Mirsha - posted on 04/24/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )
I'm a first year teacher teaching Pre-K 3-4 yr. olds. My class size is 21 and I have one child that has had challenging behavior since he started. I have tried what feels like everything, but he has more bad days than good and finally yesterday mom got really upset that his behavior is always like that.
His behavior isn't horrible, but it's almost on a daily basis that the following happens. As soon as he gets to school they line up and he just has to push somebody that's already in the line just because he wants to stand in a certain spot or next to a certain friend and that starts a whole problem with the kids that were already in line following directions. Then we walk to the classroom and put their belongings away and sit down on the rug he'll just start poking the kids that sit infront of him, or pull on their hair, or say rude things to them like "poopie head". He knows what he's doing is inappropriate, but he thinks it's funny.
He has a hard time sharing and lacks self control. When he wants something he'll just take or destroy what the other kids have done and hits them. When he doesn't get his way he'll have a meltdown and has even hit me and my staff. He'll say things like, "I don't have to listen to you" or "I'll do what I want because I said so." (keep in mind that he's yelling at the top of his lungs when he does this.
So what I do in my class is that they get 2 warnings and at the 3rd time they immediately go to the cooling off spot. I also have a reward system where they collect stars for good behavior, helping out, and answering questions about the day's lesson. After they collect 10 stars they get a surprise from the 'surprise' box
He had a time maybe a month and a half where he was really good, and then I don't know what happened. Nothing in the family has changed. School environment, and discipline methods have been consistent as well. But he just keeps regressing. I also give him a job of being my 'helper' and praise hime when he does really well.
Yesterday, we had an emergency drill practice and he had a meltdown because he had gotten up to go get a tissue (we were out on the yard no tissue to be found) and I had him sit back down and he just flipped.
I've already talked to the school's mental health consultant and I didn't get the support I wanted, she just said if I thought his behavior was disruptive. I said yes because it's happening almost on a daily basis.
I'm just looking for ways that I can help him gain self control and how to teach him to be nice to his peers and also what kind of resources i can give to the parents.
Sorry, this post has been so long and TIA for your help.