Alicia - posted on 06/22/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )
Please help, my 3.5 yo gifted daughter is SERIOUSLY driving me to the breaking point! She absolutely REFUSES to listen to anybody unless we yell, threaten or spank. I hate being the mother who realizes that she has the kid that needs a leash, needs a good spank, and needs to be yelled at and will hopefully be resilient enough to grow up right. There are just some days where I wish she wasn't born. It's a terrible thought I know, and I feel like a bad mom but things are difficult at my house. First off, I live with my parents because my husband and I have been financially struggling. Terrible, terrible idea! I could have the parenting thing down all day and as soon as my mother comes home my child becomes an EVIL BRAT! That's because anytime and EVERYTIME my daughter cries or whines even a little, Grandma gives in! Grandpa is okay he knows his place and doesn't cross the line (he just gets nervous when she's all over the place). My mother DELIBERATELY tries to get her to "like her better" because she gives in..IMMEDIATELY making ME the BAD GUY. Not to mention when my dd is well-deserving of a time out, my mother argues with me in front of her as to why she SHOULDN'T! How is my daughter going to listen to me and my hubby THE PARENTS if my mother sabotages my rights of raising her THE WAY I WANT?! I'm going insane: Talking doesn't work, yelling leads to more yelling, "meetings," my husband talking to my mother, etc. my mom is EVIL! I am at a loss now how to discipline my daughter because of her..I feel like I've lost my will to be a parent. Any tips on handling a handful of daily chaos would be helpful, and reduces stress b/c im her primary caregiver.