Nicole - posted on 09/08/2012 ( 11 moms have responded )
Might be a novel here. I ran across this site in researching different things on the web and while reading some posts and others answers it made me think I might actually have somewhere to go to talk about my mama issues where I don't feel crazy.
My adorable son just started kinder. He by no means is doing genius things like reading. He has just always been different...but in a good way. I could make a list of some of the oddities and things that made my husband go "did he just do/say that?" throughout his 5 years but I'd be writing a book. He's quirky, has been able to hold adult conversations for a long time and wears me out!
Before his pre-k year he started flapping and running back and forth a lot...A LOT. He started doing it during center time at school. His teacher got him. She told me that he just had trouble being a kid and while they were playing he'd run back and forth (??) or want to talk to her the whole time. We decided that, coupled with 4 years of obsessions from garage doors, to maps and the globe to contact lists, etc., that we needed to see some sort of doctor. We were referred to the pediatric specialist in our city. A family member mentioned Asberger's to me, to which I knew deep in my head I'd considered many times myself. But he's just so social and silly when he wants to be was my thinking as to why he wasn't! I had started asking him what he was doing during the flapping, running and he would stop, look at me and say "thinking." He could then tell me what he was thinking about. It usually involves it his obsession of the time.
Skip to apt. She spent over 1.5 hours with us and him, asking him a ton of questions. I really appreciated the time. Well about an hour into observing him she started laughing due to his silliness and said, "okay parents, he's just too silly for Asberger's." She wants him to have the full testing done on IQ, etc., when he's about 7. She did find a delay in fine Motor. We started OT.
OT has been great but they've told me things he has, worked on them and he seems fine. His handwriting looks very normal for age, but he does grip pencil wrong. He's better at motor planning due to OT, etc. That being said, I NEVER would've known he had an OT issues dealing with sensory things. I talked to all of his past teachers who looked at me like I was an idiot for thinking he had aspergers. SO, he doesn't have that. Check. Every teacher did make comment after comment about his intelligence from the time he started preschool.
So back to the pre-k teacher--she finally used the words, "your son is just obviously gifted." He hasn't been tested yet (about to turn 6) so I truly don't know if he is. I have done LOADS of research. LOADS. Reading about giftedness is the ONLY thing that continually makes sense regarding our son. I just can't tell if he has Sensory Processing Disorder or if he's dealing with Dabrowski's Overexcitabilities.
We went back for the follow up this summer with the specialist. It was an odd appointment. My son was walking in circles when she was talking to him. Later my OT pointed out that we went to the appointment after a day of VBS, so maybe he was wired. The doc didn't listen much to how wonderful he was doing but did want to evaluate him for ADHD. Sigh. Another thing that can look like SPD. Ugh. Well I've now talked to his kinder teacher and pre-k who do not see any hyperactivity. I'm just so confused and have no one who relates a bit to me.
About him socially: he is friends with who he chooses to be friends with. He has one female best friend at school, but there are many days he doesn't play with her. At recess he will either play with her, talk to the teachers or walk around "thinking." He is well liked but doesn't seem to care about making any friends that are boys, etc. He played soccer when he was four and it was hilarious. Never talked to anyone on the team, wouldn't play duck, duck, goose and would tell the coach, "no thanks" when it was his turn to play. At church he loves the teachers, never talks to the kids. That being said, folks he's grown up with he loves and runs, plays and acts silly. He is a normal kid, but just a wee bit different.
I'm leaving out a lot of his smarts traits. I'm just happy if anyone finished reading my novel. If you want to know more I have it to share. ;-) Can anyone relate at all or give advice?