Mommy Time vs Daddy Time

Kristin - posted on 05/17/2010

I did for a bit. But then I told my husband that if he didn't start helping me with OUR home and OUR kids, he would be doing it ALL himself. He didn't really believe me, so I kind of boycotted for a few days. LIfe is much more balanced.

Kelly - posted on 05/16/2010

My hubby with our first was similar then we moved from NZ to Aussie and he was a stay at home dad for 9months. He realised what i did was tough and i had it worse then him since i had the first year at home.
He has slipped back into some bad habits and im forever telling him he has to spend time with his son as our son is a real mummys boys... but im 5weeks away from having another little boy and he knows he isnt going to get that break time like he can now so im letting him get away with a little bit more as he has promised and is very ready to help out with this next one so yeah...

My suggestion to you other mums is have a long hard talk to your partners and make them realise that it is hard work what you are doing and you need time out too... my first year SAHM my time out was a sunday breakie with my mum or my hair done... just enough time away to relax.
GOOD LUCK

Jane - posted on 05/16/2010

he should be picking her up not only b/c it makes sense and is fair, but b/c time for him and her is very important. your child needs time w/him, not just you. tell him your work schedule has changed, you have to work extra hours, etc. and make yourself scarce during that time so he has to pick her up.

Christena - posted on 05/10/2010

I do believe most men are like this because my husband does the same and it sucks we always fight because I am a SAHM to my son who is 10 months old and I just got custody of his two other children 4, and 3 they are so bad and I do it by myself I wish we could trade places for one day. He doesn't even help me at night. I feed, bathe, and dress all three kids and watch them 24/7 this is the hardest job I have ever had. Good luck

Corina - posted on 05/06/2010

My husband used to be the same way, until we had a serious long conversations about his behavior. I have two boys ages 4 and 2 and a little girl on the way due may 28. I am the type of person that does not complain..he would come home from work, check his emails, watch t.v. than go to sleep. I am SAHM so I would be with our children 24/7. However, with this pregnancy, it was high risk and I have been on bed rest since I was only 15 weeks..he had to step up and be the caretaker and provider at night. He did not understand why his children 4 and 2 year old would not let him bath them, feed or dress them because they wanted mommy. We had to have his mom help out because they refused for him to do anything. I than explain to him, maybe its because you never done any this with them. He now said the computer and t.v. is keeping him away from his family. Once the other baby is born he said he going to help me more because he never realized how much I have to do on daily basis till he had to do it himself.

Andrea - posted on 05/02/2010

OMG my my bf does the same thing to he plays games and takes naps for like ever and if i say something he goes your so lucky id love just to sit at home all day and play with the baby all day long its soo annoying I dont even remember the last time hes even changed a diaper or and outfit or help a little while I give her a bath.

Candice - posted on 04/27/2010

YES, and they use the excuse like "i'v been at work all day and there tired" well i say im tired and he says iv been on my butt all day on the comp NOT true...i know its so frustrating....oh and at the end of the day, there not tht tired to get sumif ya kno wat i mean....

Lisa - posted on 04/24/2010

My husband chills in the bed room, and plays games while I'm stuck in he living room with our daughter. He does let me have me time if I ask though. I never ask though idky I just don't yet I complain lol

Lindsay - posted on 04/23/2010

I feel hubby gets more time out of our apt but I don't feel he has more free time. He works all day while I take care of the house and kids and then when he comes home we both share taking care of the kids. Pretty soon, he will be starting a evening job as well so 3 days out of the week it will be me and the kids from the time we wake till the time we go to bed.

Christina - posted on 04/22/2010

I am in the same sort of situation however I do not work right now and I am with our daughter 24/7! I do understand that he has worked 8 to ten hours when he gets home but for some reason it always seems like it is more important or strenuous than what I do all day! Whenever I go out, whether its to the grocery store by myself or a doctors appt, i am getting a call an hour later asking where I am at and when I will be home! One thing that you can try is date night! Where the both of you get to go out together and you can talk about your activities and maybe you can put some sense into his head! lol Another thing is look into churches or friends/neighbors that can watch her when you are home so you can get some alone time and then maybe it will hit him that you could use some help when he is missing his little girl!?