What to do when your gifted child regresses?

Charlotte - posted on 01/08/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My 4.5 year old had a major setback this summer. He broke his arm which caused some nerve damage to his hand that has now healed. For about 4 months he temporarily became left handed and over the course of things decided if he wasn't good at small motor skills he would not participate. Now he hates to write or draw anything. Not because he can't (he's back to learning violin just fine) but because he is not good at it. He will refuse to pick up a crayon most of the time now and scribbles over the page to say he made something just to avoid disappointment. The Drs. refuse rehab as the injury just needed to heal normally and now there is no movement or sensory issues with his hand. Although he was not a gifted artist he was writing his name before the age of two and journaling with pictures and words on a daily basis since just before the age of 3.

Teachers at his school tell us the scribbling at the preschool level is normal but when we bring his journals from prior years they are shocked how much better and comprehensive they were.

Help! How do we get our proud and motivated little boy back, even if his motor skills are not as good as before? We would be happy if he even attempted some shapes and letters but he won't even try without being miserable.

Charlotte

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Connie - posted on 08/18/2013

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Give him time. He is dealing with such an adult issue at such a young age. Probably comparing himself to other kids as well. Encourage him to talk and listen without judging. Keep telling him that he will get better. Even when his insecurities have him thinking otherwise. Be his biggest fan and give him lots of love and support

Samantha - posted on 01/08/2009

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My personal advice would be to not make a big deal of it, and whatever you're expecting of him, to sit down in his view and do it yourself. Sit and draw and doodle without talking about it. Do it a lot, and see if he doesn't join in eventually. Show him your drawings, and maybe they can be pretty bad? :-) "Look. Mommy made an elephant!" Laughing and having a good time, he'll be sure to want to join in with Mommy!



Hope that helps.

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