I am going to have a 14 month old and a new born.. how do i get ready for this?

Maree - posted on 10/22/2009 ( 20 moms have responded )

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and how do u think my older daughter will react to the new baby?

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Chantelle - posted on 11/08/2009

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Well i have a 2yr old and a 1 yr old 13months apart and currently pregnant with no.3 due end of May.. I found it quite easy really apart from that my eldest wasnt quite walking when i had my 2nd.. So i found myself carrying two babies around alot! Buy a decent twin pram, and just make sure you always give extra attention to the older one so he/she dont feel left out! I did not get my eldest of the bottle or dummy until he was 1 and half, but i didnt have any problems with this either. As far as im concerned dont force the eldest to grow up any quicker than he/she should as they are still babies too! Also an idea i read was that when you are feeding the new baby have a special toy box which only comes out at that time, so this keeps them occupied whilst your trying to feed baby! Ummmm what else??!! I suppose the first few months are the hardest but as soon as they start to play together things get sooo much easier as they always have a friend to play with or fight with! lol Good luck! Its so worth it having them close together they do have a special bond. Chantelle

Jennifer - posted on 11/22/2009

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My son was 14 months old when our daughter was born. There was really no way for us to prepare him for the new baby. At first, he didn't seem to notice there was a new baby around. But, after a few days, he suddenly changed and became whiney and clingy. He also started acting up. I am sure he did all this to get our attention, despite the fact that we were actually giving him (sometimes) more attention to get him out of trouble! We would just reassure him that we love him too and let him (nicely) touch the baby. If he needed attention when I was caring for the new baby, I would find a way to include him to. For example, I would read him a story or put him on the couch next to me and watch his favorite show while I was feeding the baby. It has been 6 weeks and his is doing better now, but it is definitely difficult with two young children!

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Crysta - posted on 12/26/2009

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Hey all. I'm a young mum 18 and have a 6 month old and our second baby on the way. He'll be 14 months when this ones born in August 2010. How can you tell if their jealous or any tips on helping the oldest get ready for the new arrival

Ashley - posted on 11/29/2009

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mine are 15 months apart and its been awesome! I havent had any jealousy issue, but i think it is because i tandem breastfed with both of them and they bonded that way. They are 3 and 22months now and are best friends! Good luck sweetie!

Samantha - posted on 11/24/2009

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i'm in the same boat, my son is 14 months now and will be 16 months old when my daughter is born, i'm worried he'll be jealous because she gets to use bottles and he no longer uses them. I try to tell him he is gonna be a big brother and tell him mommy has a baby in her belly but he don't understand he just looks at me like "whatever nobody is gonna steal my thunder" he has a 3 year old half sister that stays with us on weekends and he don't like having her around because she thinks she has to have all of her dads attention too!

Rikki-lee - posted on 11/23/2009

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i will have a 9yr old a 16mth old and a newborn and im worried to im going to have my hands full but im just going to play it day by day im very lucky my 9yr old is such a good help with her brother now she keeps telling me ill help you when the baby comes mum but what will you do when im a school god love her i tell her you be a kid and have fun lol such a mother hen

Staci - posted on 11/07/2009

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Hello,
I am almost the same as you guys but mines a little more complicated. My daughter will be 14 months when the new baby arrives but I also have a 9, 7, 5, 3 year old also. Help!!!

Korrie - posted on 11/07/2009

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hey,
i'm in the same boat as you, sorry i don't have any answers but i ask the same thing.
some lady told me just stay at home thats all you can do. think ill just take it day by day.

Amy - posted on 11/02/2009

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My oldest was 13 months old when the baby was born, they really did great. Yes the oldest was a bit jealous, but I would talk to her and explain everything, "Mommy has to feed baby sister now" or "Lets go change sister's diaper" My oldest is a huge help, and loves to do "favors" for mommy. I am hoping things go as easy when the baby is born, yes I am pregnant again, and will have three 28 months and younger. I have been talking to the oldest and telling her that we are going to have another baby in the house, and she has been helping me get the baby's room ready, it has been great fun. I am very tired though.....

Becky - posted on 10/27/2009

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Quoting Lisa:

I agree talking about it, showing birthing videos...but also holding another baby is a great way to find out. and make sure she's weaned. my first two were 15 months apart and they both nursed until they were two years old. which made for a very jealous toddler.


I'm sorry, but I'm confused.  Were you nursing them at the same time for 9 months?  I'm just curious.  Thanks!

Lisa - posted on 10/26/2009

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I agree talking about it, showing birthing videos...but also holding another baby is a great way to find out. and make sure she's weaned. my first two were 15 months apart and they both nursed until they were two years old. which made for a very jealous toddler.

Jessica - posted on 10/25/2009

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It's easier than you think. Just prepare your child for a new baby..talk about it a lot, play dolls a lot, and let them help feed and change diapers. My oldest two children are 16 months apart and my 2nd and 3rd are 3 days shy of being 13 months apart....with my 2nd and 3rd my son didnt want to eat when his baby sister was in the room so i would have to make sure she was in her bed so he'd eat, but after about 1 week everything was great. :) Just let them be as involved as possible.

Becky - posted on 10/25/2009

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I have an almost 2 year old and we are ttc. My hats off to all you ladies who have little ones so close in age! =)

Andriana - posted on 10/25/2009

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I am right there with you except worse. My second son will only be 11 months when I am due to deliver this time.

Rachele - posted on 10/24/2009

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My two sons are 16 months apart and my oldest reacted great when his brother was born, he had his moments, but that is expected with young kids. They are now toddlers and its a little bit harder cause now the little brother can get around and get his toys and they are both mommy's boys. But its worth it, they are loving and sweet most days and I love all the hugs and kisses.

Michelle - posted on 10/23/2009

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I will have a 12 year old, a 14 month old and a newborn. I work from home part time and think that I will have to quit working if I have 2 at home that young. I think it will be quite a handful but well worth it.

Mia - posted on 10/23/2009

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O I'm in the same boat. My son will be 2 in March and I'm having another boy in january. I keep telling my son that Karson is coming. He'll point to my (growing...lol) belly and say baby. I also show him things that were his but now Karson will wear. Im a little nervous about taking care of 2 kids so close in age though. Im also a single mom, but thank god I moved back to my home state and im living with my mom. Support is very important. Good luck.

Ashley - posted on 10/23/2009

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My two oldest are 14 months apart, and honestly it wasn't that hard for my daughter to accept my son. Yes there was a little jealousy but no matter what age there will always be jealousy. One thing I did before I had him was I let her help with things like decorating his room and putting away his clothes and kept telling her that she was going to be a big sister and had to be a big girl and not a baby anymore. When he came I let her help as best she could with him and tried to include her in everything. She also got one day a week when my mother in law would watch the baby and we would take her out on a special date with just mommy and daddy. I never really had any big problems though. Just don't stress about it!

Amy - posted on 10/23/2009

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My son will be 15 months old when my daughter is born and he needs to see a few different therapist because he was 2 months premature (so he's like a 13 month old) they all told me that he will most likely be jealous of certain things like maybe putting the baby in his swing, or seeing the baby with pacifiers or a bottle. I would try to get her off her bottle and totally onto a sippy by the time the new baby comes, and we're going to try to take away the paci's soon. Besides that I don't really know what to expect either! It's going to be insane =)

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