Having your child attend school where you work.

Clarissa - posted on 07/07/2009 ( 152 moms have responded )

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My daughter is starting kindergarten this fall in the school that I am currently teaching. I have mixed feelings about this. Any comments?

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Carole - posted on 07/07/2009

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I taught middle school (now retired) where 2 of my sons attended. I actually taught one of my sons - which went quite well. The biggest issue might be, when your daughter is older, that kids might complain to her about you. I prepared my kids for that before I started at the school. I told them that if someone complained to them about me they should say, "You think she's tough to have in class, you should try LIVING with her. You wouldn't believe it!" No lies, no defensiveness, no problems. (By the way, since they were prepared, it never happened.)

Dafne - posted on 07/04/2012

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It really doesn't matter and as long as you keep your distance in conflicting discipline in the school. If the school have a good reputation being the best education you could get in the area why not. Try not to be over protective of your child...they are resilient and they have to face the world on their own one way or the other.
If any case there will be conflict between other kids in school where you child is involve try to stay out of it as much as possible, let the teacher handle it first until you are called.
Good luck and take care.

Olivia - posted on 07/08/2009

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Make sure you have open communication with your other colleagues. Also make sure you have good rapport with the rest of the staff. Sometimes if you are not admired by the staff, it makes the experience for your child that much difficult. Imagine being in the school and witnessing your child's specialized mistreatment? Horrible. I transferred my daughter at the end of her 3rd grade year!

User - posted on 07/07/2009

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#1 - Meet her teacher, explain to her you work there as well. Establish a great system of communication with her teacher and that will help them immediately.

#2- If something goes wrong, do not overstep the boundaries. Meaning, if you see your child being diciplined in the correct fashion, do not step in. Let her teacher handle it.

#3- Take a deep breath! Its such a blessing to be in the same place. Its always nice to bump into your own child and wave at them throughout the day.

Gina - posted on 06/26/2012

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I used to work at a school and remember how as soon as we found out that a child was so and so's son/daughter we would automatically treat them a little nicer. I don't necessarily think it's a bad thing for the child but I can imagine that it's mostly stressful for the parent because if your child acts up and gets in big trouble for something, the whole school finds out about it and you may hear comments from both students and co-workers for years to come! Regardless I still think the pros outweigh the cons, you and your child will feel closer, share memories of teachers,students and school events for the rest of your lives. I also believe it's beneficial for the child to know that mom works at the school because they will associate school as an extension of home, build ties to the community and have the opportunity of learning that "mommy" plays many roles, it's good for children to see the "proffesional" side of you.

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User - posted on 01/22/2014

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I work in the same school as my kids and with the girls it was easy the pros where all there them leaving with me no child care issues around for the kids but now its hard I have a girl in year 6 and a boy in reception .
my girl isn't getting on with the yeach teacher and imfinding it hard as a parent to help her.
For the best I'm letting her and the teacher's sort it out told her to speak to an adult she is conformable with about her issues.
We will have to see and my boy is a mummy's boy so it's not helping.
I think I'm going to have to move them to help them grow x x

Jameelah Marie - posted on 11/19/2013

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We'll if your child act up when you go to work
But I have to pull from you ask question first

Veronica - posted on 06/30/2012

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I guess it really depends on whether or not it is a good school. I mean, all schools are going to have bullies and mean people, but really, if your kid is a good kid, and she most likely is, then really, the education is the most important thing.

User - posted on 06/22/2012

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I have 4 kids, 2 of which attend the school where I teach (The other 2 are older). The great thing about it is no worries about before/after school care, I get some input as to their teacher/placement (although that varies between administrators), and I know all the school dates and activities going on. The down side is that other teachers tend to expect your kids to be above grade level in every area, which isn't always the case (like doctor's kids can't get sick, or preacher's kids can't do anything wrong, you know?) Sometimes the lines between teacher and mom get a little fuzzy, especially if there is a problem. On the whole, though, I have enjoyed the experience.

Heather - posted on 05/27/2012

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My daughter has a student in her class whose mother is a teacher at that school and she is constantly being treated with extra care and consideration...it's the little things like being allowed extra craft supplies, being allowed to leave the class to go talk to her mom etc that seem to hit a sore spot with the other kids' in the class...and what's worse is that the little girl's best friend also receives special treatment. The down side, really, is that the teacher's daughter is being resented by the other children. I agree with Melody regarding talking to the other teacher right away...my thought is perhaps tell him/her your concerns and see what they suggest? Good luck!

Melissa - posted on 05/27/2012

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The benefits would be not having to drop her off and pick her up somewhere else. The down side is lots of transporting her to and from parties and play dates, when she is going to her neighborhood school she will meet kids close to home.

B - posted on 05/25/2012

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Does anyone know of any research that states a child should NOT attend the same school were his/her parent is a teacher?

Leanne - posted on 04/05/2012

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Hello, both of my daughters had always attended my schools (I teach instrumental music-strings, years 3-12). Last year, my now year nine daughter began high school. It was a huge change for our family, not least because she wanted to attend the high school her friends were going to. I said no.



I stand by my choice, as she loved high school from day one and I don't teach at her school. For the first time ever, Zoe is being taught (and conducted) by someone other than me, it's great!



There are good points to either side of this question.

Teresa - posted on 03/31/2012

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My family and I are moving in two weeks.. We are on the border of two different school districts. We live in one and I teach in the other. However, since we have to move, we are going to move into the one I teach so I can pupil place them with me. It makes our life easier bc my husband had to quit working due to his disability. The girls were getting home before me and he just couldn't take care of them.



Now they can leave home and come home the same time I do. The girls are looking forward to it even though they are sad about leaving theirs. I agre with what someone else said. Make it. Lear to that teacher that they should discipline your child the same way they do other children.



I personally am looking forward to it:)

Madeline - posted on 03/10/2012

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Hi Clarissa, I have seen it work well but it depends on your child. I chose for my daughter not to go to the school where I work because she would expect my full attention at 3:05. Which would not give me time to change my teacher hat to my mommy hat. My friend's daughter on the other had is far more independent and she moves about the building talking to her teacher friends and basically enjoying herself until her mom finishes prepping her class for the next day. Also ask your child how she feels. My daughter said she thought people might treat her differently because I teach at the school.

Holly - posted on 03/08/2012

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I teach high school, both of my daughters have been in my building. I've loved it!

Theresa - posted on 03/07/2012

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I was at one time a paraprofessional at the school that I mys son attends. During those three years, he was in the primary grades and I had a good relationship with the teachers and life was great for both he and I. The primary teachers were more nurturing and they respected the fact that I wanted him to be treated as fairly as any other student as well as respected the fact that during the day I am at work, so they communicated with me as if I didn't work in the building during the day unless the situtation was urgent (very rarely I might add). However, since my son has been in the itermediate grades for the last two years, and I took the job as School secretary, life has been a living ----! Sorry, for the language. He has been miserable and so have I. The teachers have singled him out for a different standard as if he is never allowed to make a mistake. Now that my role has changed, I have begun to have a strained relationship with a few of them and their comments and attitudes about me have either been inadvertently or advertently taken out on him. He hates school and I feel so badly for him. I feel torn between being a parent and being and employee. I am planning on transferring him out so that his experience with school can once again be pleasant and memorable. Wish I had unlimited space to go into particulars, but to make a long story short.... I would never recommend that you work where your child goes to school, eventually it goes bad. Besides, both you and your child need your own space, without scrutiny and judgement. Both of you need the environment to be yourself without affecting each other.

Denise - posted on 03/04/2012

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I think all the replies bring up great points. I was the child of a teacher at a K-8 school and I hated it but I am a very independent person and then went to the high school and there was my uncle. Then again, now I am a teacher! I took my first son to Kindergarten with me and then changed him to our neighborhood school because he wanted to play ball. The second went to PreK in my system but then went to the neighborhood school. I have friends who have their kids with them and they are now in middle school and high school and it has worked mostly well for them except that all their friends are in their school system and they don't have any in their neighborhood. The only thing I have seen negative is that their children interrupted their classroom time a lot. When I taught low readers for EIP in that room, I realized how often, and I did not like it. But this person expected them to let her know every little thing about her children and would get upset if they didn't. My sons' teacher would write me a note or let me know after school like every other parent or ask the office to call me if he was sick. Then they brought them on teacher days where it was also a disturbance. Plus, the rest of us wanted a day with NO kids, lol. We now have two teachers with kids that run up and down the halls, play ball in the hall, after school. Granted, the other kids are gone, but I need quiet to plan. I don't feel it is my place to fuss at them but someone has complained and it has gotten better though they escape sometimes, LOL! My only problem I had that didn't work well is if I was sick, I had trouble getting him there as my husband was unable to help some days. That's my two cents!!! I think it depends on you and your needs, mostly. I am glad they went to their neighborhood school now because they are grown and have life long friends here.

Brooke - posted on 12/25/2011

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My daughter attends the school I work at. It has not been much of a problem. She knows not to call me mommy and quite honestly she's more interested in her friends at school than seeing me. However, I would not have my child in my class. Last year I switched to teaching Pre- K and she should've been in my class so I chose to send her to another school for that year. She struggled with that separation at first, but it ended up being a good move for the both of us.

Michelle - posted on 12/23/2011

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My son who is now in first grade has been with me at my school for 3 years. In kindergarten, it was a challenge for him. I had to have strict boundaries during school hours. When we are in school he can say hello with a thumbs up signal. I do not assume the mommy position until after school. In kindergarten I tried to mention something to him about his behavior in the hallway and he fell out. I realized... never again. It is great keeping an eye on him from a distance. At the end of the day he gets many hugs and kisses from mommy. He is in 1st grade now, in the class next door, and is doing very well! There is a sense of security for me knowing he is safe and in great hands! Enjoy!

Andrea - posted on 10/26/2011

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It would probably benefit you because she can go to your class after school and you wouldn't have to worry about a sitter

Karen - posted on 10/24/2011

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My experiences were more negative than positive having my son at the same school. Looking back, I would have been more assertive and proactive with things I saw not being done right by him. I'm just glad that whole experience is over and he's in college now where things are much better. KO

Michelle - posted on 09/27/2011

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So far I have had great expirences with having my boys go to school where I work. If the teachers have a problem I am there to help. They have kept me up to date on any thing they think my boys needed help with. If they are sick I was there to deal with it. The staff at the school looked out for my boys. I loved that I had some of my work friends to look out for the welfare of my boys.

Liz - posted on 09/25/2011

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Having my children attend the same school at which I was working was wonderful! It helped, however, that their teachers had become friends of mine. I expected no special consideration; I wanted my children to be treated exactly the same as the other students, and they were. My son was there from PK-4th; my daughter from PK-2nd. They knew that mom was around the corner, but that they couldn't run to mom for problems. I was able to attend every program, something many moms and dads aren't able to do. There was not way I would have allowed them to be in my class, however. That would have been too difficult to deal with. Above all, it was a blessing to have them there with me, driving to and from work with my children!

Tracy - posted on 09/25/2011

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i worked in the same primary school both my sons attended as a midday assistant, i treated my sons no differently to any other child even to the point of sending one to the heads office with five other boys. i now work in the same high school as my daughters in the kitchen, my girls are treated no differently by myself or the teachers, the only difference is having a daughter with issues means im on the spot for a teacher to ask if they can see me or vice versa, some students accuse me of giving my girls freebies but i dont and the girls after trying a few times learnt i wont allow it,

Nyla - posted on 09/19/2011

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I am long retired from teaching but when our girls were school age they went to school with me. I had our younger daughter in 1st grade as well as 8th and it was a delight. I loved hearing about their days as we drove home and being able to hear their anxieites as we went in the morning. It made for a wonderful closemess. I wouldn't have had it any other way!

Nyla - posted on 09/19/2011

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I am long retired from teaching but when our girls were school age they went to school with me. I had our younger daughter in 1st grade as well as 8th and it was a delight. I loved hearing about their days as we drove home and being able to hear their anxieites as we went in the morning. It made for a wonderful closemess. I wouldn't have had it any other way!

Misty - posted on 09/18/2011

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For the last two years my daughter went to school in the same district were I teach (only one elem, one middle, one hs). It was nice because we always had the same breaks, snow days, etc. It also saved on having to pay for before/after school care for her. However, this year she is going to school in our home town instead of where I teach. She is in 5th grade now and I wanted her to gain some independence and responsibility. She's doing great and blooming with the "grown up" expectations. =)

Donna - posted on 09/06/2011

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My daughter and nephew both attended the school where I taught for nine years, and they never had any problems.

Miriam - posted on 09/06/2011

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My son left my school last monday he is classified gifted and a spot opened up in the academy so we decided to send him. He is loving it but last week was extreamly hard on me! I was so used to coming to work with him and leaving with him :+(

Marie France - posted on 09/05/2011

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I love having my darling C with me at school. Being a specialist I also get to be her teacher 2 hours a week. At school C is treated the same as my other kids. I often say I have 300 kids, but only bring one bak home. We both know how to make the difference between home and school eventhough C calls me Mom in class. I do not feel uncomfortable about teachin C as I know I am fair to all of my students. I try to act and be with them as I want other adults to act and be with C.
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Miriam - posted on 08/24/2011

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My son is in the 4th grade we openned up this school together 5 years ago,and we love being in the same school!! It makes me sad to think that I might not be here next year (just finished my masters in counseling).

Samantha - posted on 08/21/2011

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My boys went to school where I teach. It was a great experience most of the time. I always knew what was going on and they didn't get away with anything. However, there were a couple of teachers that I felt were "tattling" and had me deal with one of my son's behavior constantly for things that should have been handled in class and parents don't usually even know about. Minor everyday stuff we deal with everyday. Mostly it was great tho. I spent more time with those two than I did the older two just because of the ride back and forth to school.

Angela - posted on 08/15/2011

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I have both my girls at my school. I loved being able to see them in kindergarten and watch then play and learn. I also liked that I got to pick their teachers and made sure they got the strongest teachers at our site. My 3rd grader is a great reader, writer and loves reading.
I was able to contact teachers and keep open communication when needed

Mandy - posted on 08/05/2011

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My son went to school where I work. I had no problems until he was in 5th grade & I challenged some homework assignments. It was tough because I was friends with his teacher. Other than that it was so nice, I got a little spoiled though, it was so easy to keep up on what was going on. Then he went to middle school & I didn't have that luxury anymore.

Shamarla - posted on 07/27/2011

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It's fine. My daughter has gone to my school since preschool. She'll be in fifth grade this year. As others have stated my boss and other teachers/friends/co-workers have tried to give her special consideration and I've been against that unless it's truly earned. This year she will be taught by me for a period. Now that should be interesting! :-)

Shamarla - posted on 07/27/2011

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It's fine. My daughter has gone to my school since preschool. She'll be in fifth grade this year. As others have stated my boss and other teachers/friends/co-workers have tried to give her special consideration and I've been against that unless it's truly earned. This year she will be taught by me for a period. Now that should be interesting! :-)

Dramaqueenkel - posted on 06/08/2011

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My daughter goes where I teach. It's been hard at times, but its SO easy to get to see her programs at school now :)

Soraya - posted on 06/05/2011

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Overall, I had a good experience with my daughter (now age 14). It was quite convenient, and had no problems whatsoever. The only down side for me has been that I taught at a very exclusive private international school for 10 years and she was there on scholarship- Even though I made it clear that she attended that school only because I worked there ( I can't afford that school on my own means), sometimes we had issues with "keeping up with the rest of her classmates". This year I am teaching at another school and the transition has not been as smooth as I would have liked (she will be attending my new school this fall). Any suggestions on how to help her cope with that?

Cara - posted on 05/29/2011

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i think if you like the school that you work at and know that your child will have a good education that go for it. I know i would not send my faughter to the school I teach at, but only because I do not like the curriculum that is taught and the community in which the school is in.

Bonnie - posted on 08/16/2009

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I think it all depends on your child. I teach high school, and my daughter is a senior this year. I wouldn't trade anything for being at the same school. In fact, I turned down an incredible job offer because this is her senior year, and wild horses couldn't drag me away. She was also in my sophomore English class, and it was perfectly fine. I have colleagues who would never teach their own children.



See how it goes. It could be that the proximity is too close, but you being there might also give her confidence that she otherwise would not have.



My daughter and I do have pretty clear lines about the difference between her needs and demands of me when we are at home in the evening and when we are at school and mine of her. When I need to meet with colleagues and she's ready to go home, she sits in the hall and waits, and when I need to hug and kiss her, I don't do it when anyone is or could possibly be within seeing or hearing distance.



Good luck; I predict you'll cherish these times.

Mama Di (54 Years Old Human Growth Dev - posted on 08/06/2009

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Here is the way I handled it with High School and a vaste number of teaching friends. I am pretty much a school fixture now and I was 6 years ago. To my colleagues, "Darlin', we've been friends for a long time. During my daughters' tenure in your class, I will do everything I can to quietly support your program. However, I will say "Hello" to you in the copy room and only engage in type 1 or 2 discussion. If you have concerns about my daughter(s), I will be glad to schedule an improptu conference, before or after school with the child involved. After she is done with your class? I want to resume friendship. I personally don't want to be anything more than (daughters' mom) for this year/semester. It worked! At the Math/Science/Performing/Visual Arts school that I teach and my daughters attended, they were just "regular" kids. Their own personalities drove them to be Class/Student Council/Beta/ Soccer Capts. Really, in a school of 1800+ they had lots of friends that didn't realize that thier mom was a teacher.

Gale - posted on 08/06/2009

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Yes, there will be an adjustment for both of you. Her teacher(s) will expect more from her and you will know more about what your colleagues do in their classes. I not only have both of my children in my school but had my son in my Geometry class. You will make it. Please listen a lot and don't make judgements unless necessary. Since she is so young, it could make you even more proud of teaching in your school.

Valerie - posted on 08/06/2009

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I am a toddler teacher and my daughter is in my classroom with me. I for sure have some problems with it because it makes my teaching style more difficult, but at the same time I always know where she is, what she is doing and who she is making friends with. Your daughter is at the age where clicks start and you sill be able to make sure she is hanging out with the right crowd and doing appropriate activites and that will help her be successful for the rest of her life!!

Valerie - posted on 08/06/2009

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I am a toddler teacher and my daughter is in my classroom with me. I for sure have some problems with it because it makes my teaching style more difficult, but at the same time I always know where she is, what she is doing and who she is making friends with. Your daughter is at the age where clicks start and you sill be able to make sure she is hanging out with the right crowd and doing appropriate activites and that will help her be successful for the rest of her life!!

Kathleen - posted on 08/06/2009

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My stepson, who I have known since he was two, and who lives with us and only visits his mom every other weekend, is starting high school this year where I work. I'm a bit nervous about it too. He thinks I'm going to be his shadow. I want to be as far removed as possible. He took a couple of summer classes. I taught summer school - not either of his classes. I already found that one of the teachers was informing me way more than I really cared for. I think I may just need to send an e-mail to all of his teachers telling them that if they wouldn't call home if a different kid did the same thing, I would appreciate if they didn't contact me either. I hope all goes well for you and you little girl!

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I don't see a problem when they are that age. I wished I could have kept mine with me til they were 5! You are in a position to enjoy the best of 2 worlds: Looking after your child while at work and having your child in an environment where she can socialise with others her age.

Lydia - posted on 08/05/2009

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I have a ten year old son and six year old daughter and they both attend the school that I work at. I love it. I like the fact that we leave home together and we come home together. I don't have to worry about them on the bus because they are with me. If I need to speak to one of the teachers I can stick my head in the door without needing to make an apointment and miss work. I think that you are thinking about it too much, you will really enjoy it. Just relax.

Ivy - posted on 08/05/2009

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My son went to school at the school I'm teaching at. It was a wonderful experience. There are a few challenges you will face. The best advise I can give you is to talk to the teachers. Let them know you are open to communicating only if that is how the other children would be treated. I didn't want to hear everything. I gave my son his space. Didn't show up everywhere. My door was always open to his friends as well. Enjoy the time. It goes way to fast.

Kim - posted on 08/04/2009

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I taught all three kids in my kindergarten class and loved loved loved it. They called me mom on the way in the door and Mrs. Franzen as soon as the bell rang. It worked out very well and we all have special memories of those years. A bit of advice...treat them just the same as everyone else. Leave home things at home, and school things at school. Once you make that distinction clear for your child, they'll have any easier time adjusting to you as a teacher and switching back to you as a mom. Have a great year!!

Alison - posted on 08/03/2009

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I have taught for 24 years, straight through having 4 kids! Each child attended the school at which I taught, even though it wasn't our 'neighborhood' school. I loved every minute! Except for the occasional whines about wanting to stay with me in my class (I never allowed them to be enrolled in my class.) Set clear expectations with the teacher and the principal. (And your kids, of course!) Have some snacks in your room for after school treats, and try to eat lunch together once in a while, if that's an option. You won't regret it! Best wishes!

Teresa - posted on 08/03/2009

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I have been in the Education field for 25 years now I have never had a problem with my kids being at the same school! I love every minute of it! I have a 20, 13, & 5yr old. I even taught my oldest in kdg. Never a problem!

Judy - posted on 08/03/2009

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I love having my 3 girls where I work! We have set boundaries. I am still a teacher there, they cannot come in at recess and interrupt my class unless it is an emercency, and I let them fight their own battles, mostly ;o). It has worked out well. My oldest is just now off to 7th grade and my other 2 are 1st and 5th. I enjoy seeing them during the day and getting an extra hug, and they do too!

Danielle - posted on 08/02/2009

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My daughter was absolutely fine!! She was a walking role model for the class, although if she did step out of line slightly, she probably has a tougher time as i didn't want the other children thinking she had special treatment!! I was also able to extend and challange her as she was on the gifted and talented register!!



Good Luck x

Toni - posted on 08/02/2009

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How about having your child in your class???? We are in a small school and I love the school and teachers! I will have my daughter this fall; however, I will be teaching only half days and in an administrator role the other half days!! I think the pros outweigh the cons! I read the some good advice below! Thank you!

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