Andria - posted on 02/28/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )
Okay so this may get a little long...
My problem is my family, meaning my mother, my grandmother, my sister Amanda, my aunts and uncles on my mothers side, and my cousins on my mothers side... Mainly my mothers side of my family.
I have been with my fiancee for about five years now. We have had our ups and downs and our many fights. Now, my mother is a recovering drug addict. My fiancee has a not so nice crimminal past. They hate eachother. They talk about eachother constatly. Its so bad they have a restraining order agaenst one another. There have been accusations of my fiancee breaking my moms car windows, my car windows have been broken. There have been myspace pages made about me and my fiancee and pages made about my mother and my sister.
Now its just getting worse. I dont know who is telling the truth. There was one time that my man made a craisglist page. I foound out and he admitted to it right away and took it down. Now I am reall good and knowing when he is lying, I can just see it in his eyes.
My mother when she is lying I would have no idea.
This fight between my fiancee and my family is killing me. I missed my very close cousins sons birthay because I was invited then uninvited because I asked if my fiancee could go. I mean I have to stick up for him. There have been times in the past where my mother has told my fiancee to leave me and if he dosnt she is going to make his like hell. Well she is.
Okay so we have been together for about five years and have a one year old daughter together and I am due to give birth to out second daughter anyday now.
I am so hurt because my mother wants me to split up the holidays and birthdays. meaning she wants Jayda Jo (my daughter) to have two christmas's, two easters, two thanksgivings and so on...
For my daughters first birthday the only person who was at her birthday from my side of the family was my sister Ashley. It killed me. I wanted to just break down and cry. But I had to hold it together for my daughter.
I just dont know what to do anymore. I feel like if I keep away from my family its hurting jayda Jo. By not seeing her family. But then I feel I should because if they cant accept her daddy then I should only back him up. I am just so lost. Last night I had a dream Jayda Jo was getting married and my mother asked me to have two weddings!!! Really is that what my life is going to be like forever???
I just dont know how to deal with this anymore, I want to make everyone happy and its not working. I am going to end up losing my fiancee becuase of this. I am just so lost. If anyone knows what I am going through, please help me!!!! Thanks all, sorry it got so long!