When kids go to the same school here the parent teaches

Shahina - posted on 10/06/2009

when my child was small (3 yrs to grade5 ) he was in the same school as i was teaching. I have so many catastrophic experiences,
when he was too little, he was always out of class playing in sand pit or running to find me in higher grades.
when he was in grade 3-5 he was a naughty kid and a prankster too.
whenever he did something it was brought to my notice immediately. It was a bad phase, because i realized that if the very same thing was done by any other kid, the teachers either ignored or just punished them in detention.
I shiftes him to another school, and it made a difference.
my son too realized the need for good behavior.

Patricia - posted on 10/05/2009

I started teaching at a school last eyar. It is both a jr and sr. high school. Next year my daughter will be attending the school where I teach and my son the year after that. My kids at this point are lookign forward to being at the same school where I'll be teaching but is there any advice I should give my kids? Or any 'discussions' we should have before the time arrives? Thank goodness that my third child has a few years left before he goes to that school. Any suggestions?

Kristy - posted on 10/02/2009

I chose to have my son go to the same school where I teach. As teachers you know how busy the day is, and even though last year he was in the class right next door to me I didn't find out about his day until after school. I've always told his teachers that I know he isn't perfect and that I would like to know when he isn't doing what he is supposed to. So far his teachers have been honest with me about him in a professional way; meaning at conferences or after school. I would have been upset too if they interrupted my teaching time!

Karra - posted on 09/29/2009

Quoting Melissa:

My son just entered Middle school this year and this is the first time that we haven't been at the same school. I've always told his teachers that we are all professionals and my child should not be treated any different than other kids. According to my son the only draw back was that he could never say he had no homework. The positive side was I didn't have to travel to pick him up if he was ill and if there was ever a problem (which was rare) I was able to handle it immediately. So it was a great experience for me.

We live in a predominately non-minority small city, which is a problem in itself.  It has been one problem after another.  There is only one high school.  I love my children close to me, but a small city or town can truly be unbelieveable.  Our children have never had a problem being in the same school as we teach.  Infact, our son plays on the same team his father coaches on.  I do not mine being contacted if there is a real problem but not some minor problem.  Our children just want to be treated as other children would be.  Would someone call you if your child kissed someone in high school?

Karra - posted on 09/29/2009

Quoting Pat:

I was so glad when my last 3 made it to High School. No dragging them with me every day. No having them embarrass me by fighting as siblings do at my job!! BUT now I worry continually about what they are doing, and who they are hanging out with! It's never easy. I always expected my kids to be treated like all others, but of course that never worked.

My kids have really been no trouble!  The kiss or smooch really did not bother me.  I told her not to do it in school.  She did not think there was anything wrong.  It was the response of the administrator.  She is new to the high school.  She made a mountain out of a mole hill.  It really had my husband mad.  I then got mad at him for his response.  I do not want to rush my children out of high school because i do not want them to grow up too fast.  However, high school has been one big stress after another.

Pat - posted on 09/29/2009

I was so glad when my last 3 made it to High School. No dragging them with me every day. No having them embarrass me by fighting as siblings do at my job!! BUT now I worry continually about what they are doing, and who they are hanging out with! It's never easy. I always expected my kids to be treated like all others, but of course that never worked.

Melissa - posted on 09/29/2009

My son just entered Middle school this year and this is the first time that we haven't been at the same school. I've always told his teachers that we are all professionals and my child should not be treated any different than other kids. According to my son the only draw back was that he could never say he had no homework. The positive side was I didn't have to travel to pick him up if he was ill and if there was ever a problem (which was rare) I was able to handle it immediately. So it was a great experience for me.

Evelyne - posted on 09/28/2009

Absolutely not! This should have been dealt with after school or during your husband's free time. This happened to me with my son. It is NOT a severe discipline matter and should not have been blown out of shape. The principal was wrong to pull your husband out of his classroom---thank God he didn't say anything in front of the students! but if any student overheard then it's a problem.

Karra - posted on 09/27/2009

Quoting Kelly:

I think administration needs to handle it, as they would for all. A phone call to your cell or a note in your box-never interrupt teaching time.

My point exactly!  Why not just handle the situation the way they would for any other student?  They called my house.  If both of us are working what idiot would call the house if you know both are teacher usually at the same school?  Pull the emergency medical and find a day time phone.  But for a kiss?  I was so angry!  My husband was spitting bullets.  Our daughter was scared to go home.  I did write a letter.  Actually, the kiss did not bother me.  It was the behavior of the administrator that did!

Karra - posted on 09/27/2009

Quoting Benee:

unfortunately I do not support the idea of having your kids at the same school that y ou teach at. though i can understand the ease of all going to one place it doesnt give you or them a break from each other. they dont get to be individuals responsable for their own behavior and choices. you don't get to be yourself you are just so and so's mom and vice versa. I find that at the end of the day it is amazing to have the day to talk about and not already know what has happened.

We live in a small urban city with only one high school.  With both of us working and with three children it is very nice to have the children at the same school: getting them to and from school, seeing their sport activites, same vacation times, quick access etc...  The school is large enough that we do not know what is going on with our kids until they tell us after school.  We gave the kids a choice to go to another district, but they choose the school we were at. 

Karra - posted on 09/27/2009

The children complain that they are not allowed to be just kids like other students. I requested that we be informed if there is a medical problem or an academic problem. The teachers or administrators never did. But when our daughter kissed a boy, off they went to tattle. I was soooo mad. My husband was mad at our daughter because the administrator embarressed him. I was not bothered. She did not know it was wrong and did not want to go to school the rest of the week. It was so handle poorly!

Mandy - posted on 09/27/2009

I think that is so wrong. By all means tell him at an opportune moment, but pull him out of class, no way. They can't get hold of other parents that quickly, so they don't need to get hold of either of you two that quickly. I have been at the same school as my children for many years and have never had that happen, and believe me its not because they have never been in trouble.

Benee - posted on 09/27/2009

unfortunately I do not support the idea of having your kids at the same school that y ou teach at. though i can understand the ease of all going to one place it doesnt give you or them a break from each other. they dont get to be individuals responsable for their own behavior and choices. you don't get to be yourself you are just so and so's mom and vice versa. I find that at the end of the day it is amazing to have the day to talk about and not already know what has happened.

Kelly - posted on 09/27/2009

I think administration needs to handle it, as they would for all. A phone call to your cell or a note in your box-never interrupt teaching time.

Bev - posted on 09/25/2009

My 2 children have all ways attended the school were both my husband and I work. We ask staff to treat our children as they would any others and contact us after school. We try to give them as much privacy as we can but usually the benefits out weigh the negatives. I would mention to the school that you expect that your children would be treated through the usual behaviour management process. It is a pain when our children get away with things because of out relationships with staff. I wish they would be stricter.