How do you think that music and reality shows influence your teens?

Jurnee - posted on 09/03/2011

My 18 yr old was never really interested in the reality shows, except to make fun of them. We're not much of a tv family. I actually shut off the cable recently because we watched so little. (i miss it more than they do I think). As far as music we have always been more into alternative/punk/folk. More political slanting music, so it has deifinitley made them question authority. which is good, except when they start questioning your authority,lol. My older son questioned everything, still does, but hes doing great, has a great career, so i guess in the end it didnt effect him negatively. I think we influence our kids more than the media. If you talk to them about things, and share your views, they really do pay attention, even when it seems like they're not.

Zenzele - posted on 08/08/2011

Thats the thing, Its not teaching our girls a dang thing and it shouldnt. I dont think these shows should be watched by anyone underage. You see when I watch these shows I understand that it is a caricature of women. But I know most dont understand that so I dont condone my kids or any others to watch them. Yes to answer your question they are dangerous to the psych.

the music is awful too the repetiton of the lyrics can and will work its way into their minds and it can have negative affects on their mental image of themselves. So in my home there are lots of conversations about what their listening to and how it makes them feel. For example Jamie Foxx blame it on the alchol was my daughters and I first conversation on date rape and the effects of alchol and personal saftey(written by Nikki)

Rhonda - posted on 08/08/2011

Nikki, what are those shows teaching our little girls about being women? What lessons are they learning about sisterhood? Those women condone the stereotype of black women being bitchy, loud, and disagreeable. Is that what we want our little girls to believe successful black women act like?

Nikki - posted on 08/08/2011

Some teens are not mature enough to sort fiction from reality. These shows reward bad behavior with under the guise of celebirty.

Rhonda - posted on 08/08/2011

Music has always been a prominent part of my life. So, I was happy to share my love of music with my kids. But just as it did in my mom's generation music has changed. Now the subject matter is less than appropriate. Music always talked about sex, but now, its very graphic. The way women are portrayed is aweful. Reality TV is worse. Just watch an episode of "Basketball Wives", and you'll see women fighting and throwing drinks at each other. Do they actually influence our kids?

Tamara - posted on 08/08/2011

I think it teaches them what not to do and how doing stupid things cause a negative reaction. Seeing how stupid/crazy they look when doing these things. He said he never wants to look like that. So it has helped him decide what not to do. With music it isn't a big thing to him so I don't know how much it has an impact on him. He has set goals he wants from life so he is working toward those.