worried about son

Sue - posted on 09/04/2009

Ah. Freshman sometimes have a hard time adjusting. Did his friends move from Middle school with him? In our district they get split between 2 high schools depending upon where they live. My son has tried to stay friends with kids from the other high school, but its difficult. Now that he's in 10th grade he's more comfortable at the high school and has found some other kids with the same interests. Here's a suggestion, tell him to invite some gaming buddies over and all you have to do is supply some soda and popcorn and you're in business. Try it.

Donna - posted on 09/04/2009

trust me its a phase they go through!my son is 15. all he ever did was hang in his room,play video games and watch tv. he met this one kid in 8th grade now i cant get him to go to his room!they go bowling to the mall movies. i think its a puberty stage.LOL

Tina - posted on 09/02/2009

My son is the same way. We are trying to get him to join the Hi Q team. He is very bright and we have been telling him that if he wants to get into a good college, he needs some kind of activity listed.

Kristie - posted on 09/01/2009

Maybe he would be interested in something like fishing or camping. My 15 yr old isn't into sports but he likes these outdoor activities.

Annie - posted on 09/01/2009

Just encourage him to go out and do more things, I wish that I could keep my boys in the house more. I have four boys and honestly If I could keep them in reading or something I would be happy.

Sherri - posted on 08/31/2009

Quoting Shook:

Quoting Tamara:

Maybe encourage him to do things like the debate team, drama or something along those lines. I know at my sons school they have a ton of clubs that aren't sports. That way he is interacting and socializing with others with something that may interest him more. Just a thought. Good Luck.

he is in band and enjoys it. He is a big boy but lovable and helpful, I know he is well liked in school. I think he is having trouble because his 2 older brothers just left for college and he is feeling left out because he has no one here to hang out with besides his little brother, and they don't  like the same things. I told them to try each other ideas maybe there might be something they both like doing together.

Jessica - posted on 08/31/2009

Have you tried 4-H or FFA, They both have programs that he might be interested in. They have a Computer and electricity projects in 4-H. It also gives him a chance to meet new people and spend time out of the house at the minimum of once a month depending on the club and projects that he might take. My kids are both in 4-H and they have both made lasting friendships.

Karen - posted on 08/31/2009

This sounds like he is actually the "middle child" and he is finding HIS niche, striking his own independence and "forte". Try to appreciate what he enjoys, even though it is very different from his brothers' interests. He is his own person and it appears he is really wanting you to realize that. Just because his brothers are big into sports, does not mean he is going to be and you have to really work hard at recognizing that, understanding that, and appreciate him for his interests, i.e. what type of games does he like to play(get him to teach you one and play with him!), who are his favorite authors, what type of reading is he really into.....all of these are wonderful topics for in-depth conversation with your teen and it will show him that you respect and appreciate him for who HE is and not one of his brothers' shadows!

Karen Keesee
Virginia

Shelly - posted on 08/31/2009

Shook,

Let him alone...Not all kids are social butterflys, our middle son was into the vidio games and reading but at school he had a small group of kids that now that he has graduated he still has that handful of friends. And by no means is he an out cast because of this. Just let him be him and not something that you think he should be!!! Buy him books that he likes and encourage him to be him. Ask him if he might want to work on the school news paper and encourage him there or maybe a debate club. He's more of a scholor not a jock!!! He will be fine mom we can't lay out thier entire lives for them because they are not us. Let hi be his self he'll be fine

Caroline - posted on 08/30/2009

My son is kind of a loner (like his father). He has plenty of friends at school but he never spends any extracurricular time with them. He would rather be playing video games or on the computer. His school has a theater arts class and a karate class which he takes as electives and I just try to get him further involved with them.

Tamara - posted on 08/30/2009

Ok then its a little different then I was thinking ;), I think depending on the age difference between the two would be a huge thing. And with the two of them with different interests makes it a little more difficult. I think just continuing to encouraging them to find something they both like or maybe tossing some ideas that may be of interest to both of them. Or maybe having friends over more may help. Ill think some more and let you know if anything else pops in my head.

Shook - posted on 08/30/2009

Quoting Tamara:

Maybe encourage him to do things like the debate team, drama or something along those lines. I know at my sons school they have a ton of clubs that aren't sports. That way he is interacting and socializing with others with something that may interest him more. Just a thought. Good Luck.

he is in band and enjoys it. He is a big boy but lovable and helpful, I know he is well liked in school. I think he is having trouble because his 2 older brothers just left for college and he is feeling left out because he has no one here to hang out with besides his little brother, and they don't  like the same things. I told them to try each other ideas maybe there might be something they both like doing together.

Tamara - posted on 08/30/2009

Then maybe that is the key to his success. and try to let the other boys know that is his thing and to not tease him (i know boys like to do that) about sports not being his thing. Maybe as the year goes on the after school activities with the band will pick up. Good Luck

Tina - posted on 08/30/2009

Boys at that age are trying to find thier own identity and place in the world. They can also be very insecure as well. He may feel kind of like an outcast in the family because his other brothers play sports and he doesn't like to. That's ok that he doesn't desire the same activities as the other brothers, but I hope he isn't being made fun of for it. As Tamara said, fnd what his interests are and suggest different activities within or outside of the school. Most importantly, show an interest in what he likes and support him for who he is, not what he may be expected to be.

Tamara - posted on 08/30/2009

Maybe encourage him to do things like the debate team, drama or something along those lines. I know at my sons school they have a ton of clubs that aren't sports. That way he is interacting and socializing with others with something that may interest him more. Just a thought. Good Luck.