Would you put your teenage daughter

Juli - posted on 11/09/2008

I'm with Sheila! I agree with everything you said, sheila.

We have raised both our kids that way.

But it's not enough to say "don't do it".

1. We don't give them opportunity to do it.

2. This is an ongoing discussion at home, Sunday School and youth group.

3. Read the book "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Josh Harris

4. also read "Boy Meets Girl" by Josh Harris

God has a better plan for courtship. Learning how to avoid situations that lead to losing self control is very helpful.

Michelle - posted on 11/09/2008

I did. Mostly to control her terrible cramps, monthly acne flare ups and those horrible moods! We can't be there with them at all times so better safe than sorry! she went off of the Yaz pill for about 3 months and I have noticed all of those issues are back.

Keisha - posted on 11/09/2008

loryn very well put.



Im going to set up an appt to talk with someone at planned parenthood and then make a decision...

Loryn - posted on 11/09/2008

I absolutely would. Let's be real here - we can teach our kids right from wrong, how to make good decisions, we can teach them about STD's, pregnancy, sex, love, etc. In the end, they are human just like we are, and we (as responsible adults) know that people are going to do exactly what they want. Not only should we teach them to make good decisions, but we should also enable them to be SAFE, knowing that they are going to make mistakes and sometimes bad choices. Unprotected sex can kill them - and I don't think it's prudent to simply educate them on the consequences of their decisions. Ever life lesson you learned came with consequences. When one of those consequences may be death, I wouldn't even consider sitting here wondering if she's out there risking her life.

Kelly - posted on 11/09/2008

I had to put my daughter on the pill for medical reasons. When I did there was a nice, long, uncomfortable, important talk about sex, STDs, pregnancyand all the other facts of life between her, her doctor and myself. She probably knows more than she ever wanted to know about sex and all the pitfalls. (And we did let her know it is enjoyable, too) than she ever wanted to know. But by the same token, she has more power to make responsible decisions than she did before.

I think that this, for most part, is a personal decision. I commend her ob/gyn and her pediatrician for not letting her start on the pill without all the information about her medical condition and about sex.

Keisha - posted on 11/09/2008

michelle the way of the world today.. just talking and being open with your teen doesnt guarantee anything sweetheart... just in case shes afraid to tell u she's ready to have sex. just in case she did it and didnt plan on doing it nad the condom broke.. just in case a lot!



when kids feel they are in love sometimes things change.



i talk to my daughter often about sex and STD's and she's scared of it all but when she starts dating and falls in love her views my change, she might trust him.. or they might use a condom but what if it breaks?? still have to deal with pregnancy and STD's.. I am in no way saying that she shouldnt protect herself against STD's. My worries are even with open relationship some kids dont feel comfortable talking to their parents about it and i dont think that means the parent is a bad parent or didnt do a good job at talking to the teen and teaching them about sex and consquences!!!!!





Shelia, i also incorporate the bible when i talk to my daughter about sex... and one thing I always tell her is she's worth the wait! Even though her body may say things, she is strong enough to fight those urges that she has to pray... I talk to her about everything because I feel like my mother didnt talk to me enough about it. I was clueless and I refuse to let her be in the same boat.



My friend and her mom are best friends since she was 12, her mom talked to her about everything and at 15 she still ended up pregnant. she told me even though her and her mom were close she still couldnt say, Mom im ready to have sex...

Sheila - posted on 11/09/2008

I have a 17yo, 15yo, and 12yo daughters. Our dinner table conversations with them, as well as with our 20yo son, have always been extremely frank about sex, stds, and birth control. We are also Christians, who approach our conversations from a Christian perspective. We have told them that we will not assist them in engaging in premarital sexual activity by providing birth control. Birth control is available to any teenager who cares to seek it without me providing it. We've also given them statistics about the failure rates of the various methods of birth control. (11% for condoms if used correctly; I got pregnant on the pill AND after my husband's first vasectomy failed) We told them that God doesn't give us commandments to take away our fun; they're for our protection: teenagers engaging in sexual activity are dealing with levels of intimacy they are often not emotionally equipped to handle, and they are putting themselves at risk for disease and pregnancy. They do, however, know that we would never abandon them in a time of need, and that if they chose to go against our advice we would be there to support them as they faced the consequences of their decisions.

Michelle - posted on 11/09/2008

Personally I don't think it's anyone's place to put a teen on prescribed meds, in case. In case what? People don't have sex by accident. Parents have a responsibility to teach their children what may happen if they have sex and what needs to be done to not only prevent pregnancy, but also stds. Then they need to trust and believe that their child is equipped to do the right thing if/when that time comes, by talkin to their parent or another adult for b/c. Bottom line the child needs to have self respect for their own body, health and well-being.

Charlene - posted on 11/09/2008

My daughter is 14. I actually just had a conversation with Family Planning about my daughter & the pill when i went in for my pap smear. I also have had the talk with my daughter. Some of her friends are already sexually active & some are on the pill. She did come to me & tell me that she kissed a boy. I did tell her i feel she is too young for sex, but if she feels at anytime she is thinking about doing it to please come to me first. She did agree she is not ready but would let me know. I got pregnant when i was 17. I'd rather her be safe than sorry.

Lori - posted on 11/08/2008

That is very true, that is why if you see her getting into an involved relationship, approach her about it. I know I didn't talk to my mom when the time came that I thought I was ready!!! I used condoms, but wished now I would have talked to her about it. Once again, don't let her think you condone it, but that you love her and want to prevent anything like that happening for your piece of mind and as well as her protection. It is better to be safe than sorry.

Keisha - posted on 11/07/2008

The thing about it is i know girls that were extremely close with their parents and they still didnt tell them when they were ready for sex.

Ann - posted on 11/07/2008

I agree with Lori, if your communication with your daughter is open and you two feel comfortable talking to each other about that sort of stuff (our daughter is mortified if my husband or I bring up "bodily functions" but we do it anyway) you should be able to work out something together. You could also give her a condom to carry around. Even as an adult I had trouble remembering to take my pill every day at the same time, plus, I got blood clots from taking the pill when I was 33 - not fun. There is so much to take into consideration...

Lori - posted on 11/07/2008

That is a tough decision to make and one that I will have to be making in the next few years. I have 2 teen boys 16, 17 and 1 11 yr old girl. I think that if you see her in a close relationship the best thing to do would be to sit her down, explain you don't condone premarital sex, but that for her own safety and your piece of mind you are putting her on it. If you maintain an open communication, she will probably talk to you about it first. That is what I am hoping for.

Buffy - posted on 11/07/2008

she is 14 now been on the pill since she was 12 best thing we ever did for her. as a mother we don't only worry about our kids having sex there is also the worries of pedophiles.

Keisha - posted on 11/07/2008

how old is she now?

Buffy - posted on 11/07/2008

my daughter is 14 i put her on the pill the day she started to bleed first as a precaution and also to help her for the cramps..