Annie - posted on 09/10/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
I knew that my daughter's decision to go into NYC was not what she thought it would be. Isn't it ok for us moms to admit that we can see our childrens limitations? I feel so pressured by others because according to society, you are suppose to tell them the world is there oyster. Yes, I understand it is, but I'm also realistic.
I also feel we put too much pressure on them to go out and solve world peace, hunger and major diseases. Can't we just get real and for once notice that there is strength, security and good ole family togetherness out there? Ya know the kind that define's who you are? where your from? Like a small town. When did it become 'in style' to be seen out on the town drunk, underage, and with a group of other teens? Oh I forgot,,, most of these kids are just gathering 'coolness' for there next facebook post. Just so they can have some kind of a social status. Hummmm... In the end when these kids who have been told all of there lives that they will become rocket scientists, superstars or the next Steven Hawkins --- really don't live up....??? who pays then??? THEY DO??? feeling like failures... Did we really do them justice??
I remember a time when my aunts, uncles and grandparents all stuck together. Parties, dinners celebrations all shared. When did it become chic to become these independent famlies?? Dad, mom and the kids. Relying on paid help to pitch in??
I'm sorry.. My girl somehow got it in her head (prob from peer pressure) to study in a big city then realized it wasn't for her. That's enough decision for me but I guess I'm not strong enough to stand by what I believe, what my heart is telling me,,,, because I find myself sitting here on my sofa reaching out to my fellow mom's. My ex-husband, college councelors and co-workers, therapist, keep drumming it into my head that this feeling she is having is just 'home sickness'? Why do we have to undermine her feelings, can't we just listen?????