Gifted teen with bipolar disorder

Janice - posted on 07/09/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I am mom to 3 kids, and my oldest daughter, age 15, was identified as gifted in Kindergarten. She was always an independent soul and marched to the beat of her own drum, but had a large circle of friends. When puberty hit, however, she was bombarded witha plethora of mental illnesses, with bipolar being the predominant one. She was outplaced to a therapeutic day school 3 years ago and has become somewhat stable in that environment, but her academics have been put on the back burner as my priority is her well-being and personal safety. I am wondering if other parents of highly gifted kids are in a similar situation. It is so frustrating to watch such an intelligent child make poor choices time and again. What upsets me the most, however, is the lack of support I have receieved from state agencies. It seems the kids from the worst homes get the most support, while the children who are from stable homes get overlooked. Any suggestions? I would love to get in touch with other moms of gifted gifts that are also dealing with mental illnesses.

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Trr - posted on 03/16/2011

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HI, It is such a relief to hear similar stories from moms. My soon will turn 13 in 2 weeks. He has always been a very bright child. He is in classes for gifted and talented. He was always a very social child with lots of friends. Our house was alive with his friends. Well, puberty and lots of emotional turmoil hit this year. As soon as he started school this year, he started having what they call school phobia. He refused to go to school. We literally had to carry him into the school kicking and screaming. Then he threatened suicide and actually had a plan. The school called me and told me they were taking him to the magistrate to have him committed. I rushed to the school and agreed to take him to a private facility. They kept him for a week and diagnosed him with depression. I felt like my heart was being ripped out of my chest. When he got out they had him on prozac. Long story short, this made him psychotic. He was seeing dead people, cursing us out , threatening to hurt his father and I. They just wanted to up the prozac! One psychiatrist even called DSS on us because he told her we were hitting him. Not true! He even told her he wanted to bash our head in. We have now foung a wonderful psychiatrist. DSS came and observed us getting him to school. Well rhe case was dropped. I was very angry with them though. They said they could not offer us any resources because we had insurance! So much for the state support. They did not mind wasting tax dollars to investigate us. They even questioned teachers at school. He is now on a mood stabalizer, which has done wonders! They are reluctant to label him with bipolar, but I am afraid that is the direction we are heading. One therapist even said he had seperation anxiety. Yes he did when he was younger, but most of the time now he can't stand us. His father and I are married and have 2 more children. Our girls have witnessed more rage out of him than they should ever be exposed to. He is better, but he still has outbreaks. He does not like to be corrected at all. Sometimes it sends him in a rage. He has even tried running away. And yes he still makes straight A's with all this going on. He does also go to school willingly now. So we have come a long way. We really feel like we have no support because noone understands. They all thing something "happened" to him. His Dr. says it is not unusual for bipolar to emerg when puberty hits. He used to be the most loving and sweet mannerly child. Now he will cuss you out in a minute. Fortunately he does not get in trouble at school though. We have stopped therapy bc of the expense. The one therapist he liked only accepts medicaid. And we have to pay a huge deductable. It has been an enormous financial and emotional strain on the family. We walk on eggshells, and we never know when the next storm is going to hit. Friends say we never go anywhere anymore. We are all so exhausted! I love him with all my heart and I will do anything to help him. I looked at his baby pictures the other night and just wepted for the child I feel like is gone. TRR

Janice - posted on 07/11/2009

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My daughter is currently outplaced in a private therapeutic day school, but unfortunately the focus is primarily on getting her mood stabilized throughout the day. Our school district has tried time and again to place her into a school that will focus more on academics, but honestly it's the least of my concerns. Her I.Q. and artistic ability will be there when she becomes more stable. We have just started a DBT group, not sure if you have heard of it. It is a talk therapy indicated for use in people with bipolar and borderline personality disorder, both which my daughter has been diagnosed with... it's only been a month, and it's very frustrating because the progress is apparently very slow but thorough. I will keep you posted on that as it goes along!

We also have a 7 year old daughter and a 3 year old son, who have seen way too much rage in their older sister, and she has been living with my parents for a few months now until she can tame her temper. They are about 5 minutes away, and she is always allowed to come over whenever she wants. As a matter of fact, she's spending the night tonight. It always starts out great, but often ends in a battle of wills among the entire family. We'll see how that goes as well:)

We have tried utilizing the voluntary services of DCF (Dept. of Children and Families) here in CT, but they were not willing to do more than provide IICAPS, an in-home therapeutic service 2 times a week. While it was somewhat worthwhile, it was certainly not enough to make a marked improvement. They also tried her with a mentor, which was a flop. I have had her in therapy, psychaiatric services, and now DBT, on top of her school. There is literally nothing more I can do, and the state doesn't seem willing to help fund a residential program for some reason. I have seen several families receive the funding who just don't seem deserving, and it frustrates me, because my daughter has so much potential and could be very beneficial to the community when she gets a degree. It's tough.

What state do you live in? Have you received any support from the state at all??

Thanks for posting back, I appreciate any support I can get!!

Gabrielle - posted on 07/11/2009

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Hey there sweetie! I just know how you feel. My daughter Mirranda who is 14 is also gifted and has bipolar. And yes they do make many wrong choices. School had become to o difficult for mirranda and they could not handle her mood swings and the trouble she would get into,(sometimes I felt like she thought it was a high to hurt someone) I decided to hospital home bound her. What that means is she is taught at home some tellaclasses, and a techer comes out twice a week and one class on computer, that at least keeps her in school acepted by the state,However she also suffers from ocd, and adhd, so she really has a hard time doing her school work. I have been lucky as far as her passing because of the great supot I get from the hospital home bound. Grades suffer much lower then she could do. she test way above 8th grade. and she is into the boy thing already!!! Yikes! Tell me more about your child?

what kind of help have you tried with the state?

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