hurt the quality of their sleep.
Many teens suffer from treatable sleep disorders, such as narcolepsy, insomnia, restless legs syndrome or sleep apnea.--taken from the link:
http://www.sleepfoundation.org/article/

Roche - posted on 11/14/2013

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i am 16 i go to school , when i come back home i sleep until my parents comes home from work i wake up i eat and im off to sleep again i got to the doctor they say that it is my tonzols that is taking apart to take away highly energy even when you sleep i went to took it out and now im like active like an 9yearold boy it also put down my school points but after my tonsols is took out im beter in my school work to , i hoped my reply helped

Ellie - posted on 10/17/2013

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From experience, I can tell you that schools nowadays are emotionally and physically tiring. What you can do now is be there for her. Make sure she's on a healthy diet and don't get mad at her for being stroppy.

Izzy - posted on 09/08/2013

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It may be because she's emotionally or mentally exhausted, school can do that to you. And I'm not just talking about hard days in math. She may also be bullied and just want to sleep to get away from the world

Romonia - posted on 09/07/2013

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to be honest I ask my self the same thing I'm 13 and I sleep all day but i still eat and do my chores. Well the only thing with me is I take 1hour to eat but i think its normal

Tammy - posted on 05/22/2013

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Thank you for the response about the Thyroid. I never thought about that since she is just 13. I don't understand why she wants to sleep ALL the time.

Em - posted on 05/11/2013

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Hi there. I ran across this post somewhat randomly and I realize it's an older post but hopefully my response may help some parents. Have your daughter's thyroid checked. I was never really overweight (anorexic for a period even) and would constantly be in trouble with my parents when I was a child into early teen years because I was always sleeping. They thought I might be doing drugs or was being lazy and irresponsible because I was always sleeping. Turns out my thyroid was basically dead. I was diagnosed at 14 and thyroid hormone replacement made all the difference. Now in my thirties, if I begin to feel tired all the time, I know to have my thyroid levels (TSH) checked because I'm likely not getting enough replacement hormones.

Nancy - posted on 05/09/2013

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Wow; all of your posts are helpful. It's so nice to be here with you all. It's great knowing we have this in common; I'm less worried now. Thanks to everybody and a big thanks to the teens who posted comments/suggestions. Bye for now!

Juddy R - posted on 04/30/2013

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maybe she is stressed or very depressed or didnt get much sleep the night before.

Sally - posted on 03/09/2013

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She's growing the most she has since she was a toddler. That takes a lot of energy. Also, inactivity at home doesn't mean she's not running around at school or out with her friends. Teens also like to stay up late and that may be where she's catching up. If it's worrying you, get her checked to make sure there isn't a health reason.

Mason - posted on 03/06/2013

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Hello, I'm a 17 year old male. I've had many problems with sleeping all day and things of the sort. One HUGE thing it might be is sleep apnea. It's more common than you may think and causes a person to be tired all of the time. I'd also check if your child has a lot of anxiety in their life or if they are suffering from depression, as these cause long sleep cycles as well. I suffer from all three and all I can think about is sleep. I sleep after school until 9pm then I wake up, shower, and typically go right back to sleep until I have school the next morning.

Amy - posted on 03/05/2013

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I'm a 16yr old teen who sleeps when I get home from school and I'm typically asleep by 930 at night and don't have any trouble falling asleep or waking at night in just always tired . I even drink a cup of coffee when I wake up from my nap & ton of my friends are the same way so I wouldn't worry about it

Jurnee - posted on 10/29/2012

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My daughter is 14 years old and she sleeps 12 hours a day and longer while she is on her period. I am putting her on birth control in a week when she gets off her period, but she still sleeps 12 hours a day. She doesn't fell like doing her homework and she said that she is just out of energy and just wants to sleep. She is not over weight. She is at the right weight for her age and height but is tired all the time. Does anyone have a clue why this is. I never had this problem

Alison - posted on 09/25/2012

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Im 15 and I pretty much do this everyday! I get home from school and just sleep, sometimes I dont eat supper too. My mom gets upset at me, Im not sure why tho. I have nothing to do when I get home and if I do, I get it done right away. But she just tells me im immature. Im just being a teenager. I get tired at around 5pm and sleep till 11pm and then go to sleep for the night at midnight and wake up at 6am. The cycle repeats and its tiring!!

Christekilohgrddfdfdddfc - posted on 09/20/2012

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Im a teenager and school is torture.When I get home I sleep for 3 hours I wake up eat etc. and im STILL tired I sleep again and im still tired when I wake up I've been moody lately etc. so obviously im just growing if she is eating right and being a LITTLE active then let her sleep but dont let her sleep alot afterschool try to keep her awake because it will ruin her sleeping schedule,She'll sleep in the day and stay up all night

Leyla - posted on 09/13/2012

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i'm a teen myself. i get back from school and all i want to do is sleep. i wouldn't worry, it's because yes she is still growing (as am i) and school is EXAUSTING! specially when you have to wake up at 6am.. dont let her sleep to much though otherwise she wont sleep at night, this could also be the cause of her napping.

Susan - posted on 06/09/2012

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Wow some of your comments have been so helpful..After reading them I am worrying less. She is a Teen .. She does not fall asleep when upright and talking (at least I don't think so )! lol....she is growing, her mind, her body, her hormones,all trying to get along inside and gel nicely together ! Daily grind of High School, waking up super early, stress of just being a teen, Boys ! Heck if I had the life of a teenage girl in TODAYS society,,omg.. I would sleep too !!

Susan - posted on 06/09/2012

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This is the very question as ti why I came back to this site.. To see/ask why does my 17 daughter sleep soo much. Everyday after school she does a 2/3 hr nap !! after naps shes tired again) Weekends if there is nothing going on she sleeps until 12,(wants to take naps in afternoon) that is with me waking her up or she would sleep later !! She has told me she has horrible sleep at night. She can not fall asleep , or when she wakes from a sleep she can not get back to sleep. She recently told me about dream like patterns.. She was doing her own research and thinks she has NARCOLEPSY... We have been to the Dr a few months ago where i said my concern about her sleeping so much. Some teenagers sleep a lot some don't There sleep patterns are all a part of their youth. but with her sleeping sooo much we had to rule out a few things.. All blood work came back normal, no mono,no anemia, no depression... So what can it be? Could it be they are just teens ? I don't know but I am reading up on this Narcolepsy now and taking her back to Dr. Get a second opinion !! I enjoy rerading all of your comments they are very informative !! Thanks

Bishopshane590 - posted on 06/05/2012

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I'm sorry, I don't mean to jump into conversations where I don't belong but as a teen I thought I would try to help you a bit, People (according to several studies) grow the most when they are asleep, and as you know the body does a lot of growing during puberty so sleeping is the bodies way of helping teens grow a bit faster. Also hormones have a big effect on how tired someone is (Especially when your body is just getting used to knew hormones that are produced during puberty). One of the biggest reasons is something most adults don't usually consider. Stress has a large factor in it all, stress is very mentally and physically draining (as many of you know all too well) While a teens body is adjusting to new feelings and ways of thinking, a lot of drama and all around stressful situations happen at schools ( several hundred or even thousand teens in one place for 6 hours isn't the best combination to stay calm). Especially with girls though (not to sound sexist in any way) tend to go through tougher social situations during puberty, which causes a large amount of stress. All the advice I can give is, let teens sleep, make sure they have a good schedule for sleep, and don't let them have coffee (because coffee actually induce stress as recent studies show).

Jennie - posted on 01/26/2012

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my 2 year old is the same way she sleeps for 13 hours at night and has a nap at daycare but is stillvery tired durring the day all she wants to do is laydown somewhere weather its outside or inside it seems like she has no energy

Susan - posted on 01/03/2012

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Even adults get sleepy in the late afternoon; as long as she gets enough exercise and eats right I would let her sleep

JAMYE - posted on 09/16/2011

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my 14 year old sleeps every day after school for at least 2 hours and still is in bed by 10-10:30..I think teenagers go through a growing spurt when they sleep like that. At least I hope so...

TERESA - posted on 10/22/2010

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You might want to get her checked out by a doctor, a lot of times when a teen has no energy it might mean that she might be anemic. She might need special vitamins in order to get her back on track.

Jennifer - posted on 06/06/2010

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Wow...I could have written it about my 17 year old. We have open communication-as open as i think is normal for her age....it seems to be a combination of sneaking cell phone usage at night combined with puberty. When we're thinking ahead (which is not all the time), we try to let her know before going to her room that she'll have to retire her cell at bedtime if she's going to continue frequent napping. Im glad for all the input and ideas cause it gives me new inspiration to help her with healthier sleeping habits.

Julie - posted on 05/07/2010

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Nobody likes to hear this but it's crucial to know...could also be depression..the signs are not alwas visable. You gotta watch these teens now a day's. Also we all don't want to face it but kids do things in school or during school hours that we don't think about like smoking pot, drinking..., it's true, even the little innocent angel girls try it and/or get depressed. Could also be thryoid think or on the heavy side all girls in their late teens should be checked for it. If your asking other's and yourself why she is sleeping all the time..., try and ask her maybe she will tell you, and if not..., watch her carefully. The first sign of depression for any age is "sleeping all the time". Good luck. I hope it's just a growth spurt for her. God bless you for seeking advise. Some Mother's never would.

Jacque - posted on 05/06/2010

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Could she be getting ready to go through a growth spurt? That's sign usually when kids sleep a lot, esp. teens

Kelly - posted on 05/04/2010

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I just read an article about this on a teen health website. A teenager's sleeping pattern drastically changes. The teen finds it extremely difficult to fall asleep at their regular bedtime & instead fall asleep later...meaning they're more tired when they have to wake up at their regular time in the morning. My daughter did a report on it for P.E.. Anyways there is an actual biological explanation. Try getting her to bed earlier than usual, making sure she uses the time to relax and not watch tv or play a video game. If she likes chamomile tea or taking a relaxing bath, that might help as well.

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My 17 yr step-son was sleeping all the time. We found out he was smoking pot. When he quit the pot, he stopped sleeping after school. But as others have posted, there is a variety of reasons including depression.

Julie - posted on 05/03/2010

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Cherril - I am assuming you mean mononucleosis when you say glandular fever and that is an excellent suggestion as it is seen most often in the teen years.
If there is a history of depression in your family you may want to discuss the subject with your daughter because around puberty time is when many new cases of depression are discovered.
Usually is just amounts to not sleeping enough at night and stress with exams etc take a toll also. My teens sleep after school usually a few days a week but their grades are good, they are active with friends in school and outside of school so I do not worry about it.

Joanne - posted on 05/03/2010

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Sorry to say, but have you had her tested for being pregnant? Even if she isn't showing. I was 7 months pregnant with my first, and I didn't even know it. I thought the little moving inside of me was gas! I was young and had no one to talk to. So asking the question would be a good thing. Then you will have opened the door to having good and informative conversations with your child.

Alexandra - posted on 05/03/2010

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Maybe she is staying up late talking on the phone, texting etc. I hate to even bring this up but as parents you have to think of everything...kids are experimenting with drugs a lot now days. I would take her to see her dr and have him check and see what this lack of energy is all about. Don't over look at what is going on, take control now and have her seen by her Dr. Do not discard any possible cause. Good luck and I hope you find out what is happening with your daughter.

Rosemary - posted on 05/02/2010

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My 15 year old takes a nap after school also. She gets up early to get to bus by 6:15. Somtimes she says she can't fall asleep at night and i remind her of her nap. Honestly if i had to get up at 5:30am, i would be sleepy around 3:30 also. I also think it is around the end of the school year with less practices for her to attend and relaxing in the free time.

Jenn - posted on 05/01/2010

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My 14 yr old occasionally takes naps after school, my husband raised concern. I explained to him it is normal, and especially for a girl when she is mentrating or PMS. She does on occasion stay up late texting or reading a book. I keep track of her cycles and we talk often about school, friends, boys. I think back to when I was her age and I too would nap sometimes and there wasn't anything 'wrong' with me .... It's normal. However, if there are other signs that leave you feeling unsettled, a trip to her doctor (gyn) would be reassuring there isn't anything physical or psychological going on that needs treatment.

Tanya - posted on 04/30/2010

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There can be many reasons for that. Not enough sleep at night, Dyslexia, pregnancy, health reasons, drugs, or just that plain teens need more sleep explanation from many doctors. I hope all is well. I hope she is just in need of some extra sleep. I work with many different types of people, families, communities, etc. Tanya

Yvonne - posted on 04/30/2010

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hi their my name is yvonne and i have a case like ur's my daughter is always sleepying after school and i was like what was wrong with my daughter and shorely she was low blood so doctor said that she needs to eat plenty of green veggie's and drink v8 veggie's and also v8 splash juice and maybe it will help her but if it doesn't help than u should seek more help from a doctor

Sophie - posted on 04/29/2010

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i have same problem/qi think they need more responsibilties for after school time ,im thinking and taking ideas

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