Elizabeth - posted on 05/25/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )
I admit that deny may not be the most accurate word, but its the best I could come up with.
My husband and I are struggling with how to approach our sons intelligence. We have twin boys who are 32 months old. All indications point to them being somewhere in the gifted range. They knew all of their colors, shapes, and letters before 18 months. Just before they turned two, they knew all of their letter sounds and all of the states and capitals. Just after they turned two, they memorized more than half of the periodic table and all 44 US presidents. At almost three, they are starting to sound out CVC words and memorize simple sight words. They have spoken in full, complete, and often correct sentences since about 18-20 months old. Their speech is really quite striking. And their sense of humor has always been unbelievable.
But here is our question- Do we embrace or deny this??? I don't mean deny in the true sense of the word. Of course we will continue to foster their interests and encourage them to continue to enjoy learning. But should we just let them be unless their intelligence truly gets in the way of something, if it ever does? Or do we embrace their intelligence and try to maximize it? I hope this makes sense, I'm having trouble putting it into words. I guess we're not sure of the benefits of embracing their "giftedness". We want them to be happy, healthy, normal kids. So far we haven't encountered any of the downsides of their intelligence yet, which I know many struggle with and may be in our future... but as of now we haven't seen any of those things. We just want them to fit in with their peers and be normal, but on the other hand we want the to reach their maximum potential. I guess, whats the point of them skipping a grade or two, or being so far ahead of their peers academically? It kind of seems like it could cause more harm than good. Parts of us want to test them (though as a clinical social worker I fully understand the limits to testing this young) but aside from our curiosity, we can't think of a good reason that we should know their IQ.
If anyone else has struggled with this, or has any thoughts or insight, I'd really appreciate the input and conversation :)