Missy - posted on 05/25/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )
My son is 5, but prefers the company of eight year - teens most. He is very concerned with being "cool". He does the soccer thing with his peers and is really amazing at technique at practices, but then when he gets to the games he throws himself down, messes around, acts like a complete mess. He also annoys the coach because when they do drills he always adds something so he doesn't get bored - for example - tonight he pulls his hat down over his eyes so he wouldn't be able to see the ball while playing red light green light and dribbling. He was told that he needed to concentrate on learning to not look at the ball while he was running, so that's what he did.
While he's diving on the ball, falling every time any other kid falls, etc - he's discouraged that he doesn't score as much as other kids. When I tell him to get in the game he says "Mom, pretend you're watching TV and I can't hear you, so you don't need to cheer for me." He wants me to just watch quietly.
He also has all these sensitivities and he HATES his shin guards because they "hurt" and are "irritating".
I've asked him if he wants to quit soccer and do something else, but he says "No, I like playing soccer, Mommy." Help?