5 Year old gifted and bored? Worried about kindergarten.

Molly - posted on 04/22/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )

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This is my first time placing a post, and I am hoping that your experiences can help guide me in the right direction.



I have a 5 year old boy and am concerned about behavior issues when kindergarten starts. He seemed to have normal baby milestones until about 18 months. He would tell me when driving "That road goes to school", or "that's the way to the mall", etc. At 2.5 he knew all the planets in the solar system and at 3 he could point out all 20 written names of his classmates in preschool. At almost 5 he could name in order stores grouped together in our town, ie Barnes and noble is next to Bed bath and beyond, then party city, then shoe carnival...for multiple shopping complexes in our area. He is currently reading books in the 1st to 2nd grade range and most of it seems to be sight reading, however I think he may be sounding some words out, He read phone as pone the other day. He also has recently developed an affinity towards maps. He started with the disney world maps after our vacation and now loves to read the michigan road map before bedtime.



At 4 he started to have problems at circle time at preschool and it persisted untl he was moved into the school age room about 3 months ago. Just as he was moved in with the kindergarten kids he seemed to be doing well in circle, but he has recently been causing problems again. Can't sit still, etc. When the teacher asks him what she just said, the majority of the time he can repeat what she was saying. Is he gifted and bored? I am extremely concerned when he gets to kindergarten he will be labeled ADHD incorrectly. I am wondering if it would be wise to talk to his teacher before school starts, or should I just wait and see how things go?

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Casey - posted on 02/21/2014

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Molly, I know this is an old post but I am currently dealing with all this with my son. He sounds very similar to yours. He is not reading at a first grade level but we know he can definitely read to an extent. He knew all the planets at a very young age as well and luvs maps. Right not he is very interested in the calendar and numbers in general. Everything is mathematical to him. His teacher recently came to me about not participating in his class activities and acting out. I really think it's because he is bored!! He does not like arts and crafts at all and his class is combined with 3-4 years olds as well. He turned 5 in November. I can't figure out if he has been a big distraction or they just don't know what to do with him. I was just wondering how u handled the situation. I have called a psychologist but haven't heard back yet. His social skills can be lacking at times but other times not at all! Just feel bad for him because I don't want him to be labeled as ADHD either!! I really don't think that's the case. Just struggling on how to get through with the rest of the school year and let them now he might need to be challenged in a different way. I don't think they see what we see at home. He can be shy... Hope all is going well with your son. Just like to be prepared for this road with him!!

LESLIE - posted on 04/26/2012

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Molly, Do not wait. He sounds highly gifted and, yes, they will start pushing the ADHD crap. Both my kids are highly gifted. My daughter is bored but school works for her (as we all know about girls). If your son is already showing signs of 'not fitting in' you are in for a tough ride. Your son and his teachers will continue to get frustrated. My son got kicked out of 'story time' at 18 months because he wanted to tell the story because he saw it on 'Barney'. Audio learner at a young age.

Be up front in the beginning with the school (if you have to keep him in public). They will probably pay for testing so that you have something on paper to plead your case. He does need special treatment. He cannot sit through a week of learning the number 3. He is probably not interested in coloring flowers. My son wanted to build something (not stack blocks)...hey, not in kindergarten!

Your son sounds like a geo whiz. I got my kids an interactive globe and they memorized and played games while being timed. Loved it!

Your son will probably appear to be not paying attention but he is soaking it all up. The public schools will deem him distracting, a bad student and even go as far as secretly suggesting you medicate him.

I wish I had known more when my son was in kindergarten. Good Luck!

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Serene - posted on 04/23/2014

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Its been a while since i posted on here. My son is gifted also and he is 5 years old and in Kindergarten. He tested out when he was 4 years old but, he was considered too young to go to school. It will be different when he is in actually in school. My son loves his school, he is already doing 1st grade work. I had the same concerns as you did as having an advanced gifted child, but every day I communicate with his teacher. He has came home with some bad behavior reports but it is because he would get bullied and fight back. His teacher hasn't claimed that he has adhd or anything like that. As far as your child sitting down in the classroom and learning, yes the teacher will suggest options for you but, in the meantime maybe your child needs better social skills and be more mature. Thats another thing that schools look at besides intelligence. You can work with him by reading, doing a project for at least 15 mins like a board game, cutting with scissors, coloring. Even though he doesn't like art work that is something else the teacher is going to evaulate him with, and if he can't color, or write or cut with scissors then hes just an average child in there eyes. Good luck!!

Vivien - posted on 03/26/2014

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He can't be 'labelled' . It takes a medical diagnosis to determine these things. Teachers may unprofessionally suggest that your child has ADHD, but legally they are not allowed to do this . As for being gifted.he may well be,but he still has to learn appropriate behavior in the classroom.if he is really smart and immature you will need to work with him on these things. Make it a game at home. learning to listen, sit still ,and answer questions when appropriate. Teach him how to take turns by playing board games.

Molly - posted on 08/12/2013

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Patricia,

Kindergarten went ok for him. There were multiple days when he came home from school with bad reports, but the teacher was willing to work with him and us as parents. However he had a teacher fresh out of college, who hadn't taught any one like him before. At the first conferences she suggested we see a physician to have him evaluated for ADHD, but as soon as we said "wait a minute, let me tell tou what my son can do". She seemed more open minded about his behavior. He even said to me the other day, how he liked his kindergarten teacher, but he didn't learn anything in kindergarten. His teacher ended up realizing that he was ahead of the curve too, when he ended up learning all 50 states by location and name in 4 days.

We are once again in the same boat for 1st grade, this time he has a teacher who has taught for 20 years. I'm still concerned we will hear the same thing, however I am happy she has expierence, maybe she has had some kids like him in her classes before. I plan to be in contact with her frequently and volunteer in the room on my days off. Hopefully in creating a relationship with her, we can provide the best environment for my son. I'm sure testing will be a necessity, I'm just not sure as to when to do it, and would like the backing of the school to go in that direction. However I will push for it if it is insisted we have him evaluated for ADHD.


Thank you for your inquiry! It's nice to know we are not the only parents out there dealing with this!

Patricia - posted on 08/08/2013

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My son is the same way and he starts Kindergarten this fall. He was actually tested last summer and although they weren't able to complete the test, the doctor felt as though he is more than likely gifted in several areas. I'm terrified for this school year to begin.... How did the year go for your son?

Jennifer - posted on 09/24/2012

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Sounds just like my oldest, who is indeed both gifted and learning disabled. If you need testing, get it done right. Neuropsychologists are excellent for identifying giftedness, learning disabilities, add/adhd, ocd, etc... and often, several of these things go together. Watch out for anxiety; it can mask as depression (actually the two are very related) and mask as anger issues. Get the right help from psychologists that understand this kind of kid -- not teachers with little to no training in this area. Doctors can often give you referrals to psychologists, which can help with insurance issues.

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