Jennifer - posted on 02/05/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )
My son is 4 years old. He's been reading since he was about 2. He reads chapter books and searches the internet for information at home. For some time, he was shy around other kids but he's been getting better, in most situations. Last year, I made my self crazy looking for the "perfect" preschool for him. I wanted him to be challenged and excited about learning and I wanted him to have a chance to interact with kids in a variety of ages.
We chose a Montessori school that was highly recommended by our school board for "individualizing the educational process and challenging students of all abilities". Since he has been in school, my son has said that he spends his time "day-dreaming" and has "wasted almost all morning looking for something to do." The children have complete control over what works they do and my son has said that all he has to do is the "baby work" to make his teacher happy, so why try anything else? I spoke with the teacher about it and she is offering and encouraging other, more difficult work for my son, however he refuses!
At one point DS told me he didn't want to try something new because he might not be good at it. I also know that he has never asked his teacher to show him a new work. (Even though we have practiced asking the teacher to tell him about other works). I went to his school with him one day and was really frustrated by the work he was selecting. (He chose a practical life work of putting coins in a piggy bank--at home we would have counted the coins and talked about the presidents--but he said the only thing that matter was that he could get them back in the piggy bank.--it was "a fine motor work, not a math work").
I'm so confused...Is my gifted child, not so gifted? Does he lack the social skills to tell his teacher he needs more work? Has he "figured out" the montessori structure and chosen to take advantage of it? Why would anyone chose to be bored at school everyday? Am I embarrassing him or putting too much pressure on him to do work that is more difficult? Am I expecting too much? I really like his teacher and I thought the school was the answer to all my worries...
I'm planning on taking him out of Montessori school and putting him into a traditional kindergarten next year, but I don't know that it will make things any better. Does anyone have any advice or suggestions?