God

Lucia - posted on 01/13/2009 ( 33 moms have responded )

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Has your child questioned God? Does your child have religious/philosophical conversations with you? If so, please share (include age).

Just curious to see if this is common ...

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Heidi - posted on 12/26/2013

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My son (now 13 ) When he was 3 asked if Santa was like God. (He understood God, and was trying to figure out Santa who he new was pretend) When I asked what he meant he said you can ask for what you want but you get what you need.

Sofia - posted on 08/23/2012

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My son (6 years old) asked me one day....'Mum, why do people EXCIST?'' I told him that God who is our leader created us so we can keep him company.....''Where is God?'' He is looking upon us from the stars, in space...''Oh so he is an alien?''' you could say that.......''Why do people say we came from the apes?'' Some people believe that but I don't....'''I don't either mummy I like your explanation better........'' I will answer all his questions honestly, letting him know that as he grows up he will have to find his own truth, I just want him to know what my beliefs are and that not everyone agrees with me - so it won't come as a shock to him later on..............I also read this quote today that I would like to share with you (sorry if it is off topic) '''Do not educate your child to be rich. Educate him to be happy. So when he grows up, he will know the value of things, not the price......'''

Shanna - posted on 08/07/2012

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My 2 year old son and I go to church on Sundays. All through the week we sing praises to the Lord(some of which he knows the words), He prays before meals(a song), and I read verses to him from the Bible. He knows the difference between a regular book and the Bible too.I think I will teach him a kneeling bedtime prayer soon.

Alexis - posted on 07/11/2012

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My son is almost 3. His favorite cousin has just recently started attending church. We do not as we are not religious. However because his cousin talks about going to church my son asks to go too. I tell him he can go with his cousin (uncle\aunt) when they go. While I will not raise my kids to be religious I am not going to cut them off from the opportunity or option and as they get older and do have questions about god or any religion I will tell them my point of view and continue to give them the option to follow what is in their hearts. I know this is a young age and attending church is simply because his cousin is, but he will be exposed to what they have to say and I am sure he will have questions.

Julianne - posted on 06/25/2012

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yes all the time. BOTH my girls (both gifted) have started posing questions around age 6 and by 9-10 have been asking philosophical and religious questions etc

Sarah - posted on 06/24/2012

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My six year old child doesn't question God, but we've always explained God as a mystery - beyond our comprehension. Then she comes out with zingers like this: "You know what is even better than the tooth fairy?" "What," I vaguely reply. "Death," she says. "Death?" I question. "You mean because you will go to heaven?" I ask hopefully. "Yes," she says, "and your soul will live forever." In a later conversation: "When I grow up I want to be an artist," she says. Happy to encourage this, but also wanting her to continue her strong scientist bent, I reply: "You can be lots of things when you grow up." "How?" she responds. I clarify by listing my many roles: "Well, I'm a teacher, and a mommy, and a wife, and a daughter, and a neighbor." "And you are God," she replies. Not quite sure how to respond to this, I ask her how I am God. "God is everywhere and in everyone," she says. While theologically this all seems sound, it is certainly startling to hear it from a six year old. The next day she pronounces that everything that is alive will rot eventually. I agree. Then she says that even the earth will die. She has a speech impairment, so I question her words. She repeats that the earth will die and then continues to explain that will happen when the sun explodes.

Shayla - posted on 01/28/2009

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Yes my daughter asks me all the time who God's Mom is... she is 5. 



I always say good question, because I do not know what to say.

Tracy - posted on 01/27/2009

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Laura, In response to what my 8 year old does that I find diff. from the "normal" 8 year olds is this.

Often I find Bri going and helping or saying something to someone that most people have passed by. When I ask her, 'why did you did you do that honey?' Her reply is,"God told me to go, and I do what he says."

To often life is rushed and filled with many things that we loose sight of what really matters, leasoning to Gods' voice and moving when we are prompted to. She tells me regurally that if we just stop and leson He will speak. I guess I don't know to many children her age that do that.

She also went up to someone after church who was in full body tears and layed her hand on them and repeated 'Jesus, Jesus, Jesus....' untill they stopped. Her response to me was she knew it was what they needed and that Jesus would make what ever it was go away and all would be better.

Jennifer - posted on 01/27/2009

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My husband and I are different religions.  I was raised Jewish (reform) and he's a non-practicing Catholic.  We celebrate all of the Judeo-Christian holidays, but can't seem to agree on the subject of religious education.  So...I take them with me to children's services at the temple (where a good friend of mine is married to the Rabbi).  My kids say they're both religions, but "a little more Jewish".  



My son just turned 9 and we have had several conversations about G-d and religion.  I have often told him that one of G-d's days may be 1 million years to us.  When we discussed Evolution vs. Creation I told him that I don't think they are mutually exclusive.  He once came into my room while I was watching a documentary that attempted to explain the 10 plagues using modern science.  I told him I thought that maybe this was how G-d made it happen.  (not just magically making things happen or appear).   



When it comes to questions about Jesus I have to be diplomatic since my husband and I obviously don't agree.  I explain that different people believe different things, but that I can't say for certain because "I wasn't there".  He once said that since the bible stories were told orally before being written down, some things might not be accurate.  I also explained how Constantine helped to incorporate other religious traditions into the New Testament in order to help others in his Empire feel more comfortable with this "new" religion. (or so I've been told)  



But that being said, faith seems to come naturally to kids.  He still claims to believe in Santa and the Tooth Fairy, using logic to support his hypothosis (like saying I don't have enough $ to be them because I'm always saying I'm not made of $)  Last year he came home saying that one of the girls in his class said there's no such thing as Santa.  Not wanting to lie to him I asked "Do you like believing in Santa?  Is it fun?"  Of course he said yes.  "So what do you care if it's true or not?" ;-)  He seemed satisfied with that answer, or at least chose not to question it any further.   

Rebecca - posted on 01/21/2009

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My 5 year old daughter goes to a predominantly Muslim school; my husband is an atheist and I am not a follower of any religion, tho believe in some greater power.... so naturally the subject of religion has come up. Her dad says: 'Some people believe in god, but I don't.' I tell her: 'I believe in god, but daddy doesn't. But we are not Christians or Muslims.' We also tell her it's her decision to make up her mind about it. At the moment she believes in some greater power and magic, but has tried declaring herself different religions and then lost interest in the whole subject.

Karla - posted on 01/21/2009

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Hello,

I am new to this community but so glad to have found it. I have two gifted children and also teach school so I get the opportunity to observe these amazing and special children each day. My daughter began to talk about god when she was two. The things she revealed to us were very shocking considering they followed what my husband and I believe to be true about heaven and where we come from. Her insight was so deep for such a young age, my son is younger but also has conversations about our universe and is so concerned that we treat everyone in a manner that is fair and just. As you all probably know from having gifted children they seem to be so in tune to emotions and feelings and ideas of humanity. I have a friend who had a son who was gifted and refused to go to church and said it is not what he knows to be true and didn't feel he could justly follow god in the church the family had gone to. The family has started thier own way of worshiping on Sunday.

Debbi - posted on 01/19/2009

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Suzanne, That is awesome.  I know that my guy will come around in the same way.  We all watched a show about the 4 great scientists, Galileo, Newton, Einstein, and Hawking, and how our knowledge progressed collectively, sort of.  My husband and I both had this "religious experience," similar to what you talked about with your son.  There is no way that is random, and at the same time we have to accept that there is SO much we don't yet understand.  I think it takes a big mind to accept that we don't have all the answers.  Can you imagine if the Bible had been written on a level that Einstein could understand?  It would have been completely rejected by a huge majoritiy of the world. 



Your son sounds wonderful.  God's grace is amazing. 

Suzanne - posted on 01/19/2009

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To Debbie Salls: I am not certain as to the age of your son, but it was scientific thinking that led my son to a deep faith. As he sat working his chemistry equations and saw the incredible balance of molecular structure and how the elements all follow a pattern, it occurred to him that no accident could possibly have created this intricacy. He commented on the "master mind" and became enthralled with discovering the methodology of chemical change. He read through the pages of basic physics and saw the same... beauty in the dynamics of movement, waves, and Newton's Laws. Where did it lead? He pursued a college degree in the area of science, went to India on mission with a Christian rock music group as the lead singer, and returned home to us as the most founded seeker imaginable. He is raising two little believers.... spiritual in nature and in practice. (He found that "ritual religion" can mimick the structure of the molecule, but he prefers just a spiritual path.) Just thought you might be interested in the development of my little scientist.

Priscilla - posted on 01/18/2009

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My kids have questioned GOD and Science.  I have told them GOD and science go hand in hand.  My daughters fully believe in GOD they have no doubt that there is a GOD.  However they have a hard time with evolution and the 7 days in the bible.  I told them that time for GOD is not time for us.  A second or minute for GOD may be months for us So there for a day for GOD may be a million years for us. 

Debbi - posted on 01/18/2009

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Hi Lucia.  I am looking at this and thinking about how you can talk to her.  I think that at 5 she has a limited ability to understand God.  developmentally, kids are very concrete, not abstract, until after 6 years.  Therefore, it doesn't necesarrily make sense to try to explain your whole belief system at that age.  I think that I would carefully choose a metaphor for her.  For example, "It is hard to understand God, because he can do things we cant, but God is a parent to me and you, like I am for you, and I trust that he/she will let me understand everything when I am able to."  How do you explain the concept of mystery to a child that is still in concrete thinking develpmentally.  She mostly needs to understand that you are comfortable not knowing all the answers, so that maybe she can be comfortable as well.



Many adults cannot come to terms with the mystery of God.  It takes a great amount of faith, or brainwashing and of course we prefer the first choice for our kids.  Sorry that was rambly.

Laura - posted on 01/17/2009

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Hi, Tracy what is it your daughter does that normal 8 year olds don't do, if you don't mind answering?

Kat - posted on 01/16/2009

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My oldest son first started discussing God with me when he was 11 months old and had intense questions about the world of angels and demons by age two. Now, at almost 6, he has amazing insight into spiritual things and often explains everyday things to his siblings in a religious context. We often have philosophical conversations, as well, as he struggles with doubts and the usual "why does God let bad things happen to good people" issues.

Zita - posted on 01/16/2009

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My 5 year old believes in God and Jesus. We are Christians and we try to live the life Christ wants us to live. She questions just about everything and we answer her to her level. She goes deep in thought when you answer and it is sometimes funny to see her reaction. Right after Christmas my parents were getting back on the road and my dad wanted to say a prayer for safe travels and she said she wanted to pray. So we let her start and she said the most thoughtful prayer without being promted. My dad just said we will end it on that note. I truly believe it is about a relationship with Christ and not just "religous" traditions and such. We teach her and her sister the real meaning of all the holidays. I believe God uses our children to talk to us we just need to listen.

Sarah - posted on 01/16/2009

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Jeremy has a very deep faith that there is a God and that he is a being that loves everyone.  He has questions like "How did God make the stars?" or "If drugs, alcohol and tobacco are so bad why did God create them?"  Some of the questions are harder to answer, but he is keeping an open mind that not all things can be answered with scientific data and analysis.  Sometime the answer is "because". 

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My 11 y/o daughter has not believed in God for quite some time. She attended Sunday School from an early age and enjoyed it until about the age of 6 - this is when she really started questioning things. To her, many of the Bible stories do not seem realistic and she is not one to believe something on faith alone. I do feel she can still benefit from participating in some religious instruction from the morals/values perspective, such as at camp and VBS, but I do not force the issue with her.

Tracy - posted on 01/15/2009

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I guess when it comes down to it all we can do is pray, pray, and pray more. God anwsers prayers and weather we see them or not. It is all that we can do to do what is called of us a parents, the rest we need to leave up to Him.

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I hear you loud and clear.  That's why I bite my tongue.  I let them tell me what they learned in school without interjecting my own stuff in there.  After 10 years in Catholic school, they will absolutely form their opinions, which will probably be very close to mine.  For now, though, for the sake of not confusing them or having problems with the school, I just nod and smile and am interested in what they have to say.



It's also pretty convenient to use the Catholic guilt on occasion, just like my mom did for me!  LOL!!

Lucia - posted on 01/15/2009

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Yeah, I went to Catholic school for some time as well & Lord knows I did everything they told me NOT to!!!! LOL But I think we can offer our own values and morality without letting others' personal thoughts (let's admit, you can get 4 nuns from the same church & they'll each have their own ideas about what's what!) interfere in our teachings as a family. I'd hate for them to go to wherever (church/mosque/synagogue) and learn one thing, only to share it with me and get a different answer ... how confusing is that??!! I can already see them going back & saying "my mommy thinks you're wrong because of x, y & z"  LOL!!!  :)

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mine are in Catholic school and they learn all kinds of stuff that I don't agree with.  I bite my tongue because they will make their own decisions and choices when they are older.  For now, they are getting a good foundation on morality and values that they won't get in our public school system.



I went to the same Catholic school and I didn't run off to become a nun  LOL

Lucia - posted on 01/15/2009

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I know ... I've thought of it ... but I'm more afraid of them telling her something I don't quite agree with!! :)

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maybe some sort of formal regilious schooling is in order for her?  just a thought but there are people in all of the organized religions who are well versed in answering those questions.  just pick one and roll with it.  :-)

Lucia - posted on 01/15/2009

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Thanks for sharing ladies.



My now 5 year old has been questioning God since she was maybe 2.5 - 3. She asks questions I don't know how to answer. She has asked "where is he? how can he see us? why can't we see him? how can he be in more than one place at once? why does he allow bad people to be bad? is it a man or a woman? how can he see us if he has no face? how can he hear all of the people who are praying at the same time? does he ever sleep?" and I've done my best to answer. We don't really attend a religious facility, they don't attend any kind of religious school & such ~ we just teach them what feels right to us. I guess it bothers me more than it bothers her ...

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Children tend to be very literal, and it is very normal for them to question what they cannot see.  My kids are in Parochial School (more on that in a different thread LOL),   They are 6 and 7.  So far, they have that blind faith in God, which is interestingly contradictory to my son's questioning everything.  We still have nuns and priests in the classroom, which, I think, helps that faith remain unshaken.



 



 

Debbi - posted on 01/14/2009

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I have 2 different, gifted kids, and 2 different answers.



My daughter is intuitive as well as being so intelligent, and she has an intuitive belief in God.  we have not been great about going to church, but DH and I are very spiritually grounded and we share our views about the wonder of God as it relates to the awesomeness of the universe.  I know, down the rabbit hole.



My son is less intuitive and very scientifice, so he questions God and resists when we do drag him to church.  He has to be talked to in terms of logic.



Both incredibly intelligent and see things very differently.



I am not as smart as my kids, but I went through a period of several years where I had strong doubts.  It has passed.



 

Shanna - posted on 01/14/2009

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We say morning prayers sometimes in the car on the way to school. This morning, my  three year old son asked me where is God and what does he look like. I tried to explain that God is everywhere. So he started naming off all of the things God made. Then he said, " God must be really big if he is in all of those things." He then proceeded to ask me " if God can help (him) to have a good day why does he still get in trouble at school sometimes?". And so I told him that God doesn't often shout or speak loud, but whispers to our heart. And then he said, :" I must not have been listening to Him either!" This made me giggle.

Tracy - posted on 01/14/2009

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My 8 year old daughter has always had a since that there was God. We go to church every Sunday and send them to the christan school in town. It amazes me how much she knew about Him even before we started sending her to school. In K. her teacher ask the kids to draw a pic. of what they wanted to be when they grew up. Of course there were Dr.s, vets, teachers, she said all she wanted to be was a servent.



I find her doing things that the normal 8 year old would not do. When I ask her why she is doing what ever it is she says, "God told me to." I just love how she lets the spirit move her.

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