Corbell - posted on 02/08/2009 ( 32 moms have responded )
This sort of follows the thread about how we sometimes downplay our child's ability and/or hide it...
Has anyone else found that they're 'holding their kid back'? From the time that my oldest (now 9), could speak in sentences around a year, I found that I was purposely holding back on teaching him stuff. My attitude was that he'd be bored enough when he hit school that I'd leave reading, etc. for them to teach him. I still read lots of fun and varied stuff to him before he went to school and we still played with lots of shapes and colours and tiny objects ( -- great fine motor skills and dexterity).
I'm still a bit leary about the next steps. i.e. getting him 'identified' and the possibility of a 'gifted' program. He's a very social kid with lots of friends that seems to easily fill the role of a leader in a group but has the grace to step aside and follow too. 'Gifted' program scares me as I have bad memories. I joined a gifted program in Grade 6 and promptly lost all my friends and never felt like I fit in with the gifted kids. The program was fun academically but I still found myself feeling like things moved way too slow. I was given the opportunity to skip some grade 8 (since the local highschool was a block away) and to skip again for Math from 11 to 13. Is this my child's fate? Do we hold him back and then what happens? Can he stay with his regular crowd and remained 'bored' constantly and then magically pull up his socks at the end of highschool to qualify for a good university? Who knows.
From my own experience I see the 'gifted' kids from my class went on in roughly the same proportion as the 'regular' kids to be housewives and scientists -- it didn't seem to help the bottom line much...
Anyways, are you 'holding your kid back'?