Has anyone had their toddler in the birth room?

Yvonne - posted on 04/12/2010

awww Some babies are really helpful but I dont think I want my daughter int he birthing room she is the type to pull cords out of machines lol

Kelly - posted on 04/12/2010

If you think she is up to it then go for it. Justr have a just in case person there in case she does get destressed. We have to play ours by ear when it comes to our son, if hes with us then so be it as it is allowed but the inlaws will be on the way to collect him if he is with us.

Sounds like your daughter is very up to it and in the end your child wont remember being there futher down the track so yeah

Krystal - posted on 04/09/2010

Carmella- I know what you mean about your LO wanting you, that's my biggest thing. If I make a sad face or pretend to be sad she rushes to my aid and asks if I am okay. She even puts her hands on my cheeks and makes a sad face herself. I know once we get in there I'll play it out step by step and see how she does.

I agree that it would be nicer for them to be in there and to meet their baby brother/sister as soon as their born.

Carmella - posted on 04/08/2010

i was just thnking about that today too, having my daughter in eth me, but i will have my sister and my aunt and best friend as well, so then they can tend to her, my only worry is wether she willwant me, and i will not be able to tend to her and my husband wll be tending to me, my other option was have her in there until I'm ready to push, then have my dad take her outside the room because of all the blood, she associates blood with "owies" and i think that part would upset her. But for me, i think it would be nice for her to be in there, and be able to meet her baby brother as soon as he is born

Lorraine - posted on 04/08/2010

I think you probably have to check with the hospital. The one that I looked into says that there can be a sibling in there as long as the child has an adult to comfort just them. They can't be going back and forth between you and your daughter. If you think she is ready and she wants to go and help you, then go for it.

Sara - posted on 04/06/2010

I think it's a great idea! She's already showed incredible maturity during the pregnancy, and I think if she wants to be there, you should let her. However, as others have said, if she gets upset, make sure someone's there to take her out.
I'd love to have mine along when I have my next baby, but she'll only be 18 months, and I think that's a bit young.

Michelle - posted on 04/04/2010

My first labor was very easy. But as we probably have all heard your first experiance is never like any of your other experiances with pregnancy and child birth.

Krystal - posted on 04/04/2010

My two year old will be in the room with me when I give birth to my second daughter. I know from my experience with her labor and delivery there was no crying out, grunting, or whatever other distress and it was a really easy 13 hours. So I'm not worried at all and think that you should definitely base it off your first labor. My daughter also enjoys watching birthing videos and things on TLC like special delivery, and a baby story.

Michelle - posted on 04/03/2010

Jenner it about the whole family thing. When my daughter was born, her father was there, but also so were both of our mothers his one sister and my neice (who my parents and I have raised and I love her like my own). So its nice to have that to tell her when shes older. I actually was talking to my neice about this the other day when she came over. She actually suggested (fyi shes only 12 she was 10 when my daughter was born) but she actually said to me "well I've already seen you have one baby, I could always do that again and hold Lily!" lol the look on her face was amazing. Same look people get when they offer you a ride to the store just "sure no big deal whatever" kind of thing. So now I have that as an option.

But I do agree her seeing having my contractions will really be what decides it, because if she can't handle that then no way will I have her in there. But if so her cousin and grandma are on stand-by thankfully.

Jenner - posted on 04/02/2010

i would say defentally not! !

in all those situations u decribed, none of which related to u in extreame pain and, crying out, sweting, groaning and grunting like a bush pig! (which all of those i certainally did in both of my births =) i found when i gave birth to my second she was the same, she knew i was having a baby, has been helpful whole preg, etc etc ,watching birthg vids, i think is soo diff than her seiing her own mummy that way, my experance with my daugheter was once the contractions started comming and i was at home b4 heading to the hosp, she didn't undertsnad at all. she was wonder y was i wincing in pain? why was i yelling? was i mad at her? was daddy hurting me? etc etc, and the last thing u wanna be doing is trying focus on the birth and worring bout how she handling the whole thing. .



but then again u could just bring her in, play it by ear, and if she doesn't like it can have grandma outside. .



dont think anything could be more beautiful than having the "whole" family there when the baby enters the world =)

Megan - posted on 03/28/2010

I have never heard of it but if its what you are comfortable with and the hospital allows it I say go for it. If she gets upset during labor just make sure grandma is in the waiting room to watch her if anyone changes their minds.