Christina - posted on 12/07/2009 ( 42 moms have responded )
Not quite sure if it's just because of my age (21, almost 22) or what, but I often have perfect strangers feel the need to say things like "Oh my goodness" or "Are you crazy" or "Do yall not believe in birth control or something?" when they see me around town, or give pitying or even critical looks, simply because of the proximity of ages for my two little girls (I'm not even really showing much that I'm pregnant yet, so I can only imagine the lovely reactions I'll be getting soon enough). I find this very aggravating, especially since it happens ALL THE TIME (and not even because the kids are acting up or something...they're very well-behaved in general).
My oldest daughter just turned 2 in November, which makes my girls 10 1/2 months apart. This was NOT an ideal gap, but works just fine for us. The 2 year old was the birth child of a member of my family who got pregnant in high school and was completely unprepared for motherhood. We took custody shortly after she turned 1 and are finalizing our adoption now. She was an unplanned addition to our family, but one of the biggest blessings in my life. Even people that now of our situation still feel the need to lecture us about having another, though.
I am due in July, so we will have a 21 month gap between the next child and my younger daughter. This just doesn't seem irrational to me. I always wanted an 18-24 month gap for multiple reasons, but am facing tons of criticism for it. Is this common with 2nd, 3rd, or more kids...or is this merely because of my age?