So forgetful...anybody else?

Rebecca - posted on 06/22/2010 ( 22 moms have responded )

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I have fibromyalgia and I just cannot remember anything anymore. I forgot to pick up my daughter again. My husband was mad about it. He knows already how forgetful I am. I can't help it! I write notes to myself and I ask others to help remind me. But, he still looks down on me.

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Linda - posted on 09/12/2010

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better late than never!?!....My doctor would tell me that someone in constant pain has memory loss, however, my bloodwork showed I had a vitamin D loss, and taking supplements seemed to help me a bit! Might be worth asking your Dr. to test it, next time you need bloodwork. Hope that helps someone.

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Sherri - posted on 01/15/2011

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You are so right Amanda. Unless someone lives this way they have no idea how difficult it is for us. I've lost friends because they just don't understand (but I guess they weren't true friends in the first place). I hate feeling like this so much! I used to be very intelligent and now I feel like an idiot most of the time. It's bad when your four year old is correcting you for saying the wrong word! And I've missed so many appts its ridiculous - and it gets expensive when they charge for missed appts. Its not like I choose to forget this stuff!!!

Amanda - posted on 01/15/2011

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iv made 3 appointments now for bloodtests but i forgot all of them iv just had a letter from my G.P asking me to make another one oh no i'll probably forget to do that aswell. Its terrible the way it makes you feel and sometimes the way other people that don't understand look at you like your stupid. I tell you if they had to deal with half an hour in our shoes they wouldn't cope at all...

Regina - posted on 01/15/2011

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I took my grandkids and daughter (all under 9) camping this week........ and forgot the tent
Regina

Kathleen - posted on 11/16/2010

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Called Fibro Fog - very common symptom of Fibro. You are not alone in this and should not be made to feel guilty. Your illness is as valid as cancer and don't think otherwise.

Bonnie - posted on 09/16/2010

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I think maybe the medication we are all taking also plays a part in our forgetfulness. Sometimes, I am so "out of it" and "spaced out" from the pain medication, no wonder I can't remember anything. I notice that when I am overtired, my memory seems to be worse. What about the rest of you? Do you think there is a connection?

Christine - posted on 09/11/2010

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i sometimes lose my train of thought when i am in mid-sentence---that really makes you feel dumb!

Angella - posted on 08/31/2010

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chronic pain here too... Sjogrens' syndrome and possibly R.A. (awaiting results). I've forgotten my daughter at school and even forgot which street I lived on in time to turn the corner. The scariest was, on several occasions, forgetting I'm cooking something on the stove. No fires so far...thank goodness. Also, we moved a year ago and I still carry a note in my purse with my address just in case "I come up blank" when asked. I know there are lots of other things..but I cant seem to remember at the moment! (lol)

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I'm sorry to hear about your job, Carrie. I'm glad I am a stay-at-home mom. My last full time job ended in 2001 when I got laid off from a what was then major telecommunication company. I have people around me to help me remember here at home!

Carrie - posted on 08/30/2010

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I'm the friend on the way fired I forgot to file quarterly taxes. For two quarters in a row. And then there is the constant checking if I locked the doors. AArrrrggghhhh but I could never spell.

Suzanne - posted on 08/30/2010

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I'm not sure who to be more thankful to, you or everyone who has responded. My best friend calls it the fibro fog. I've had to quit working b/c things got so bad. My mom actually got fired. By the time they let her go the girls she had trained were re-training her. I've forgotten the kid, forgotten food, forgotten how to spell (THE WORST), forget what my husband and I are talking about (in the middle of the conversation), I even forget to finish my sentences - my mother HATES that one. Surprised I'm remembering what I'm typing about now. I'm going to show my husband these posts so he can see that I don't purposefully forget the things he asks me to get from the store.

You are SO not alone. I just forgot about the time and I need to get my kid to school...

Lynn - posted on 08/27/2010

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I have fibromyalgia as well and I am so forgetful. I really hate it. I forget paying bills & other important stuff. I have to write everything down or else...it will be forgotten. Luckily, my hubby is really understanding and I know I am very blessed to have him. I know that many people out there would not be as understanding & helpful as he is.

Amanda - posted on 08/26/2010

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after reading all these posts im glad im not the onlt one forgetting everything , the main thing is my medication which then leaves me in more pain. i forget where my keys are and appointments iv had to change my doctors app 3 times so far i do laugh about it but i worry to...but we have to keep smiling :)

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Forgetful is my middle name! I could set a timer but then it would go off and I could forget what it was for in the first place. My worst forgetfulness is having something in my hand, setting it down, then seems only 2 seconds later I can't for the life of me find it!! This includes my glasses, my coffee cup, a cup of water...you get the idea. My husband stopped me this morning asking what was I looking for; my response - I'm just on my usual morning hunt for my coffee.

I suppose I should have prefaced this with the fact that I also suffer from chronic pain, have for more years than I can remember. And, as someone else mentioned, there's that menopause thing going on too. I have never forgotten a child, just events, things I may be asked to do, losing things I just had in my hands...that kind of stuff. Everything has to be written down. I could be heading out the door to the grocery store with my list, someone will ask me to pick up something and if I don't stop and write it down immediately, I will usually forget what it even was before I get to the store. I also have trouble getting words out, sometimes can't say the word I want even though it's seems to be on the tip of my tongue. All this is very frustrating. Don't know what to tell you except write it down. I will put notes on the front door (inside) for myself sometimes to help me remember things when I head out. Take care!

Bonnie - posted on 08/10/2010

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I also forget things and simple words, or people's names that I've known forever. Don't know if it's the FM or the darn Menopause thing......

I find it very helpful to set the timer on my stove or microwave to remind me of things for the short term (cooking, baking, picking up my daughter, etc.). I also write everything on my calendar and in my Outlook calendar and set the timer to go off with 5-10 mins. to go. I also switch my rings to the opposite fingers if I really need to remember something when I am out shopping. That really helps. Unfortunately, not sure how to fix my problem of not remembering who is who, or what a doorknob is called some days. I really miss my mind!

Maybe you could show these posts to your hubby so he could see that it is "normal" for us to forget. Maybe he could come up with ways of reminding you like calling your cell or sending you a text. You could also set the alarm on your cell phone to go off when you need to pick her up.

Good luck.

Bonnie

Christine - posted on 07/28/2010

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my timer is running right now so i won't forget to pick my daughter up froim piano!

Sherri - posted on 07/27/2010

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I forget things constantly - once I gave my maiden name to the nurse at the dr's office and I had been married for over 6 years! My problems come from a head injury after a drunk driver t-boned my side of the vehicle. I have constant pain and severe headaches that just make the forgetfulness worse. Thankfully I have been able to come up with some techniques to help me remember ie. I put the timer on the stove on anytime I cook (even if it's something that I doesn't need to be timed), I also use colored post it flags on my calender to show who has an appt on which day (that way I can see quickly who has an appt on any given day), something else I use is an itouch where I keep all my lists of what I need to buy, to do, and my schedule. I also forget words or use the wrong word - it's so embarassing. Although I haven't forgotten to pick up my son (one of my biggest fears) I have messed up on times of his events and appts and missed so many things. Hope some of this helps - it's a horrible way to feel but your not alone.

Christine - posted on 07/10/2010

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rebecca,, i once forgot to pick up one of my children from a birthday party. i had left home and gone to a church dinner with my husband. one of my kids rode their bike to the church and told me i had forgotten to get my daughter----it was at least 2 hours or longer since the party had been over. when i got to the house, the parents had already had to leave to go somewhere else---but one of their older children admitted to me that their mother had done the same thing before!LOL! this was before my fibro was even an issue that i was aware of. NOW, i forget so many things it is rediculous. if people ask me to do something, i tell them i'll do it, but they will have to call and remind me.
i have trouble coming up with words alot, too. i have also been known to lose my train of thought in the middle of a sentence. it just goes with the territory and the medications for pain just make it worse.

Gina - posted on 07/09/2010

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i cant get a diagnosis, thats my problem. i have issues with chronic pain over 5 years now. i have been having trouble word finding, switching words around, cant spell at all. i think i say "UM" more than anyone i know. its very annoying to me i can only imagine what other people think. i just went to the doc this morning and she gonna start treating me for fibromyalgia without the diagnosis until i see the neuro in August. Hopefully i will know something then...but i do know how u feel..

Kathryn - posted on 07/02/2010

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I have trouble remembering things also. I have never forgotten a child, but I have forgotten to take them to dance lessons or soccer practice. I often forget where I put my keys or that I put something on the stove. My husband gets upset with me, but I am trying my best. I have no good advice. I just thought you would like to know that you are not the only one.

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