How can i prepare my 10 yr old girl for middle school?
Lydia - posted on 11/11/2008
I teach advanced language arts to gifted 6, 7, and 8th-graders, and all of the replies thus far have been spot-on. Two areas of concern are the seemingly insurmountable task of working through all the assignments and requirements of a full-time program, which would include organization as well as dedication, and the shock of middle school. I find the gifted kids for the most part, to either be somewhat oblivious to the "sex, drugs, and rock-n-roll" aspect of middle school, or not to care. I do have some eighth-graders who think Goth is "cute," but I keep an eye on them. Computers are important, as my kids use wikis and blog spaces as well as email to respond to what we read as a class or post responses to their own self-selected reading.
The most valuable advice I can give you is this:
DO NOT do you child's homework, projects, or reading for them. PLEASE let them fall if they must. These academic missteps can be one of the great lessons of middle school. Many parents "help" their kids too much. Teachers can tell. I have seen children grow into adulthood who still have parents doing their dirty work because they never learned (or didn't want to learn) how. What sort of a legacy is that to give your children? Yes, talk to them, advise them, even read the books they read so to be able to discuss them, but stop there. Sometimes a low grade is the best teacher in the world. And parents, often a gifted student's idea of a low grade is a B or a C. They will be better students for a grade honestly earned, bad OR good.
Kate - posted on 11/08/2008
The biggest adjustment my 2 girls had was being organized. There's so much to keep track of as far as assignments for each class. If they start out organized and keep a planner (actually writing in everything in it), that helps a huge amount.
Also, if they're not computer savvy yet, now would be a good time for them to learn how to find information, look up homework on the school's website, and use a word processor or power point.
Mindy - posted on 11/07/2008
Middle school was a big adjustment for my daughter. It was her first time in an all gifted full time program. and her first time being around kids who cussed and talked about sex and things like that. It took her a little while to realize that she could find people she enjoyed hanging around if she was just herself. Honestly it's a life lesson. Even as adults we deal with cliques and "girl drama". Just let her know it will be different and that you were there and got through it and she will too. Ansd most importantly that she can come to you withanything. My daughter is in her last year of middle school and now is getting nervous about High school (me too>> LOL)
Faith - posted on 11/07/2008
Yes, next year. She has already expressed some anxiety about it. She has been in gifted for 3 yrs and will be next year as well. She is mostly concerned about all the cliques and "girl drama". She is a very likable and sociable girl but......she tends to be a little naive. She has had a lot of girls make fun of her for hanging out with the "not cool" kids. She doesn't understand why she can't just be friends with everyone. She really takes it to heart when they make fun of her......I'd like to teach her to have a little bit thicker skin for her sake.
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