Has Your Tween Started The Door Slamming Foot Stamping Stage Yet?

Tina - posted on 02/17/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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Has Your Tween Started The Door Slamming Foot Stamping Stage Yet?

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Wendy - posted on 03/13/2009

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My 14 year old has been doing it since she was about 12 and my 12 year old has been doing it since he was 10. We found away to fix both of them when they try to do it now. With the stomping I either offer to have a stommping compitition( knowing that they wont win) or telling them that if they wake the neighbors baby they will have to go next door(we live in an apartment) and tell them they are sorry and offer to help put the baby back to sleep.

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Jalanisalami - posted on 01/31/2013

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I took the door off. slam that! replaced it with beaded curtains of course..lol

Emelien Da - posted on 12/17/2012

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My 12 year old girl did try this and it is really annoying especially if I am upset with her. I do take away privileges when she does not show respect when it is due, and this is something she needs to understand so that she can grow up to be responsible as well as respectful to others around her. I don't want to demand respect but she needs to learn how to show it, even if she may think she is right. I rather she hates me now, then the world hating her when she is on her own

V - posted on 12/14/2012

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I am quite the authoritarian parent which I admit I regret. My daughter as a result is abnormally well-behaved. She has not entered that stage as she knows she would be punished. The only time she has ever, ever yelled at my husband or I was when I accused her of being a liar because she told us she forgot to show us a note. I later discovered she really wasn't lying, but oh well. My daughter keeps a lot to herself which I assume includes her typical tween feelings.

Dana - posted on 10/17/2011

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When my teenage stepdaughter did this, all it took was a couple threats to remove her door (with her older brother, we actually DID remove the door for a while!). Since she knew we would follow through on the threat, the door slamming stopped. We don't allow shoes on in the house, so foot stomping doesn't really make a lot of noise.

Tammy - posted on 08/12/2009

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My 12 year old stomps and mumbles under her breath when its time to clean her room. OMG!! I tell her I dont care how much you stompand mumble you just better get it done!!!

Leslie - posted on 04/30/2009

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My 11 year old daughter is great at slamming and stomping. We did take the door off of her bedroom for 2 weeks. She really hated this because her bedroom is right off the living room. Talk about no privacy! We use the door to combat the stomping as well. There really is no consequence that works well to stop stomping. Now is she stomps or slams, we remind her about the door and that usually takes care of it. If not, down comes the door!

Jodi - posted on 04/19/2009

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Mine tries the door slamming, definitely the stomping but her Dad will step in with all that so I don't have to. I am prepared to remove the door, if necessary though.

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just par 4 the course I had my eldest do it but she has come through the other side n is now a gem of a girl but my 2nd eldest is now taking her place even though they are completely different characters but heyho just get out the surfboard n ride the waves n believe u me some r tidals!!!

Sara - posted on 03/21/2009

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My son (15) has never done this my girls (17 and 13) were notorious for it. We worned them that if they continued that we would take there doors of the hinges. They didn't believe us. Yep, we took them off! We ended up hanging up sheet for their privacy. They went without doors for a couple months. I haven't had to many issues since and if they do I just offer to remove the doors  I have found that threats done work if you issue an ultimatum follow through that way they no the boundarys. To many threats with no follow through and the kids learn the game they know how far you can be pushed and then they control the situation. I'm the parent and I'm in charge.

Wendy - posted on 03/13/2009

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Another thing that my husband and I did with our 2 older children, now 21 and 18, was make them walk up and down the stairs 5 time each way. For every time after that it would increase by 5 more trips up and down the stairs until they were so tired from it they didn't want to do it anymore..

Katrina - posted on 02/28/2009

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Yes, this is new for my daughter who is 12.  If I ask her to go to her room she stomps her feet up the stairs!

Neely - posted on 02/25/2009

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Mine daughter slams doors. I threaten to take her door off all the time. Any clue how to get her to stop?

Tina - posted on 02/17/2009

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Actually i haven't had much problem with my 10 yr old on this..although he is starting with the mouth of a teenager with NO, i dont think so...He hears and see's the older boys mouth off so he thinks its ok..URgh..

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