My 13-year-old daughter is uncomfortable with her breasts...

Marissa - posted on 07/06/2012

Oh dear. If she wants to be smaller, explain to her that she is already much smaller then girls her age, and she shouldn't be so self-concious because she is already beautiful. If she has heard it a million times from you, have someone else tell her and have a talk with your younger daughter on how hard a time this is for her older sister and how she may be able to help (not mentioning them, telling her sister how she is beautiful) If she wants them bigger, tell them that she shouldn't be worrying about that and she has the perfect body for her. Keep giving her encouraging, happy remarks to keep her happy. She's not depressed, is she? Make sure it doesn't turn out that way, and you might want to buy her some new bras.
I hope I helped!
Marissa Pierre

Julie - posted on 07/03/2012

some girls are uncomfortable thinking about heir bodies while they are changing and then there is peer pressure to fit in and conform. so long as she has the apropriate size fitted bra and clothes and you keep boosting her confidence in different ways like a little hsopping trip even if it is only for a new top or something and tell her she looks lovely and dont let her fall into the its trendy so i want it even if she doesnt suit it trap make sure she looks nice in what ever she chooses. i remember being that age and didnt have anyone boost my confidence i always felt awkward and horrible when really all it take sis someone to tell you occasionaly that you look nice. and for all of you with girls dont let their brothers call them names or say horrible things teahc your sons respect for their sister and if you catch them doing anything horrible tell them off straight away and dont let them get away with it. some parents say its all inocent but it isnt to the girl on the receiving end

Michelle - posted on 03/16/2012

This is all because of the sexualization of breasts by our ridiculous masculine society. I am 30 years old with barely A cup breasts and I still struggle with my body image because of them. I often don't feel much like a woman. And to be honest, people still make rude comments to me. My own mother offended me when she showed up while I had no bra on. The most personal advice I can offer is to just prod her a little bit. It may be that she's just humiliated by her feelings and holding them all inside. And who can blame her? Being flat chested is the opposite of what the US defines as attractive, beautiful, and even "normal". She might just need to release the negative feelings. And if I'm connecting here, she probably feels the same rage that I do at society for making me feel unfeminine in my own body. But all these feelings can be quite confusing and difficult to deal with and explain for a girls her age. I think if you can just get her to open up a little bit and remain mostly quiet (even when you just want to scoop her up in your arms) and the rest will flow. I really hope your daughter finds some comfort with her body or a growth spurt ;) Good luck and I hope I helped a wee bit!

Janet - posted on 11/27/2011

Thank you for the help, Sandra. Yes, I think you are very much right, that young teenagers want to 'fit in'. I have tried to tell her that she is normal, and shouldn't feel different, but I think that for at least 1/2 years this need for "being normal" will continue. If anybody else has any experience in this, or has some other advice, please do share.

Sandra - posted on 11/20/2011

Just tell her she is not too small she is just right and is exactly the size she is supposed to be.. God made her and she is perfect the way she is.,, Let her know that everyone grows at different ages in their lives and however she turns out she will not know till she is fully grown.. But every stage she is in let her know she is normal. As long as she knows she is "normal" she will feel better about herself and will not try to shrink away to hide herself. if it would make her feel better maybe ask her if she would like to get a padded bra until her hormones could kicked in.Walmart has padded bras starting at size aa... Hope this could somewhat help... Its so hard to be a teenager as is but to be different is sometimes totally devistating.. Well good luck and God Bless..xox...