kids going to your school???

Heather - posted on 11/15/2008 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I can't decide what would be best! I think my son might behave better if he was NOT at my school with me!

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Marge - posted on 11/19/2008

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Both of my children are at my school this year. For the most part, I LOVE it. Sometimes I will pass my daughter in the hall and get a huge hug which makes my day. She just started kindergarten so it's kind of neat to keep tabs on her every so often. My son is in third and just became "an intermediate". Our paths cross more often and it has worked out pretty well. I have to remind myself to cut him some slack since I do hear about pretty much everything he does - not so much from the teachers but from his peers - they will ask "Do you know your son is in trouble?" I usually respond with "I am sure that his teacher will take care of it."

Lora - posted on 11/18/2008

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I started out with my kids at different schools, and we all ran ragged for a couple of years. Life definately got easier (and family life richer) when we decided to "school choice" our kids into the school where I teach (high school). It allows us to really get involved in the community...and I am able to develop a relationship with their friends as well. Having graduated 2 already, and with one a junior and one a sophomore, I think they'd tell you that although they have sometimes felt some added pressure being a "teacher's kid," the good has outweighed the bad. The keys (I think):



1. Talk openly and often any potential pressure they may be experiencing due to their "status."

2. Expressly give them permission to NOT protect you (i.e. it's okay if other kids don't care for you as a teacher).

3. Make sure admin and other teachers know when you are putting on the "parent hat" (it helps that my husband will take that role as often as possible if conflicting issues arise).



BTW: My 2nd daughter stayed at a different high school for the first 2 years, even after her older sister came to mine. Once she made the move, her behavior actually improved...we were able to spend more time together, and I could more easily support her desire to attend all of the school activities she wanted to, with less concern for time conflicts.

Betty - posted on 11/18/2008

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My daughter is in first grade at my school and I also teach first grade but she's not in my class. But I team teach with her teacher so sometimes she ends up in my class for science exchanges. She knows that during the school day to call me by Mrs. Liu. It's nice being able to see her during the school day. I chose to have her at my school for the convenience of drop off and pick up and I thought about how she was as a student (behaviorally and academically). If I had felt her attitude or behavior would be worse, knowing I was a teacher at her school, meaning she would try to get away with things, etc. I would not have put her in my school. I've had a colleague whose child was not the best behaved at the same school and it made for an awkward working relationship. I also have my husband attend all the parent conferences rather than me since I usually already know how she is doing on a daily/weekly basis. Afterschool time can be challenging because I am trying to get as much done as possible before going home and my daughter is "chatty". Usually she'll do homework but for a first grader, that's only about 20 -30 minutes. So sometimes she "helps" me, and sometimes she helps other teachers.

Alison - posted on 11/17/2008

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My son starts kindergarten next year and I'm struggling with deciding whether to bring him with me or have him go to the community school.

Katie - posted on 11/17/2008

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Hello, I teach kindergarten and my two kids, one first grader and one kindergartener come with me. It is super convenient and I like being where they are at. I know they are always "taken care of" and being "looked after" because everyone knows who they are, but in a good way. My biggest stress is after school. I work about an 1.5 hours after they get out and they are naturally wound up. It stresses me out sometimes. But, at least it allows me to spend some time with them.

Kelly - posted on 11/16/2008

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I have had it both ways. The first year we moved here, my two oldest went to the neighborhood school and I drove to where I work. The following year, my daughter came with me and my son went to a class for children with autism at a different school. My biggest issue was after school time and all the drama my daughter would get into with her friends. This year, both my oldest are with me---and in afterschool childcare. I am an EC teacher and have too many IEP meetings, so it is worth the cost. I prefer having them with me, because then I always know what is going on, but I do miss my "alone time" driving to and from school.

Michelle - posted on 11/15/2008

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Last year my daughter was at my school and my son was at our neighborhood school. I felt bad making him leave all his friends, but I missed out on everything. I was unable to go to assemblies or award ceremonies. It was really hard missing out on these things. This year I have both with me. I have just put my foot down and they know they are walking a fine line. I would suggest keeping him there with you and talking to him about his behavior. Implement a behavior system with him. Good luck!

Lynn - posted on 11/15/2008

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I had both my boys at my school. I like the convenience & knowing what is going on, but there have definitely been times where my mom role collides with my teacher role. I often hear more than I would if they were at a different school. I know every little thing they do wrong. I also have had some conflicts when there are difficulties with teachers. How do I handle that without losing a friend (the teacher) but make sure my child is getting the best education? Overall, it has been positive, but I work in a very small system (only 1,000 students), so no matter where they are, I know what is going on. BTW I chose to send my kids to the system where I work vs the system where I live, because the schools are better, so I would definitely weigh that factor.

Lauren - posted on 11/15/2008

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My kids are at my school...it's large enough that I don't teach them often (I'm a specialist) but I do get to have them with me after school. They have a lot of friends there and it's a great environment. I try to stay out of the way and not butt into friendships/teacher issues. I think it's great...but, when they act up, their teachers tell me immediately--so that can be a bit stressful. In a way, good, right? They can't get away with much!

Tammy - posted on 11/15/2008

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Last year I had all 3 of my sons at school with me. They behaved well in their classrooms, it was before and after school that I had a problem with them. This year my First graders are with me but my oldest is at our sister school. WHat I love about them ebing with me is that I can talk face to face with their teachers during the day and see how they are doing. For me to talk with the oldest's teacher is impossible. It takes forever to get a response and I feel out of touch with his day. Mine will eventually all be at another school since mine is K-2. There are good and bad things either way.

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