Lisa - posted on 12/19/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )
I need advice. I can connect so well with teens on many different levels as a teacher, but how do I connect with my own teenage stepdaughter? We don't communicate. She is very quiet and secretive and I don't know how to reach her. ANy ideas?
She is 15 now, but I've been in her life since she was 7. We always talked before, when she was little she once told me I was one of her best friends. She lives with her mom, whom I know is disconnected with her. I've never attempted to replace her mom, nor have I forced her to love me like one. We once had a great bond. I am a little strict, but it's because I care and I have expectations like any parent. I do have two other little ones in the house, but I try not to treat any of them different. My husband is very supportive of both of us. It just seems that she went from straight As and Bs to Fs in one semester. Plus, I found gang-related pics on my computer and my hubby caught her smoking pot. I just don't know what to do. If I say too much then I'm the wicked stepmother. If I say nothing, then I "don't care". What happened and how do we reach her?? She doesn't seem to care what we have to say, nor does she respond!
I love your ideas so far. Thanks for helping!!!