Would you put your teenage daughter

Keisha - posted on 11/06/2008 ( 217 moms have responded )

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on birth control as a precaution?



i have thought about this and i dont know.. i know teen pregnancy scares me and what scares me even more is as parents we have no say in what are teens do if they get pregnant.

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Vera - posted on 10/02/2011

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YES!!!! I discovered that my now 23 year old married daughter started having sex when she was 14. We always had a very open relationship and we had an in depth conversation about sex, pregnancy and STDs. No matter how much I was against her having sex, I knew that I could not stop her. I took her to her pediatrician, and let the two of them meet together and yes, she was put on birth control pills. As much as any parent does not want their teens to have sex, you have to face facts, that some teens are just going to do it anyway. I felt I had a choice to turn the other cheek and live in denial or face the truth. I preferred that she was taking birth control and was educated on the risks. Aside from taking birth control I also insisted that any of her sexual partners were a condom as well.

Kim - posted on 06/27/2012

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When did parents lose control to children? I have been reading some of these post about parents putting their young daughter on the pill at very early ages. Some say because of painful cycles and some say as a precaution. What about the long term effects of taking pills. These pills contain hormones that could cause harm down the line.

I know that we are living in different times andthat children are more advanced than in the past but parenting shouldn't have too but it should be modified. My 16 y/o daughter will not be getting on the pill as a precaution. Yes the pill prevents pregnancy but what about STD's. I have been talking to my daughter about sex since she first got her cycle. She has expressed to me her desire to not have sex while in high school. So I believe her? YES! I've been telling her that I will give her enough rope to hang herself. Meaninghe has all the freedom in the world as long as I can trust her. I check her backpack, room and cell phone (in her presence). I know her friends and where she is going and who she will be with. I know the parents of her friends and they know me. I even hang out (on occassion) with my daughter and her friends and they think that is cool.

Is our relationship perfect? Absolutely NOT! Do i expect her to keep some things from me? YES! As a parent we must set boundaries for our children and provide them with expectations. She knows that we only want the best for her and she wants the best for herself. Now once she graduatesnd goes off to college then I might consider putting her on the pill and YES I will send her away with an economy size box of condoms.

Parents we must take back control of our children and stop allowing society to raise them for us.

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I have a 17yo, 15yo, and 12yo daughters. Our dinner table conversations with them, as well as with our 20yo son, have always been extremely frank about sex, stds, and birth control. We are also Christians, who approach our conversations from a Christian perspective. We have told them that we will not assist them in engaging in premarital sexual activity by providing birth control. Birth control is available to any teenager who cares to seek it without me providing it. We've also given them statistics about the failure rates of the various methods of birth control. (11% for condoms if used correctly; I got pregnant on the pill AND after my husband's first vasectomy failed) We told them that God doesn't give us commandments to take away our fun; they're for our protection: teenagers engaging in sexual activity are dealing with levels of intimacy they are often not emotionally equipped to handle, and they are putting themselves at risk for disease and pregnancy. They do, however, know that we would never abandon them in a time of need, and that if they chose to go against our advice we would be there to support them as they faced the consequences of their decisions.

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Personally I don't think it's anyone's place to put a teen on prescribed meds, in case. In case what? People don't have sex by accident. Parents have a responsibility to teach their children what may happen if they have sex and what needs to be done to not only prevent pregnancy, but also stds. Then they need to trust and believe that their child is equipped to do the right thing if/when that time comes, by talkin to their parent or another adult for b/c. Bottom line the child needs to have self respect for their own body, health and well-being.

Buffy - posted on 11/07/2008

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she is 14 now been on the pill since she was 12 best thing we ever did for her. as a mother we don't only worry about our kids having sex there is also the worries of pedophiles.

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April - posted on 08/24/2012

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I a mom of 5, four being daughters ages: 5, 11, 13 & 15. That said, I highly recommend saying yes to her with boundaries. One requirement of mine is that each daughter go on a mother-daughter trip and go through the "Passport2Purity" CDs & guide book together. We always go after elementary school is finished and sometime over the summer before middle school begins. That way we are on the same page & get to talk about sex, boys, friendships & flirting. Some friends of mine have taken their daughters younger & some older. But each girl has looked forward to their special time alone with me & a gift they will receive on our trip. The most recent one was this summer and we went to Chincoteague Island for the Pony Swim. Others plan a trip around a favorite band they want to see in concert. The point is, is that we must carve out uniterrupted time for our kids to talk about important stuff right? I hope my girls make good choices in relationships & I'm making sure to give them the tools they need. The public school cannot do enough & it's my job, not theirs.

Heidi - posted on 08/23/2012

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When my daughter first started getting serious with her boyfriend we had lots of talks (had some previous, but moreso after this point) and I told her if she was leaning towards having sex I would get her the pill and I asked her to please be honest with me and allow enough time for it to be effective, and to use condoms ALWAYS! I also gave her the option of some other people she could turn to if she didn't feel comfortable coming to me for this. But, after they'd been together a while I finally decided that I would just get it for her before an accident happened. They still waited a bit, but I knew they were almost there when she did start on them. However, after almost a year on it she decided ... on her own ... that she didn't like being on the pill. She said she didn't feel protected on it anyway, didn't like how she felt and she went off of it. I can't exactly force her to take it.



Now her and her bf have recently broken up and I'm kind of worried about the future. Her bf was a very responsible guy and very careful so even though I wasn't happy about her being off of BC, I trusted them. Now there are all kinds of guys trying to catch her interest (jerks!) and I worry about her. I'd hope that she won't be having sex again until she's in another long term relationship with someone she loves and can trust, but I just don't know and and only have so much control and influence.



When I think of the number of teens that I personally know that are not on birth control, and usually too afraid to ask a parent, it makes me shudder. Some of them are having unprotected sex too and just hoping for the best. It's not like they don't know any better but they either can't afford condoms or are too afraid to ask a parent and or do not have permission/support of a parent to go on it.



I think the best thing is to have as much open communication as you can and try to be as aware as possible of what your daughter is up to ... and hope everything you have taught her sinks in.

Tawni - posted on 08/23/2012

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As a teenager, (I'm 16, and no, I'm not a mom. I have a strange situation.) I would like to warn you, your daughter can take this precaution the wrong way.

I'm not on the pill, (And yes, I am a virgin.) and I know from my classmates that if they were on the pill, they would have sex literally all the time.

It sounds stupid, but it's kind of true.

The only thing that is keeping a lot of my friends from having sex now is the fear of getting pregnant. Take that fear away with a pill and nothing stops them.

Julie - posted on 08/12/2012

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I don't have any daughters but I am a woman. My teenage menstrual cycle years were the WORST ever. If I had known being on the pill could eliminate most my signs and symptoms, I would have begged my mother for it. I was not sexually active until the age of 18, so I don't think it would have encouraged me to be sexually active any earlier either.
If you want to put her on the pill for birth control only. It's really not as ideal as it may sound. Most teenagers are not responsible enough to take the pill daily at the same time every day. Which is necessary to ensure the pill will be effective.
I think open conversations, education on sex and all the risk that come with being active (including STD, which the pill does not protect from, and can be contracted orally as well.) Including the emotional risk involved that will effect there brain development. Could give her the insight to take her time, and wait. Keep her self esteem and confidence high so that she does not need confirmation from a boy that she "is good enough" Reinforce in her she has the ability to do the right thing, and that she is worth the wait :)

Lauren - posted on 08/05/2012

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My mom started me on the pill at 14, it was first to help with the hormons, pimples and the cramps. But i think it is always a good thing to do becasue you never know...

Gabrielle - posted on 08/03/2012

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i would hope my daughter wouldnt be having sex when she is a teenager but if she did end up having sex i wuld wanna know her and whoever she was having sex with were being safe.

Carol - posted on 07/29/2012

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seems like a big problem for all of us mums however I cant help wondering about the young girl who suffered two strokes because she started taking the pill too early.Carol

TINA - posted on 07/21/2012

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As mom who was promiscuous as a teen, I think it is a great idea. I made good grades, had lots of friends, and was popular. I had issues, dont get me wrong but no one knew what I was doing including my parents. I was lucky I never got pregnant or an STD (uncle died of HIV so always used condoms). The thing is it is always better safe than sorry. You should also take her to a sex education counselor as well as show your child what and how to use a condom. Be open and honest with ther and let her know you wont judge her and that even if you are upset you will always be there for you. Good Luck!

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Kristi - posted on 07/15/2012

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Tanya S.---you are putting a 13 year old on the pill already? Has she even expressed that kind of interest in boys yet? Not just sexual attraction but even just making out? You should research the long term effects of the pill when you start at such a young age. I understand the reasoning behind putting teens on birth control because sometimes they get carried away. I just can't see it at 13.

Tanya - posted on 07/07/2012

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yes but not because i'm condoning it because i would want her to b safe...my daughter is 13 AND SHE BETTA NOT B HAVING SEX! we're not with our kids 2-4-7 so we can't say what they are or aren't doing when we're not around...

Kim - posted on 07/07/2012

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OMG!!! I have 1 bd and 2 sd and none of them are remotely interested in sex. Why? because at a very young age all parents involved talk to and explained the importance of sex and the consequences linked to sex. Like I said before we must stop being afraid of our children and the government telling us what we can or can not do to our children. our girls will be senior, junior, and sophmores in high school this coming school year and we are not worried about them engaging in sex.

My daughter has painful menstrual cycles but I'm not putting her on the pill to deal with the issue. I researched alternative remedies to alleviate the pain plus I purchased her menstrual pain medication otc. I'm not going to create another problem by trying to solve one. Plus I'm not afraid of the government coming down on me for discipling my child. I told my child that if you don't like it here and refuse to go by my rules back everything I didn't buy for you and go find yourself another home to live in. My sons are young but I'm talking to them about the importance of caring for their body and having respect.

Until my children can provide for their needs 100% they have no say so. As long as I'm providing a roof over your head, food in your stomache and clothes on your back. You have no say so. As long as you are relying on me to provide for you financially, you have no say so. My children have freedom to do the things they want to do but if I lose trust in you then you lose your freedoms. So far they love being able to hang out at the mall, go to parties, be on sports them, and just be teens to ruin it with sex and drugs.

My children (5 in total) know my house my rules. As parents we must take back control of our children and stop trying to be their friends. Like I tell my children, I am not your friend I am your parent. You have friends at school and I am not one of them.

Sherri - posted on 07/06/2012

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@Chaya spanking is not against the law in Oregon. I just looked it up. Tje law states as follows:

Physical force is justified if parent/guardian/other person with the care and supervision of a minor uses reasonable force when and to the extent the person reasonably believes necessary to maintain discipline or promote welfare of minor.

http://kidjacked.com/legal/spanking_law....

Chaya - posted on 07/06/2012

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In Oregon, you'd go to prison for spanking your kid, bruises or not. I don't know about here, the only time I spanked her, she'd headbutted me in my injured hip, knocking me off my crutches, a cop saw me fall, and saw me spank her, he asked her if she had hit me, she confirmed, and he told her that she could get arrested for it. He didn't tell her she could get arrested for that if she had done it as a teenager or adult. Not too many serious behaviour problems after that.

Chaya - posted on 07/06/2012

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My daughter went on birth control when she was 14 to keep PMS at bay. I had the talk with her about remaining abstinate until she got married or was able to take care of a child financially.
If your daughter is going to be sexually active, you can't stop it. You can make it hard for her, but when there's a will there's a way, (or a probate attorney.)

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Maybe talk with her and decide together if this is the right choice. You can buy the pills all you want but if she doesn't want to take them, then she won't.

Lisa - posted on 06/29/2012

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Sex education is very important. Whether u put her on the pill or not, unfortunately in this day and age teenage pregnancy is not the worst thing out there.

Michelle - posted on 06/28/2012

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@ Michelle. your comment about the parent having the right to decide what happens to thier teenagers baby is totally FALSR. The court system have already vetted that issue. STOP LYING to people and tring to force your religous drama on us. It is NOT our choice what our teen does if she becomes pregnant. It is HER CHOICE so says every court in the US as well as the SUPREME court. PROCHOICE!!!!! dont like my reply tough cookies.



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As a mom of teen daughters, YES put her on the pill if she wants it. PLEASE have an indept and detailed discussion with her, yourself and her gyn about sexuality. No holes barred. Todays world is NO place for "dont do this" or keeping things from teens. Either we meet this head on and give some slack or we have a whole new set of problems.

Elizabeth - posted on 06/28/2012

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Says who?! That is my child! I don't care what government thinks there gonna tell me. I have every say so and so do you! The government only has as much control as you let them have. And I wouldn't put my child on the pill unless it was medically necessary.

Sandra - posted on 06/26/2012

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I put my 15 year old daughter on birth control, but we got the sticks in her arm, I don't
want to worry about her forgetting a pill, since I did, I have found out she is sexually active, and now shes not afraid to tell me - since my biggest concern is that she will follow in my footsteps and have a baby in high school!

Angel - posted on 06/25/2012

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I have a now 17 1/2 yr old daughter who had been on the pill but only for having her period every 9 days. The dr expressed to her this wasn't giving her permission to go out and have sex but to try and regulate her periods. She was only on then for 6 months and now her periods are regular. Me and my girls have an agreement and have talked about it many times as to keep it fresh in their heads that they will not have their first child until they are the age I was when I had them. Which is almost 24 for my oldest. which will get her through college and almost 27 for my second and they are both good with that plan. Hope it helps. Just let your daughter know that if you put her on the pill that you still don't want her to have sex but it will help with her complexion.

Danielle - posted on 06/24/2012

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If she is having sex yes. But if you know she's not or your not sure I would wait until you know for sure that she is. Just because if she's not having sex and you put her on the pill she might think she's supposed to be having sex. Just talk to her a lot about sex, love, and protecting herself.

Stephanie - posted on 06/20/2012

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I wouldn't do it unless you she has serious problems with her cycle like heavy bleeding or pain.
I realize the Pill has been around a long time but I would still be concerned about the long term medical effects on hormones and such. You are messing with the bodies natural rhythm and at 13 the cycle isn't really established well. I'm not a medical doctor, just a concerned person. I would certainly discuss it with a doctor first.
Also, there is a risk that she could see taking the Pill as a license to have sex because she can't get pregnant. It doesn't stop STDs.

Ginger - posted on 06/15/2012

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I honestly would not even consider it. I am going to handle it the way my parents did which was always keeping communication open, explaining the consequences of being sexually active, encouraging my sister and I to say no and show the boys we respected ourselves by saying no. My dad said, boys will make up any excuse under the sun to get into your pants, and you have to keep in mind that the minute they get what they want, they will be gone and your reputation will be forever tarnished. Believe it or not, every time I got close to being in that situation, I would remember everything my parents taught me, and I never went beyond kissing. I was 19 when I lost my virginity to my x-husband because I was ready and I had the good sense to go to a GYN and get on the pill before I got active. I think putting young girls on the pill gives them a false sense of security and in a way you are giving them permission to be active.

Sasha - posted on 06/13/2012

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Michelle - you can't trust them when they lie and sneak around. These teenagers ruin any trust component they have with their parents when they choose to lie and deceive us. I am going through this with my 16 year old daughter right now. We have been going to family counseling for almost a year now and it does help but we still have to go home and deal with the daily stress of dealing with a defiant teenager. It is tough. I hear you, I really do.

In so far as birth control for teens......I think anything parents can do to help prevent their teen from making a huge mistake is our responsibility as parents. If teens choose to ignore it then it is their responsibility to deal with the consequences.

Michelle - posted on 06/06/2012

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Mariah, if your child has lied to you so many times and you caught them in the lie; then how are you to believe them any more?

My son, 14 years old, has lied to us so many times that now when he calls Wolf we dont believe him any more. He is adhd with a high IQ and they say adhd kids lie some have IQ like a genius and he does but he does not know the truth if it slaped him. He will tell you that he is going somewhere will be back at a certian time. You go to that place he is not there, you search all the places you think he will be and when he comes home he says he was at a certian place at a certian time and you know you were there at that place at that time and he was not there. We have sneeked up on him and caught him comming out of the woods with a girl, then we ask him where he was and he lies. When we tell him we were there he cusses us and says we are liers he was not there and to go to hell.

So how are you to believe or trust someone that is sneeky and lies to you?

Mariah - posted on 06/06/2012

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Being that my daughter is barely 3 I would like to think that when the time comes to discuss sex and contraception I could approach it in a non-confrontational way, letting her know that she can talk to me about anything and I won't get angry or judge her. I would make sure to have the sex talk around 8-9 years old [or whenever she brings it up] and answer any questions she may have as honestly and straight forward as possible. I would talk to my daughter when she has her first period about what that means and encourage her to get on the pill when she decides she is ready to be sexually active because condoms can and often do fail.

Michelle - posted on 06/06/2012

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you are right some condoms can leak or break I used many of them with an old boyfriend who I was suppose to marry and one did leak and I got pregnant but it was after we dated a year, so you can say we used over 1,000 or more before I got to that 1 that leaked. You have to give her the choice which one to use and the side effects it can cause using birth contol pills.

But I do agree with you that waiting until you are married. If I had to do my life over again I would have waited until I got married and met the right man instead of just jumping into a marriage for all the wrong reasons.

Tabitha - posted on 06/06/2012

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"If your daughter gets pregnant you have the right to decide what to do with that baby because she is a child."

I'm not sure where you're located Michelle, but in the US, the mother of the pregnant teen doesn't have control of what happens to the baby. She cannot legally force her daughter to have an abortion, give the baby up for adoption or keep it. It's her body, her baby and she gets to make that choice. Now, most pregnant teens make these decisions based on the support or lack of support they get from their families and the families of the baby's father. So they can convince her to do what they want, but they cannot force her. In some states, depending on the age of the teenager, they consider them legal adults when they give birth.

Michelle - posted on 06/06/2012

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yes we do have a say so when they get pregnant. They are still a child and we rule their life until they are 18, ask any police officer. You are in concontrol of their life, if they get in trouble stealing, drugs, fights, you are responsible of them until they are 18. You are allow to spank them as long as you do not break a bone or leave bruise's. I asked because we have problems with my 14 year old son who is hanging out with 3 girls, one tought my son to smoke the other two took in the woods, creek diffrent times and he had sex with them. He did not come home when he was suppose to, 1-2 hours past his curfew. He is now smart mouthing, cussing us, using real nasty words to us like the F word and calling his dad a Di_ _ and telling me to suck his D. So the police officer told me to slap him in the mouth, he is a child and not in control of his life until he is 18. Told his dad to sit on him and take a belt to his butt, just dont leave a bruise. If he pushes you or hits you shove back and if he gets out of hand tie him up until he calms down, the police said we could call them if we want but if we do he will go to jail.

If your daughter gets pregnant you have the right to decide what to do with that baby because she is a child. I am a Baptist Christian and as a Christian we do not believe in abortion because that is a baby, living child inside even at 1-2 weeks they still feel, if you feel that your child is to young to raise the child there are people out their that cannot have children that want children so bad. You can go on a Christian Adoption site and pick your family out, interview them too. They will pay for all medical bill as well. If you choose to keep the baby then make the father if he is a good guy pay, if not then dont tell him and have her raise the baby on her on, food stamps and medicade, make her hold a part time job and go to school too. I raised 2 children, part time job and did chores around the house plus went to school too. I was 23 and 25 going to college.

Tabitha - posted on 06/06/2012

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Michelle, I suspect there were other underlying issues that caused your mother and best friend to not be able to have children. I was on birth control for 5 years before having any children, then off and on in between my children and I gave birth to 3 of my 5 kids.

Michelle - posted on 06/06/2012

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putting your daughter on the pill for a long time causes her to not have children in the future and can cause her to have cancer in in the future too. But most of all she will not have children. I recomend a condom.

My mother was on the pill for 3 years and got off and could no longer have kids, my best friend was on the pill for 7 years and could not have children either. It also caused her to have a historectomy due to some severe pain she had.

Kristi - posted on 06/01/2012

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@ Angel- I'm going to apologize up front because this may sound harsh and I know we are here to support one another, which I have always done. But I have got to say I am fed up of hearing irresponsible teenagers, now young adults talking about how much they sacrificed and how much they have had to do for their baby (ies) like you deserve a medal. You had your fun & your freedom, you didn't have to give it up for your children, you OWE that to them. Our children learn from our example. We all give up things so our kids can hopefully have something better. But we do it because we are moms not martyrs. I hope your children don't know "how much you HAD to give up BECAUSE of them." I know how shitty my daughter feels because her father did the same thing to her, meaning acted like she was a burden and he was doing her a favor by not leaving to do drugs EVERY weekend. I AM, IN NO WAY CLAIMING TO BE THIS ALL TIME GREAT MOM, not even for a second. I'm just saying buck up sister, you don't get gold stars just for meeting the basic job requirements. Moms are supposed to put their kids first. It's our responsibility to them. You, we all, made the choice (good or bad) to potentially take on that privilege and responsibility every time we consented to have sex. So next time you feel the need to glorify yourself for doing what you should be doing anyways, why don't you stop and think about who really deserves the extra attention....because I know whether there is 1 or there are 7 they can always use some more mom time.

Now, with ALL that being said, I must give you a truck ton of credit and applause for having the courage to keep them and not abort them. It's not for me to say if getting pregnant 7 times was a good choice(s) or bad but giving birth 7 times....MOST EXCELLENT!

Heidi - posted on 05/31/2012

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Yes i would because anyone can get carried away and it only takes a few minutes. I was able to focus on the fact that her periods were very heavy and birth control helps. She knows I think junior high or high school is not the time for sex and I've made sure our house is the house her friends want to hang out in, and given her a spiritual foundation... but I also think this new cyber generation and hyper sexual culture is against our wishes for kids to wait till marriage. We need to help our daughter's avoid pregnancy in every avenue available to us just in case life doesn't happen as planned.

Pee - posted on 05/28/2012

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yes! why not...my daughter went on it at 14 becuase her periods and acne were bad.. i was on it at 14 also....atleast you dont have to worry about her getting pregnant ( not that i would allow her to have sex yet ) im just saying

Mary - posted on 03/23/2012

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Wow Julie that is so sad! That must be really hard to deal with, I would lose it if I didn't know where my grandbaby is!

I appreciate you sharing your story, and I wish her luck in finding her grandbaby.

God Bless,

Mary

Julie - posted on 03/23/2012

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After watching a sister have a nervous breakdown after her daughter walked out the door with a grandbaby that she helped her birth and raise, I would say I would want my daughter on birth control. We, as grandparents, have very few rights and my niece was allowed as a drug addict to take that baby away from my sister's stable home to go with her new boyfriend to a completely different state. She and the boyfriend broke up and she left the baby with him. He lost custody and now we don't know where the baby is now except in monitored state custody. No matter who my sister called, it was to no avail. Her daughter will not pursue it and the state will not work easily based on the fact that she is not caught up on child support. I don't have all the facts, I just know the condition and the uncontrollable crying I heard from my sister that tore my heart in two.

Kelsey - posted on 03/22/2012

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I would! No matter how much you talk to your children about save sex or absence.. they will go ahead with what they please. Kids now a days are having sex in middle school, it's awful.

Mary - posted on 03/19/2012

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I totally agree Angel! I am a single mom and all I ask of my children is to stay in school, graduate and then hopefully college then you can think about getting pregnant! I too would NEVER abandon my child because of a pregnancy, I would help raise the child while mine finishes school and gets a good job etc... However if I can prevent it I will. My daughter claims she is not ready for sex but I found out they are "Talking" about it and that is why I'm thinking of bringing her to an OBGYN to discuss our options of Birth Control. We do talk openly about most things but sex is one conversation she doesn't like to discuss with me and that is why I am afraid she's thinking of doing it. For now I just keep her and her boyfriend with me at all times, they are not allowed to be alone! So far so good =)



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Mary - posted on 03/19/2012

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I totally agree Angel! I am a single mom and all I ask of my children is to stay in school, graduate and then hopefully college then you can think about getting pregnant! I too would NEVER abandon my child because of a pregnancy, I would help raise the child while mine finishes school and gets a good job etc... However if I can prevent it I will. My daughter claims she is not ready for sex but I found out they are "Talking" about it and that is why I'm thinking of bringing her to an OBGYN to discuss our options of Birth Control. We do talk openly about most things but sex is one conversation she doesn't like to discuss with me and that is why I am afraid she's thinking of doing it. For now I just keep her and her boyfriend with me at all times, they are not allowed to be alone! So far so good =)



Mary

Angel - posted on 03/19/2012

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i have thought about this alot also. But i have and always talk with my daughter about anything and everything that is bothering her. when she asks about her friends planning on having sexually intercourse at the age of 14 years old, my daughter says too scared too. so i said just cause they plan on having sexally intimacy at that age does not mean you have too just to fit in with the cool kids. but if and when you are ready to i will like you to think about the consequences that may happen. i am not a very strict mother but i would like my daughter not to get pregnant or have some terrible std. i just told her all i ask for all my children is to finish their education which at least grade 12 before thinking or getting pregnant. the reason why is because i myself did get pregnant at the age of 16 years and kept my baby and just didn't finish my schooling because it was just too hard. but now i am working on my education with 7 children and looking for a job as well. i do not want my children to struggle while trying to work on their future career or job and trying ot raise their baby, its hard juggling all the reponsibilities. and besides they are way too young still at that age they are still children having fun and enjoying their freedom.i never had my fun or freedom and i miss that but i like and love my 7 children also so i gave-up all that for the well-being of my children. this is my point of view so if my daughter is going to have sex i will ask and push the use of birth control until education is finish but if an accident does happen i will be there for her no matter what just as long her education is educated.

Catalina - posted on 03/18/2012

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i can speak for our whole family and we had virgin till mariage the oldest is 30 n the youngest is 14...n our 14 year olod doesn;t even want that she refuse to watch teen mom because she thinks they are stupid. i really believe when you show them good values they will live them. as for them thinking they know it all i believe that is a poor example of parenting if you instruct and give them knowledge snd teach them to be humble they learn that way..

Andree - posted on 03/18/2012

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no matter what we say to our teens they are going to do what they want to do. They think they know it all and like to show that they do no matter how wrong they are. As they get closer to the later teens they are getting closer to being legal adults and we have to pray that they think twice about what they are doing. Teen pregnancy is a scarey thing. The TV glorifies it with those silly Teen Mom shows. You have to just pray that what you have taught your children sticks with them when they are out there making life decisions. I have 3 girls. I preach "If you are going to make decisions that could put you in the role of an adult for life then you better be ready, because you have a lot to lose if you have to stop now and raise a child."

Also the one poster who says 11 is a good age needs to get real. That is just plain crazy.

Catalina - posted on 03/18/2012

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you know your child...and how she would react better than any of us...open the communication line is great talk to her about sex, why would she want to have sex, with who and what would you do if you caught hepatitis c or aids or herpes things that arent curable, also what would you do with a baby. maybe sit with her aqnd watch teen mom the only reason why they can afford a home is because of the show. and do they look happy. ask her what she wants for her life college a degree beauty school all her options and what an amazing life she could have with out the complications of sex. not only that but also to find a man when she old enough to love and get married and share that special moment with him.

Kim - posted on 03/17/2012

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I believe open communication is the key. I have been talking to my daughter about sex and consequences since 12 when she got her first period. I would not put her on the pill because I think (my opinion) that this would encourage her to want to have sex. I am not judging those parents who put their young daughters on the pill its just that I don't want my daughter on the pill. Open the lines of communication and maybe just maybe you would not have to put your daughter on the pill

Tabitha - posted on 03/17/2012

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There are risks and side effects involved in every medication you take. Most birth control methods (pills, shot, implant) carry the same types of risks.

Tabitha - posted on 03/17/2012

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Putting your daughter on birth control does not "give permission" or "open the door for things to happen". The door is already open! Things are not the way they use to be. When I've been to sporting events or school events, I am scared for my sons! It seems like the tides have change the girls are the aggressors when it comes to sex. They're wearing too much make-up, showing all kinds of cleavage & butt-cracks are hanging out the top of their pants. Every year, there are kids starting their freshman year as parents. The girls I've seen, think it's cool!! I'm teaching my boys to wait until they're married but I'm not clueless, I know how hard that is today. So I'm also teaching them about safe sex! Don't feel like you're encouraging sexual behavior by putting your daughter on BC. It's preparation and prevention. Do you feel that preparation and stocking up on tornado supplies summons a tornado? No. But you'll be ready if it comes along. Also, I would skip the pill and get the shot which doesn't have to be remembered every day. They're teenagers, they're lucky to remember to tie their shoes half the time. And this eliminates the "Mom, you're gonna be a granny at the age of 30, because I forgot to take my pill" statement.

Marcy - posted on 03/16/2012

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That is great.... I was a virgin until I was 18 and it was my highschool crush, and then I married my husband...Your right kids need to know what it is all about (not that 18 is that magical age but) I do believe older is better....

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