Would you put your teenage daughter

Keisha - posted on 11/06/2008 ( 217 moms have responded )

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on birth control as a precaution?



i have thought about this and i dont know.. i know teen pregnancy scares me and what scares me even more is as parents we have no say in what are teens do if they get pregnant.

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Marcy - posted on 03/16/2012

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That is great.... I was a virgin until I was 18 and it was my highschool crush, and then I married my husband...Your right kids need to know what it is all about (not that 18 is that magical age but) I do believe older is better....

Marcy - posted on 03/16/2012

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I know where you are coming from, but I have a 25 yr old that was a nightmare from 8th grade until about the middle of her Freshman year. . Then she better but still mean and not so nice. My son was a sooo easy, he got into trouble don't get me wrong. But my oldest was and still a very angry person, so she is very hard to deal with on many occasions. I love her but I alot of the time I don't like her..But the point to my message is I do also have a 14 yr old and she is a breath of fresh air she is so sweet, honest, open, funny and just a good kid, and what I think I did differant was I was a very open mom with my kids put it this way my oldest two have been out on their own since they were 18 and 21 I raised my girls to go out there and do what ever you want and make on your own before you bring someone else into the picture. My oldest daughter was very very secretive and I really did not know what she was and was no doing and I was one of those moms that was there all the time, and was open and not a friend kind of mom they knew it was mom but that you can come to me no matter what. So my advice is to just be open with her talk to her all the time, while you are cooking dinner ask her about her day and tell her about your days in highschool and how scary you were when all this is going on with girls getting pregnant..I am sorry if I rambled but I think my kids turned out pretty darn GREAT and I was a single mom for probably for 15 years.

Mary - posted on 03/16/2012

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Julie I am the same way with my kids, they do not have any freedom, if they aren't with me they are at school, their friends/boyfriend can come over on my time so I know what is going on at ALL times! I hear stories about other kids in her class that have too much freedom and no parental guidance, that drink and do drugs and have had a pregnancy scare already and it just breaks my heart. I want better for my kids, and because I have always been this way with them they have never asked for it to be different, they also see how "BAD" some of these kids have it so that might help a bit. They can have their freedom when they go to college! =)

Julie - posted on 03/16/2012

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I think a thorough physical is in order to determine if your daughter has the same physical issues as your sisters. Also, is this an issue with just the sisters, or the husband's anatomies, also?

There should be something the doctors can do to avoid causing permanent sterilization to your daughter are my thoughts. Good Luck, I am in the same boat as far as wondering when to start my daughter on the pill or shot. For now, I do not allow her in any situation outside of school where she is not in my sight. She can go to the movies but I must see her go in there and then I go and see another movie in the same place. Same with a date, she can meet someone in a coffee shop, but I must be in there at another table somewhere. I'm a pest, huh?



Julie

Julie - posted on 03/16/2012

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Keisha,



I think you replied beautifully to Michelle. It is a very difficult situation when your child's life and welfare becomes second - because she is pregnant with a child who must come first. Then we burden the child with 1/the guilt (possibly) of an abortion (which can do lifelong damage - physically and emotionally) or 2/the pain of putting the child up for adoption (there's no guarantee this will give the child a better chance), or 3/the wonderful, yet agonizing work of raising the child herself. After watching a beautiful pastor and his wife with their daughter who got pregnant at 17 and quickly married, I know that sometimes kids just won't talk, it doesn't matter how good of a parent you are.



Julie

Mary - posted on 03/15/2012

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I am going through this with my 14yr old daughter who has been with her first boyfriend for 6 months now. I sat her down and had "The Talk" with her and then I had another talk with them together, which went well, but on several different occasions my Mom has told me "Never believe a teenager because they will tell you what YOU want to hear, not the truth!" Unfortunately this is true!

I want to believe she will come to me when she thinks she's ready to have sex but what if she doesn't?!? I wonder too if I should put her on Birth Control but at the same time I worry that the birth control will cause Fertility problems later in life. That is what happened to my 2 older sisters, I am the youngest and am the only one that can have kids, I have watched my one sis and her husband try everything to conceive, but never will, and my other sis have miscarriages, I do not wish that on anyone especially my own daughter. This is a tough time, and it sucks, any feedback is appreciated =)

Elizabeth - posted on 01/25/2012

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my daughter is 14 and came to me and said she curious about sex shes a virgin do I get on birthcontrol

Julianne - posted on 10/23/2011

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I had my daughter when I was 18 we had the sex talk when she started her cycle officially at 13. She is 16 now and I have not put her on BC. I felt that it opens the door for "things to happen". Kids are impressionable by their peers. We don't know what they are doing when we aren't around. The thing that helps me is she and I have that type of relationship, this is not me being nieve, or putting her on a pedastel. I am honest about what I went through and the many scenarios of how sex, pregnancy, and STD's can occur. not just what health classes teach you. I have taken my daughter to the Dr. in the efforts to have her "checked", and she was willing to go through with the ordeal to prove she wasn't having sex. She has told her friends that she is abstinent. She is "not 16 and pregnant". Realistically I will consider it when she turns 18 and legally responsible for herself. As of right now she has consented for me to be a part of her medical health lifestyle check ups, so I do have a say so and rights to her privacy.

Christina - posted on 10/21/2011

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Amen Sharri!! Let's Neuter these babies temporarly!! I wish there was birth control for boys...my oldest would be on it!! Not to cadone sex by any means...but they are going to do it anyway & I say its our responsibilties as parents to make sure we help them. Alot of kids arent opposed to BC they just dont know how or want to ask about it. I make my son talk about issues, I dont leave that up to him to discuss with me...Its my job to stay on top of his life right now. I can tell you he appreciates it too...it helps him to open up more because Im iniciating the convorsation instead of him coming to me with a scary topic like sex, drugs and alcohol! :)

Sherri - posted on 10/21/2011

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Yup and not the pill either. I would be getting her the implant that goes into her arm and lasts several years.

Christina - posted on 10/21/2011

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YES!!!! If your thinking it then im sure she is too. Hopefully you are openly talking to her about this & lovingly are approaching this with her as a positive next step in her life. She is going through so many changes & for you to support her with positive answers & feedback & honesty she should open up to you. Explain it is not an open invitation to sex...its is a responsible step in a womans life to maintain a healthy lifestyle "as a woman" its our bodies & our responsibility to take care of it, not these lil boys that are not going to be there if they knock us up anyway! . You should also be very graffic about STD's & childbirth. The scariest thing I ever watched when I was pregnate was that dang childbith video!! I was thinking -- this is GREAT birth control :) seek out your library & sit down with her with STD pamphlets from the health department & that video & I think youll be just fine!! :)

Jelilat Adedoja - posted on 10/20/2011

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its a good idea to put her on birth control pills...u might also wanna buy her condoms if she is sexually active.good luck....

Indya - posted on 10/18/2011

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I think that is appropriate if your daughter is practicing risky behaviors (promiscuous) but if it is only because of precaution then it might lead her to believe you don't trust her. It's tricky with teens (as you already know) especially girls. You know your daughter. You also know how your relationship is with her. I would say if she is beginning to ask alot of questions about sex or suggesting that her peer group is sexually active, then this might be something to consider, but if she is not exhibiting these risky behaviors, then you should just make sure to have frequent open conversations with her about sex and what her stance is on the subject.

Helen - posted on 10/16/2011

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I have recently had a talk to my 15yr old son about this very topic. I told him to NEVER EVER have sex without a condom. I told him how the pill can be inaffective if the girl gets sick, on antibiotics, takes it irregulary etc. But most importantly I told him the risk os STI's. My fear is that teens today really dont understand HIV/AIDS. I keep drumming it in all 3 kids..."If its not on its not on". We have also told them about respect and dont kiss and tell, but we will have a condom drawer for them all. I told them that having unprotected sex could kill them. STI's are talked about in school but teens are not getting the message that HIV/Aids is still out there. My daughter is 13 and not remotely interested in boys (thank goodness), so Im not sure if I would suggest it to her, but being on the Pill and using condoms would be a lot safer.but again we drum into her not to have unprotected sex. It takes only one slip to either fall pregnant or get an STI. I also make my daughter watch Teen Mum so she can see the difficult situations such as not finishing education, working and future relationship ending because of the child.

Carol - posted on 10/07/2011

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THING ABOUT ONLY DOING IT IF SHE IS SEXUALLY ACTIVE IS THEY WON'T ALWAYS TELL YOU UNFORTUNATELY SO I HAVE TO BELIEVE IN BETTER SAFE THAN SORRY AS MOST TEEN MOMS DON'T TAKE CARE OF THEIR BABIES IT USUALLY ENDS UP BEING GRANDMA THAT RAISES THE CHILD AND MY HEALTH JUST ISN'T UP TO RAISING ANOTHER BABY (SAD) :-(

Kelly - posted on 10/05/2011

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Andf no we don't have a say if they do get pregnant, all we can do is be there for them to support them whatever decision they make

Kelly - posted on 10/05/2011

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If I found out my teenage daughter was having sex then hell yes I'd make sure she was on birth control. Especially if she wanted to be. I would make sure she knew it wasn't 100%, but still... When my mum found out I was having sex at 15, I was on the pill a week later.And I'm glad for it. Glad We had an open relationship where I could t alk to her about those things, and glad that she thought about those things. Eight or nine of the girls I went to school with ended up pregnant, asome of them as young as 14 when they had their babies. Why not do everything you can to prevent your child going through that time while they're still growing up themselves?

Darcey - posted on 10/03/2011

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I have a 16 & 17 year old my 16 year old is on birth control for not only hygiene but hormonal reasons. Given her behavioral issues and disorders she does not have the level of good hygiene to keep herself clean during her periods which were occuring practically every 2 weeks since her hormones are up and down from her medication. Now that she is on BC things are much better for her and her periods are a lot lighter and easier to manage. However, my 17 year old has asked me to allow her to go on BC since she has been with her boyfriend for 2 years now. I have talked with her about this explaining that if he truely cares for her he will wait until they are both mature enough to handle sex and not rush into something they can't possibly be responsible for. So far they have been responsible and she is putting sex on hold.

Jennifer - posted on 10/02/2011

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not as a precaution, but if she came to me and asked or told me that she was sexually active.

I took my daughter to get bc pills at 16 when she confided in me that she was sexually active, had been using condoms but wanted more protection.I was happy that she and I had a relationship open enough to discuss hard topics. I was happy that she was behaving responsibly and willing to protect herself . I also reminded her that the pill does not protect against STDs

I had always encouraged her not to engage in sexual activity outside of a committed monogamous relationship because of the physical and emotional risks involved. but ultimately I had to separate my own feelings,fears,and concerns about her sexual activity and allow her to control her own body. I continued to talk to her about the physical and emotional consequences of sex and the fact that I thought it was something best saved for later in her life. Because their understanding of an exclusive monogamous and committed relationship changes radically as they move from high school age through college age!

Vera - posted on 10/02/2011

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YES!!!! I discovered that my now 23 year old married daughter started having sex when she was 14. We always had a very open relationship and we had an in depth conversation about sex, pregnancy and STDs. No matter how much I was against her having sex, I knew that I could not stop her. I took her to her pediatrician, and let the two of them meet together and yes, she was put on birth control pills. As much as any parent does not want their teens to have sex, you have to face facts, that some teens are just going to do it anyway. I felt I had a choice to turn the other cheek and live in denial or face the truth. I preferred that she was taking birth control and was educated on the risks. Aside from taking birth control I also insisted that any of her sexual partners were a condom as well.

Jennifer - posted on 10/02/2011

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Absolutely not. I have had extensive conversations with my now 14 year old daughter about sex and the consequences of having sex at a young age. I have also told her that though I cannot stop her from having sex when she ultimately decides to have it, that I expect her to be resposible about it, which means coming to me and going to get birth control. I did the same with my parents - they respected me and though they were upset that sex was something I was thinking of having, my mother took me to get birth control when I asked her to. I see no reason for birth control "as a precaution". Every parent of a daughter has to make this decision at some point in time, but until that time comes, I will continue to speak with my daughter about the consequences and foster an open and honest relationship with her. Hopefully I'll have done a good enough job that when the time comes, she will come to me.

Johnetta - posted on 10/02/2011

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You need to discuss the matter of birth control with your daughter, and if your daughter feels that she is ready to take that step,then be all means get her some birth control.

Carol - posted on 09/26/2011

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I DID PUT MY TEEN DAUGHTER ON BC BUT SHE REFUSES TO TAKE IT SAYING IT MADE HER FAT (EATING JUNK IS WHAT MADE HER FAT AGAIN NOT THE BC BUT I CAN'T TALK TO HER) I'M JUST MOM AND DON'T KNOW SQUAT IN HER EYES MAKES ME SO SAD!

LovingMom - posted on 09/25/2011

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To all moms of girls / ladies!

PLEASE DO NOT pump your girls full of hormones, it's the WORST thing you can do to them and you'll cause more harm than good!

If you do feel it neccessary to protect them from becoming pregnant (REGARDLESS of HOW it'll /could happen), please use a NATURAL prevention method.

By doing a little bit of research, you'll discover numerous internet sites that can give you peace of mind!

And in the process, you just might switch to NATURAL prevention as well!

Best wishes to all!

Bobbie - posted on 09/22/2011

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I am planning on doing just that thing as soon as she starts her period, she is 11 now and will be 12 in November and yes as a precation. I was violently raped when I was 16 by a stranger and left in very bad condition, it was hard enough to deal with all of that and the hell my mother put me through but if I would have had to deal with a pregnancy from that well I am not tooo sure at 16 I could have dealt with any more. Also my mom would not let me get counseling for the rape, she acted like it never happened. If you know anyone who has been raped please try to get them help espcially the young girls.

Cathleen - posted on 08/05/2011

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yes, not only as a reprecaution, but to help with periods [if nothing else, to regulate]

Erica - posted on 08/03/2011

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That is true but at the same time we as parents have to do what we feel is right.and what i mean by that i had a daughter that suprised me and i felt sick to my stomach because , i never would have imagined that me as a single mom would have to go through it , but we took care of the situation immediately and i put her on the depo and , and we are working through this even though it is a very rough right now she is going through that teenage stage which is like going on a roller coster ride.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/02/2011

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no i havent thought about that but now my daughter is dating now and the boys she knows are very porn mouth i guess not sure how to put it and im getting kinda nervous but i dnt want her to think we dont trust her but shes only 13 and i think thats alil to young for birth control but seems like lots of grls her age are on birthcontrol

Susan - posted on 08/02/2011

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After actually reading my 13 year olds FB conversations that are increasingly sexually explicit, her father and I have decided to get her on birth control. It is not something we wanted to even think about for at least 3 more years but in todays culture kids are growing up even faster than previous generations. We do not want to lock her up or restrict her from interacting in social situations but we don't want a pregnant teenager either (no offense to those teen mom's who are taking responsibility for themselves and their kids). It isn't always easy for teens to make the right decision when they are being pressured to conform and there's definitely a chance that sex could be forced on her.

Sarah - posted on 08/01/2011

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Many women do not realize how unhealthy the birth control pill really is, especially for a teenage girl. It completely disrupts their natural flow of hormones. I don't understand why so many women think that the pill is the best option for birth control. It only prevents pregnancy. Your daughter could still get a range of sexually transmitted diseases from having unprotected sex. The best method to prevent pregnancy is not abstinence because time and again studies show that abstinence education fails. However, there is a compromise between the two that people often do not like to talk about: masturbation. As mothers we need to encourage our teenage girls to take care of themselves sexually. If they do, they won't feel the need to just sleep with the first guy who asks when they're 14. Instead, the will respect their bodies and wait until they're older to have sex. Most importantly, they won't contract STDs or become another teen mom. Trust me; it works. I engaged in masturbation from the age of about 6 until I lost my virginity (to another virgin) at 19. (He was 23.) We are still together after 6 years and have a 2.5 year old daughter. Ladies, your daughters don't have to be asexual or afraid of sex. They can love sex while being safe and loving themselves.

Sarah - posted on 08/01/2011

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Many women do not realize how unhealthy the birth control pill really is, especially for a teenage girl. It completely disrupts their natural flow of hormones. I don't understand why so many women think that the pill is the best option for birth control. It only prevents pregnancy. Your daughter could still get a range of sexually transmitted diseases from having unprotected sex. The best method to prevent pregnancy is not abstinence because time and again studies show that abstinence education fails. However, there is a compromise between the two that people often do not like to talk about: masturbation. As mothers we need to encourage our teenage girls to take care of themselves sexually. If they do, they won't feel the need to just sleep with the first guy who asks when they're 14. Instead, the will respect their bodies and wait until they're older to have sex. Most importantly, they won't contract STDs or become another teen mom. Trust me; it works. I engaged in masturbation from the age of about 6 until I lost my virginity (to another virgin) at 19. (He was 23.) We are still together after 6 years and have a 2.5 year old daughter. Ladies, your daughters don't have to be asexual or afraid of sex. They can love sex while being safe and loving themselves.

Lydia - posted on 05/18/2011

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I can see by reading some of the post that this is a touchy subject. I myself am a mother of two girls ages 14 and 18. It's really tough because you want to protect your daughter but at the same time you don't want to send them the message that it's ok to be having sex at 14. I don't think anyone is ready for sex at that age but that doesn't mean that it'll stop kids from having it. In reality we can only hope that they'll be smart enough to wait until they're emotionally ready for a sexual relationship. Another thing that might come into play for some parents is their religion, so again I say it's a touchy subject and the parent or parents need to be the ones to address it. The things that I emphasize with my girls is to have self respect with their bodies and person, and the importance of understanding what sexual intimacy means. They also need to understand that the pill doesn't protect against stds and the only way to positively avoid the chance of getting stds or pregnant is by not having sex....and as a parent I'll always continue keeping the conversation open.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/16/2011

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well my daughter is only 13 and been having periods for a year now do you think thats to young for the pill

Mary1959 - posted on 04/13/2011

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When my daughter start her cycle , I will have her put on BC.
She is 9 we done started talking about sex

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I wouldn't "put" my daughter on the pill but if she wanted to go on it then I'd support her. I grew up in the 80's when teen pregnancy was at an all time high. Several of my friends were "put" on the pill by their mothers and many of them became pregnant anyway. If a girl doesn't make the mature conscious decision to go on the pill by her own accord then taking the pill responsibly as it is prescribed is not likely to happen. The girls I knew either took the pill incorrectly (missing a day or two) or else didn't take them at all.

The best defense against teen pregnancy is still education.

Melanie - posted on 03/23/2009

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hi my daughter is 16 she has had a steady bf for 8 months i just put her on the pill i was a teen that was pregnant and it sucked i dont want her to go through that i told her dont think this is a invatation to go out and have sex its the safe way to go these days !!

Rachel - posted on 03/23/2009

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Actually, my daughter is only 7 but trust me. I have thought about this for a very long time. My son's are 17 and 14 and I feel that if they got a girl pregnant, I would be just as responsible as they are. My 17 yr old has condoms and has been talked to about using them, as well as the risks. My 14 is currently under "talks". My ex husband has a daughter that is a teenage mom @15, my two neices became teenage moms at 13 and 15. my kids know first hand how hard it is. So I feel my boys are safe. My daughter however, will be different. I feel that Knowlege is power. So My daughter will Know all about it, how it happens, how to prevent it, what will happen if she does end up pregnant ect.. But most of all she will be made a part of the process. I think if she is given choices (what type of BC) and knows her options. Then she'll make the right choice. we can't stop them from having sex, but we can empower them with the knowledge of making the right choices when the time comes.

Christine - posted on 03/19/2009

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My mother put me on the pill when I was 16,she thought it would be a good idea because I was dating and well I hadn't gone to her to talk with her about sex,if I was sexually active or not...she was worried....I didn't mind that she wanted me to go on the pill,and it was a good thing to because I was sexually active and only using condoms...but you know what I got pregnant at 18 1/2 because I missed a pill,and the fact that I was on the pill and with a steady boyfriend for over a year we didn't have a condom that night...you get the idea of what went down! so if you do decide to put your daughter on the pill make sure she understands the reality of it...you can still get pregnant...because you miss a pill and the only way to be sure that pregnancy doesn't become an issue until she is good and ready is to just not have sex!

Lori - posted on 03/18/2009

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My daughter is now nearly 17 and she hid everything from me. I thought I had the nice innocent girl that I wouldn't have to worry about, but no. I drove her to school one day and she reminds me that she had a doctors appointment and when I asked for what she said remember that thing that you said that I had to get a physical for first (You see she didn't like to go to doctors and I told her that before she could even think about sex and birth control she had to go to the doctor and get a physical to make sure everything was ok).



Now we had had this conversation a good two years before she made the appointment. So she went to the appointment and got her birth control, I tried to further the inevitable by telling her that she still couldn't have sex for three months after starting the pill to make sure that it was in her system.



I didn't want her on it because it also seemed that I was giving her permission to go out and have sex but on the other flip side of that coin other than locking them in their rooms you will have a hard time telling a teenager anything and have it mean something.



 Now my biggest fear is her reputation because of the pill I think she figures that she can give herself to all her boyfriends.That sounds terrible, but once I get going things just start to flow.



 

Lisa - posted on 03/07/2009

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One concern I would have about putting her on the pill is that I think it could give her a false sense of security and she could possibly take more risks or even have sex with multiple partners because she know she cant get pregnant. I Would instead get her some condoms and teach her how to use them and constantly remind her that she is unsafe unless she is using a condom!! When she gets a little older and has a relationship established with one person and has developed trust with them only then should she go on the pill and be able to enjoy the security of the pill. But that decision has to be made later when she has matured.

Lisa - posted on 03/07/2009

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One concern I would have about putting her on the pill is that I think it could give her a false sense of security and she could possibly take more risks or even have sex with multiple partners because she know she cant get pregnant. I Would instead get her some condoms and teach her how to use them and constantly remind her that she is unsafe unless she is using a condom!! When she gets a little older and has a relationship established with one person and has developed trust with them only then should she go on the pill and be able to enjoy the security of the pill. But that decision has to be made later when she has matured.

Lisa - posted on 03/07/2009

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One concern I would have about putting her on the pill is that I think it could give her a false sense of security and she could possibly take more risks or even have sex with multiple partners because she know she cant get pregnant. I Would instead get her some condoms and teach her how to use them and constantly remind her that she is unsafe unless she is using a condom!! When she gets a little older and has a relationship established with one person and has developed trust with them only then should she go on the pill and be able to enjoy the security of the pill. But that decision has to be made later when she has matured.

Iris - posted on 03/07/2009

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Despite people thinking that teenagers will always listen to what their parents tell them, I think it's important to be thinking of this before it is too late.  Having an open communication with your kids is great, as well as trying to set a moral compass for them, but unfortunately we will not always be there to make the decisions for them.  All parents want their kids to wait, and come to us when they are ready.  My fear is that by the time they come to us, it is already too late. 

Iris - posted on 03/07/2009

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Despite people thinking that teenagers will always listen to what their parents tell them, I think it's important to be thinking of this before it is too late.  Having an open communication with your kids is great, as well as trying to set a moral compass for them, but unfortunately we will not always be there to make the decisions for them.  All parents want their kids to wait, and come to us when they are ready.  My fear is that by the time they come to us, it is already too late. 

Marjory - posted on 02/05/2009

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First of all I would talk to her about it.  I talked to mine at 12 and put her on the pill at 15.  I let her visit her father for the summer 2 summers ago and she never came back home.  Needless to say she stopped taking the pill while with her dad and had a baby at 17.  She is now just over 18, has a 6 mo old baby and has decided to get the Marena birth control.  No pills involved and no forgetting.  She can't have anymore choldren for the next 5 yrs.  I think it was the best decision she ever made.  Try talking to your daughter about other birth controls other than the pill, they tend to forget and end up pregnant anyway.  I hope this helps.



 



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Jennifer - posted on 02/05/2009

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I have 2 of my daughters on birth control.  I have talked at great length with them about their no abortion beliefs.  I also talked to them before I did and explained it was not permission to have sex but that they have to be responsible and protect themselves. My husband has also joined these conversations and told them that all boys and men for that matter think about is sex.  If we get our kids vaccinated when they are babies to prevent illness then why is the pill any different to prevent unwanted babies.

Ann - posted on 02/05/2009

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After reading this whole thread it occurs to me that: everyone's situation is unique; the women who were teen mothers themselves are the most supportive of teen birth control; and no one has mentioned how important the father/daughter relationship is. If girls have a positive male role-model who pays them lots of attention and has honest conversations with them they are far less likely to seek attention from a boy. I know this isn't always possible, but maybe a lot of fathers aren't aware of this. They may also be afraid of/intimidated by their teen daughter who has become a creature from another planet since hitting puberty! They still need to stay connected!



I'm hesitant about birth control pills because I had several life-threatening blood clots after having been on the pill and "the shot" for more than ten years. I agree with the moms whose daughters are on the pill for medical reasons, but throwing synthetic chemicals into your developing child's body is never a good idea without thoroughly investigating all the side effects and considering alternatives.



Teen brains don't finish forming until their early twenties, particularly the area which is responsible for impulse control. I think having conversations with our daughters about how to say, "NO" and mean it are just as important as what kind of birth control to use and abstinence.

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