Deborah - posted on 11/29/2008 ( 35 moms have responded )
I am at wits end with my highly gifted 4 year old son. He has always been extremely challenging and has had a ridiculously intense desire to control his world (if not the world). He's always gone through phases where his behavior takes a turn for the worse, and then he usually cycles back around once he's mastered whatever developmental leap he was dealing with. But for the past several months, he's entered this new place where he's really having a hard time controlling his anger if he doesn't get what he wants. His emotions are so intense it's completely exhausting, and I never know what's he's going to be like from one day the next.
I have theories about what could be causing this... everything from the recent developmental leap of tapping into his emotional world he's opening up to (he's never expressed much empathy and is in a school that is using the Second Step empathy curriculum) to the fact that he reads at a third grade level and has an insatiable appetite for information all while still having the emotional maturity of a 4 year old.
Theories aside... I'd love to know if anyone has dealt with a gifted child who has sometimes intense and out-of-control emotions (including frustration and anger)? Any ideas or words of wisdom to get me through this?