Alicia - posted on 07/18/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )
I have a 3 1/2 little boy that I was blessed with through foster care and hope to have adoption final on by this Sept. he is highly intellegent for his age. Everyone is so stunned with his progress. We got him at 20mths and he was testing below 12mth level and couldn't talk. In just 4mths he tested at a 36mth level and couldn't get him to hush. I think it is an amazing gift but our problem now is that he is right where he should be emotionally and behaviorally for his age but his intellgentience is well above that. So we have problems with the discipline b/c he doesn't react as he should for his age. We have tried everything the therpist has suggested for his age level but nothing works. Has anyone else had this problem and found things that work. I'm sure it's just the terrible threes coming out and it will pass but in the mean time I need a way to control the behaviors. Overall he is a very loving and helpful child just need ways to control the occassional outbreaks. Ex. tell him not to smack gum or you are gonna throw it in trash and he comes back with if u put your finger in there I will bite it. or put him in time out and it doesn't phase him b/c he just reasons through it instead of dealing with it as a consequence. taking things away don't work b/c he has enough common sense to know it's ok I can go play with something else. So any help would be greatful.