It's going to be hard to leave Cody to go back to school.

Joyce - posted on 08/08/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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My only child Cody is 6 months old. I am dreading, for the first time, going back to teach. I really would be ok if I was "just teaching" but I coach softball and basketball too. I could very easily not see him but maybe 3 days a week for an entire month and a half during softball season.(basketball season is longer!) The only day of those three that I can spend the entire day with him is Sunday. .....am feeling depressed, wishing we had the money so I could stay at home. Any encouragement is needed=)

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Shana - posted on 08/13/2009

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Joyce,

I definitely can relate. I had to return to work when my daughter was just six weeks old. On top of that, I was a pumping mom, so my free time at school was spent doing that. I felt guilty too. I found a great in-home day care. She brought her to see me for lunch each Friday. She was thriving. I brought pictures of her to share with my students and they loved to hear stories about her. Maybe Cody can come cheer at some of the sporting events. You're so lucky to have had six months with him at home:) Also, remember it's not the quantity of time but the quality of time. I know you'll both look forward to Sundays. I hope this helps:)

Alison - posted on 08/13/2009

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Joyce - My son was 9 weeks old when I went back to work last year. This year he's obviously going to be almost 15 months old and I'm dreading it even more. It's very hard, but like someone said, jump back in and the routine will eventually help. The time you do have with Cody will be extra special. and realistically - Cody is not going to remember that you weren't around. See how the year goes with coaching and if you feel that it's too much, keep it in mind for the next year - as Cody will be older and will start to remember more things. You'll want to be around more often then. Hang in there - there's lots of us in the same position. When we hit the lottery we can all be SAHMs!!

Sarah - posted on 08/11/2009

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I already feel that empty, knotted feeling when I think about leaving my Shelby. I had to go back to work when she was only 7 weeks and I literally cried all the way to work, then cried during my first class! THe students pretended not to notice. Things that helped me out were 1) Setting out and enjoying 15 minutes of quiet, special time in the morning before leaving for work. Just us, the couch and our early morning smiles! Breakfast is a good time for this if your rushed. 2) When you pick them up, savor the look on their faces when they first see you! 3) When you get home, don't worry about rushing into dinner or cleaning. Spend some time playing or just hanging out to disconnect your work day from your home life. Housework is not the priority, especially in the few few weeks. 4) NEVER BRING HOME WORK WITH YOU. I regretted bringing home work when I realized how little time it left me and my family in the evenings. Do what you have to do during the day, break your back if you have to, but when you walk out that door, DO JUST THAT, no strings attached.



It doesn't get easier, but I remind myself my own mother was a full-time worker, and I don't remember her being at work! :) Kids remember the moments you are there, so make them count.

Karen - posted on 08/11/2009

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Hugs to you, I am dreading going back in September too, although my situation is different because I don't coach, but like previous posts said, once you get into the groove of your routine at work, it's hard to stop and think about them to miss them. Before you know it the day is over and you look drive home looking forward to seeing your little one. Time flies and before you know we have days off and finally the summer. You will also see that you appreciate the weekend much more to spend time with him. Hang in there! :-)

Sarah - posted on 08/10/2009

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I feel the same way about leaving my 2 month old daughter, Keely. I wish we had the money for me to stay at home, too. I keep telling myself, though, that my students at school need me, too. As for coaching, I don't do that. I know many who do, though. One of our coaches just had a baby and has a lot of medical issues. You can do it. It will be hard, but it's not impossible. Think positive thoughts. Benefits of teaching: 1) making a difference, 2) school holidays, 3) summers off, and many more. Good luck, girl! I am sure you'll feel better about it once you actually return.

Erin - posted on 08/09/2009

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I found that after awhile it got easier. When I first went back to work I would cry every morning. It took a little while but every day it got better. He loved being with the sitter and it gave him the opportunity to play with other kids. Don't beat yourself up about, or it will just make the situation worse. Spend as much time as you can with him and enjoy it.

Jennifer - posted on 08/09/2009

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I'm going back too. I have two children- a five year old and an 11 month old. I return to teaching 6th grade in September. It's hard to go back even for the second time. I have a hard time dividing my time because I want to do my very best in the classroom, but my family always comes first. There's a lot of pressure and responsibility as a teacher (and coach I'm sure) to go above and beyond, and I could stay at school until dinner or later and still have more to do. I have learned to accept that school work will always be there and my children will only be little once. I know with coaching, there must be lots of competition and you don't want to lose your position. It's so hard, but you're not alone!! You'll find a way to get through it and still get to spend time with your little guy! Maybe Daddy can bring him to some of your practices or games. Good luck!

Sarah - posted on 08/09/2009

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this is the second time i've had to go back to work with my lil' one and it is just as hard as i remember it being last year. the guilt never seems to go away, but i will tell you that just reading this and knowing that there are other moms out there that feel this way really puts me at ease. my husband just told me yesterday that i have to remember that i work to ensure that joey has a better life then we did financially. looking at the situation in joey's perspective helps me to realize that although this is so very hard for me (heartbreaking actually), it is just fine for him! i hope that one day when he is older he will respect the fact that i was a working mom. good luck to you...don't be so hard on yourself!

Joyce - posted on 08/09/2009

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Thanks guys, that helps. I am going to try and get him to as many games as possible but that really depends on my husbands schedule. Hopefully it all works out with the least amount of guilt possible=)

Melissa - posted on 08/09/2009

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I found that once I was at work it was ok....you just fall back into the routine. Could he come to some of those games on Saturdays? Your kids would probably be thrilled and then you would be spending time with him and coaching. Let your friends at work know it is really hard for you and they will be supportive. Make sure you are comfortable with his care when you are at work b/c that will go a long way. You are an adorable family and will get through this!

Rebekah - posted on 08/08/2009

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I went back to work last school year when my son Dante was 3 months. It was so hard. This year he is 15 months and I am going back. SInce you have to work right now, you are doing it to give your son a good healthy life. Spend as much time with him as you can and enjoy every minute. Don't put extra guilt upon yourself. Try to get your little guy to games or practices for a few minutes here and there. You and your team will love the interaction. I hope it all works out for you and your family!

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