I am expecting my 2nd baby and a friend has offered to give me a 2nd shower is that ok?

Natalee - posted on 01/09/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )

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My son was born august 08 and this baby is due June 2010 I have a friend who really wants to give me a 2nd shower is that ok? I have been told no its not and i have been told that it is perfectly fine. Someone told me that it should be called a "sprinkle". Help im just trying to figure out weather its ok or not.

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Christina - posted on 02/02/2010

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I didn't ask anyone to give me a second shower because I am having a girl again but my friend wants to throw one for me. I told her if she really wanted to do it then to make it a diaper shower. That way I get the main thing I will really be needing and it will be just a few friends. I think if someone wants to do something special for you then go for it!!

Ashley - posted on 02/01/2010

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I think it's silly that there's etiquette for baby showers, only supposed to have them for their first born, or if it's another gender or if it's many years later and you have no more baby items. It is never improper to have a baby shower. A shower is so much more than gifts. It is an opportunity to gather family and friends together to celebrate the beginning of a new life. The birth of a baby is a joyous occasion, and it is always acceptable to celebrate it.

I will be having a baby sprinkle with this baby! It won't be as big as a baby shower, but I want to get together and celebrate this new life!

Angel - posted on 01/29/2010

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It's perfectly fine, a lot of moms do have 3 or even 4th babyshowers. Just enjoy it!!

Krystal Dawn - posted on 01/24/2010

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My daughter was born October 2005 and I am excepting my 2nd in August 2010. I have not talked about having a second shower yet but I am really thinking about it, The reason is because my daughter is 41/2 years old and I have no baby stuff left like none at all. I really need some extra help on buying baby stuff. I don't think it matters if you have a second shower. It's all up to you and if she's offering you I wouldn't say NO!

Ashley - posted on 01/22/2010

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I know someone that had a second baby and shower. They called it a push party. :)

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Barbara - posted on 02/19/2012

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yes every baby should have a shower (or sprinkle) if it is soon after another baby and you only need the smaller things. It's a party to celebrate your new baby!

Rosemary - posted on 02/12/2010

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i'm having a 2nd baby shower next week. my son was born july 08 and my next one is due march 19, 2010. Personally i think it's perfectly fine to have another one. I kind of like to think of them as birthday parties for the expected because after all you wouldn't be having the baby shower otherwise right? they are gifts for your new little one. and that's also what baby registries are for. to let people know what you do or don't have.

Sarah - posted on 02/09/2010

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Hi! I'm having my 2nd baby shower in a month, but decided to go out to a High Tea with a group on ladies to celebrate in leiu of gifts as i already have most things. I think every new baby should be celebrated. Why should one have a celebrations of it's arrival and the others not :)

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Heck! If someone wanted to throw me a Sprinkle or another shower, I'd be up for that. Especially since my first was a boy and my second is a girl but even if it's the same sex and you gave a lot of stuff away and it's a really good reason to get out and have a day to yourself with your friends before baby number 2 comes. If you have a lot of clothes given to you for your first shower like I did, you don't realize how much those clothes really cost until you have to go out and buy them. Not to mention you'll probably need a double stroller now and maybe even another carseat.

Karen - posted on 01/21/2010

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I have had a baby shower for all 3 of my kids, but there is quite a gap in their ages. My 1st was a girl, a little over 4 years later I had my son, then 13 years later I had another little girl. However, now my last daughter is 14 months and I'm due with another little girl in May.....I don't plan on having another shower for this next one. If I was having a boy, I'd be considering it a little more, but I have taken pretty good care of all my daughter's stuff. Maybe after the baby is born we will do a delivery celebration....I don't know though...Good Luck!

Sabrina - posted on 01/21/2010

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My first baby was born in June 2008 and I'm due in Sept. 2010 and I want to have another shower. I've also been to showers for 2nd and 3rds. Just register for the few things you need. My cousin wanted to buy a double stroller so her friend asked for money to go towards it( and no clothes). I've also heard of doing spa days, all diaper and wipe parties. My family is throwing me a family shower(just aunts and cousins, and other close family members) and everyone is bringing a frozen casserole so I can feed my family when we get home from the hospital. My last pregnancy we did a maternity clothes shower, but now I have all that.

Good Luck.

Kate - posted on 01/20/2010

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I never really thought about it. I have a daughter that will be 3 in September and a daughter due in April 2010. I didn't have a shower with my first one because #1, my mother bought like EVERYTHING we needed and #2, I am a Marine wife so I didn't know hardly anyone where we were living. I didn't have enough friends to have a baby shower. So, this time around, all the girls I know now want to give me a shower. I hate asking or expecting things so I was just going to give myself a shower. Or a little party. Buy soda, pizza, and cake and play some games. But, my friends are taking control of the whole thing. I kept almost EVERY item of clothing, all her blankets...pretty much everything my daughter ever used so I don't need much this time. I need like new bottle nipples, new bedding, a breast pump (since I am going to try and breast feed this time) and a few other things on there. I mean, just because this is my second kid, doesn't mean I don't need new stuff. And like someone said, it's celebrating a NEW life. I think whether you have one kid or 10 kids, you should always be spoiled with a shower. It's a time to celebrate a new baby.

Natalie - posted on 01/19/2010

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I've also heard that it's ok if you have the other sex the 2nd time around and then obviously you need all new clothes etc.
I had a boy first, had a baby shower. With my 2nd i had a girl and didn't have a baby shower.
Now i'm pregnant again but we gave all of our stuff away b/c we weren't planning on having another one so soon but then changed our minds later.
So we need a lot of stuff now.
If someone's gonna offer to give me a shower i will not say no.

I just think it's crazy, if you ask for too much stuff if you still have all of the baby stuff from your first pregnancy.
But if it's stuff like a few new outfits or some deco for the nursery, diapers, a bath set.. etc. i think it's totally fine.

It's a time to celebrate the baby you're carrying with your loved ones and friends and to have fun.

Kristal - posted on 01/13/2010

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if someone is offering then I would never say no!!! If people don't like the idea then they are welcome to not show up.. but don't let the opinions of others ruin the fun you could have! My daughter was born July 08 and this one is due March '10. I wish I had another shower.. but nobody has offered on this end!! It's totally up to you.. but I'd go for it! (Especially if your having the opposite sex baby)

Marcy - posted on 01/13/2010

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My daughter was born October 08, and I'm due at the beginning of April with #2 & 3. I've seen lots of showers for second & third babies, especially when the gender is different or there is a large gap in age (which isn't the case with you). If you're fine with it, go for it. I know someone is going to give me a shower...I'm expecting 2 boys, so most of the clothing I have won't work. I prefer the open house type shower (instead of the games) so that people can come and go as they please & don't feel obligated to stay the full time. It's also less intimidating! Good luck. Do you know what gender your second baby is yet?

Ericka - posted on 01/12/2010

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it is definitely ok. depending on where you are from people think it isnt ok i think its an old fashioned thing where you only have one or one for each gender.

Kay - posted on 01/12/2010

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I had this thought pop into my head last night. What about a scratch off party. Everyone just brings scratch off lottery tickets. Place in basket. one game can be guess how much she'll win. then you have fun scratching, might get a little or a lot. noone ifeels obligated to spend a lot of money. Just sounded really fun to me.

Whitney - posted on 01/12/2010

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I say if your friend wants to do it, let her!! I'm pregnant with my second and I probably won't have a shower for this one just because I know the routine this time, I know what the baby will need, last time I was nervous and didn't know what an aspirator was! I needed the help last time because when you're a new mom, other experienced mom's bring gifts they know you'll need that you may not even be aware of. So this time around, I know exactly how much of what and which styles and colors I like. I don't know if I'm having a boy or girl yet but once I know that I'll probably buy everything I need before anyone can even offer to give me a shower! haha.

Rachael - posted on 01/10/2010

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I have had a shower thrown for me with all 3 and they are all boys! After the first 2 a lot of stuff was broken or worn out, plus you always need diapers and wipes! I think it is nice for each child to be celebrated. Each of my boys has their own special homemade quilt, teddy bear, blankets, and even certain clothes that is just their own given at each shower. While reusing most things is awesome (and inevitable with all boys and being on a budget!) it's nice that not everything is a hand-me-down!

Shaina - posted on 01/10/2010

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If someone wants to throw you one, by all means go for it. It's usually frowned upon if you expect it or if you demand presents. Maybe suggest that people not bring presents.

Carolee - posted on 01/10/2010

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I've heard that it's okay if it's a different sex than your first baby. Otherwise, I've heard you just call it a pregnancy celebration thing so people don't feel oblidged to bring gifts. I say go for it no matter what!

Kay - posted on 01/10/2010

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I have had a shower with all three of my kids. I see nothing wrong with it. You are celebrating THAT CHILD not becoming a first time mom. If you are having a same sex child, or really dont need anything, you can do a theme shower (only bring diapers, or bring a gift for a needy child to donate, or something along those lines).

Jenna - posted on 01/09/2010

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im having my third shower (sprinkle) in two weeks and yes some people dont agree and some do agree. i think that if you dont have any baby stuff from your first or even your second baby that you should have another. every baby should have a celebration. Im having another cause i have a 4 year old girl and a 2 in half year old boy and this one is a boy and i gave all my stuff away to friends and so forth so i have nothing so that is why im having a "sprinkle" my third shower and like i said every baby deserves a celebration!

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