Kristina - posted on 01/29/2009 ( 21 moms have responded )
We decided to send my 4 year old to KG next year. We live in CA, which has a very late cut-off date (Dec 2) and her birthday falls in late November. Technically, I can send her to school, but there are so many reasons not to (and so many reasons to send). I feel like this is the first major decision I am making in her life, and I don't want to screw it up. What do you think? Any words of reassurance (or if you think I am screwing up, tell me so).
Reasons to send her to school:
- Academically, she is ready. I don't know what her level of giftedness is, but we, her parents are no slouches academically (both hubby and I have PhDs in physics), and she is pretty smart.
- It would be so convenient to have her and her older sister at the same school
- Her peers are graduating from preschool this year, and conversely, neighborhood girls are starting KG this year
- At preschool, teachers report she is cooperative, friendly, manages frustration well
Reasons not to send her to school:
- She is very young
- She has sensory issues (diagnosed by OT) and perhaps anxiety issues as well. She has a difficult time separating from me and adjusting to new situations
- At home, she throws frequent tantrums and seems unable to deal with frustration
I don't know if one year will make a difference for her emotionally. I know structure helps her emotionally - her behavior completely deteriorated over the holiday break, but got much better when she went back to school.
Ironically, her older sister is late Oct birthday, so she was also young when we sent her to school. She is still young, and I wonder if an extra year would have given her more confidence (she is very shy), but she makes friends easily, and is thriving now in 2nd grade. Part of the decision to send her to school early is that I wanted the girls to be 3 grades apart (they are 3 years apart in age), and when we were making that decision 3 years ago, we thought that we will definitely send the younger one to school early, b/c she was so precocious as a baby/toddler. I just did not count on all the emotional baggage that went with it!
So, any thoughts, one way or another?