How to tell my parents

Cynthia - posted on 12/03/2009

I think the best thing to do would be, do it in a special way and make a big deal out of it! Act like you are thrilled and want the whole world to be thrilled with you! I dont know many parents who dont want their kids to be happy! If they start in giving you a hard time, sit down and explain to them that while you are very happy about the baby, you realize it is a big responsibilty both financially and otherwise: tell them you are a little worried about it yourself right now, and what you need more than anything is their love and support!

Amanda - posted on 11/07/2009

I think it would be good to tell her at your daughter's birthday party. it's a public place, like you said, so there will be witnesses. Anyways, don't be too scared to tell your parents. I know how scary it can be. My situation is rather similar to yours. I was in a not so great relationship with my son's father when I found out I was pregnant with him and not long after I found out I was expecting he left me because he wasn't ready to grow up and accept his responsibility. I was so scared to tell my parents. I know they were mad and somewhat disappointed in me but they didn't really show it. I have found a wonderful man since then who treats my son like his own, my son even calls him daddy. We are now expecting a baby together and believe me I was really nervous about telling my parents this time. We aren't yet engaged, but have talked about getting married before the baby comes. We also have been having many money issues. I am unemployed and it isn't easy living off just one person's income. I hope all goes well with telling your parents and maybe they will surprise you and not have a negative reaction about it.
p.s. my parents actually were much happier this time since they know my bf is a great guy and has taken on the responsibility of helping raise my son as his own.

April - posted on 11/05/2009

Thanks for all your help ladies. I was thinking that I should wait until after Thanksgiving. My daughter's birthday is Dec. 4th and we are having her party on the 5th. I figured this would be a great time to tell my mom since we will be in a public place and she won't be able to kill me without witnesses. Haha, just kidding. I am very scared of her though, that's why I let my parents know with my first child over the phone. I will be almost 16 weeks by then and even with wearing baggy clothes I will more than likely be showing so might as well tell her during something happy right? Let me know if you think this is a good idea or not.

Stefanie - posted on 10/27/2009

i know your feeling. i found out i was pregnant after only a month of dating my partner who know is my fiance and couldnt imagine being with out and i was so scared about telling my mum, putting it in a nice way she wasnt over the moon but she dealt with it. now we are we are expecting our 2nd child and the thought of telling her was shocking but then i thought to my self, she may be my mother but this is my life and i decide what i do with it and we are over joyed so what ever her reaction and opinion was meant nothing to me because i am very happy with my life and the things to come. my advise to you. stand up for yourself. you only live once. this is the new age you dont have to be married n moneys not everything, yes times will be tough but youll get through them as soon as you see your little baby nothing like money or marriage will matter to you. ESPECIALLY your parents opinon. lol all the best to you

Kelly - posted on 10/26/2009

Good luck with this hun. Just remember its you and him that matter and this baby and stressing isnt good for you all.
Take Care

April - posted on 10/26/2009

Well, my fiance told me that he is planning on us getting married before the baby is born so I think that will make it a little easier for them to be understanding.

Kelly - posted on 10/24/2009

Dont be scared telling them - i know its hard i was scared the first time as my parenbt s just seperated and all i got out of my dad was " great another problem" so yeah i know why your worried this time round...
Just tell then your engaged and plan to marry but you got pregnant and want to have this baby first. Hey after all it is your life and you have to do what you want. Just remind them you love them.

And to give you a smail just think of it this way i let my dad know im pregnant this time by email - didnt call him and i havent heard from him for everand he hasent replyed to my email so at least you dont have to email them to tell them.

April - posted on 10/22/2009

Thanks girls for your support and suggestions. I think I will tell them as soon as my first trimester is over just to be on the safe side.

Ashley - posted on 10/22/2009

I think the best thing to do is just sit down and tell them, have your new man with you and do it as a couple the longer you wait to tell them the more upset they may be. they may surprise you and not get angry. If they do get angry just tell them all the points you just told us in this post. Point out that you are engaged and that you do plan on marrying this man and had planned on having children with him anyways, sometimes things happen that may not be in the order we like, but you gotta just go with it. Tell them that you are both happy and will both continue to look for jobs to support this new baby and that yes it may not be the best time financially for you but you will still do the best you can and work as hard as you can. Good luck and don't let your parents scare you, I was scared to tell mine about my second and they were only upset I had waited so long!

Lisa - posted on 10/22/2009

i think the best way to tell them is to just tell them. your parents may surprise you and not be as angry as you are expecting. if they are upset, you just need to express to them that you are an adult and make your own choices in life. i hope everything works out for you and your family. good luck w/ the job hunt!