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Quality time with each baby???

Raquel - posted on 01/28/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

Hi ladies. I'm having a hard time being able to bond with each of my boys, and spend one on one time with them without the other baby needing attention and taking me away. I want to be able to have the same sort of bonding relationship that I had with my first son Lucas, but it seems like all I'm doing is just trying to get through the day without losing my mind most days! How do you do it? How do you make sure that you're giving each of your kids the kind of attention they need?

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Raquel - posted on 01/30/2009

thanks sabrina! i really appreciate your words of encouragement. i think i'm definitely going to have to make an effort to make time for each of my boys as much as possible. did you ever do any mommy & me classes with your twins? did you do any classes with them individually? i might just try to sign up for classes with each one separately and get a sitter for the other so that i can get some time alone with each. thanks again for your reply to my post! :)

Sabrina - posted on 01/30/2009

You know Raquel, I read your post a few days ago, and I didn't know what to say, until i discussed it with my husband and you know what? He said the Perfect thing. "It will come." And it will. The first few months with a baby, be there one or more, the best bonding you can do is simply be there to take care of their needs. I know its hard right now because as soon as one is happy the other is not, with no real time to spend with either when they aren't in some "need" state. But you know twins are very aware of each other and that the other one needs you too. It sounds strange but i believe its true. And at four months they don't really show their attachment to you but it is there.

But as my husband said, It will come. Theirs nothing like two little boys attacking you with a big hug at the same time, or hugging each other (thats the cutest). You will see the bond. It will come, just keep doing what your doing. :)