How did you cope returning to work with a young baby?
Tory - posted on 06/16/2009
I went back after spring break in April and it was hard, but I was soooo busy I really didn't have time to think about it! I agree with everyone- find a sitter you trust. That way you can focus on getting everything done at school that you can so you aren't having to take stuff home. It's funny how much time you have (just not free time). Realize that you can't get everything done as you did before and it's ok.
Alicia - posted on 06/14/2009
I am fortunate enough to work in childcare so my son has been in the same center with me since 5 months old. The key is to look long and hard at childcare both home and center based. One of the best times to visit is during diaper and snack times. Someone once told me that you can tell a good provider if they are interacting with a child who's diaper they are changing. And as hard as it is to have visitors during snack time it is a great time to spectate a part of the children's routine and how well the staff maneuver this time of day!!! It is hard, I still have guilt that my child is in someone else's care all day long but I also know he is being enriched and exposed to much more than I could expose him to myself. He is learning important social skills that will take him through the rest of his life.
Laura - posted on 06/10/2009
This time was my third child and, while it was hard going back to work, it was nowhere near as traumatic as the first child had been. Trusting your child care provider is key, as others have said. It helped that I was lucky enough to have been able to take 9 weeks off -- and I did go back on a Thursday. I'm speech coach as well, and didn't plan this very well, so I was on maternity leave during the speech season. Because of this, I took my daughter up to the school to meet with kids to practice at the end of the school day. She was little enough she slept through most of it and the high school kids LOVED it. If she had been my first, there's no way I would have done that. With my first child (who was born in March) it was my first year teaching and so I didn't have much time built up. I went back with about a month left of school, and my husband took off work for that month, so my son didn't actually go to day care until the next August. I cried every morning for a week -- even though I trusted my day care provider completely.
Kimberly - posted on 06/09/2009
As people have mentioned already, I went about finding a day care I was 100% comfortable with, and I visited both home care and day care so I saw both avenues. The first few weeks of returning to work, my husband dropped my son off at day care, so the guilt was much less severe than if I did it. When I started dropping him off, he wasn't too upset, so I sort of waded into the dropping off. I also prioritized at work and began using every second of my free time to get grading done and e-mails accomplished. As a result, I bring work home about four total times a year, and I think this year I brought it home three times while teaching SIX classes! It amazes me how much time can get wasted at work!
I always have tons of pictures of my family at work, and now with a digital picture frame, it's even easier. I have learned that work will be kept at work, and when I am home, I am 100% with my family!
Jael - posted on 06/05/2009
It was super hard. I made sure that I found someone who I could completely trust to watch my daughter. I searched and searched for months...I reorganized my classroom to be more efficient so that I wouldn't waste time at work...and would be less likely to bring it home. I made boundaries with co-workers and parents about meeting times that I could attend so that I wasn't working too much past my working day. Setting up those expectations for others as well as myself really helped me stay focused on getting out of the building and home to my baby.
Shonquinta - posted on 05/20/2009
It was very hard at first. I read books/articles on moms returning to work. Transition slowly. Make sure you have a babysitter/daycare center you really trust. This will make the transition easier. Start work on a Thursday instead of Monday. This will benefit both mom and baby.
No matter what, do not bring work home with you. Time with baby is so important. Hope this helps.
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