how do you find balance in your household with routines and schedules?
Rachel - posted on 01/13/2011
Thanks a lot Rene :) I think thats what i really need to do- make an office in my room. I also live in a 3 bedroom but have the kids set up in the 2 bedrooms (a toddler room and a nursery) so my bedroom might be my best option! I am always working and then staring at the kitxhen knowing i have other things to do lol But a routine is forming and you`re right about my daughter wanting attention while i work. I was told by a lot of people to ignoreher while i work so she learns to leave me alone but it never worked. whenever i `give-in`as they called it, she would be happy to hit a few keys on the computer, a wuick hug and kiss or shed show me whatever toy she has with her and then off she went! She just needed that 5 minutes or reassurance that Im still here and paying attention because as you all must know- each child wants to be the boss and center of every moment :P Im going to stick with that method of you say it worked for you because i used to get so stressed trying to keep her happy and work atthe same time. Shes more independant now too so I know its not being a bad-mom to let her play by herself while i work, even if i know shed rather play with me :) Thanks for the post! Nice to hear im on the right track :P
Rene - posted on 01/12/2011
Wow. Rachel! Do not ever underestimate yourself. You are an amazing woman. We as women, are stronger and more enduring then we think. I know now, when you start having your little darlings then everything changes. I would say to you Rachel. do not stress about your schedule yet. Your babies will be the ones showing you when is what and for what what. you work around that. also, when you do work, and you know they have been 100% cared for, they must learn from a very very young age that they must give you space to do your work. they can sit and play by you in your work area, but when they get up and bother you. give them the 5 min of love, then they will be happy to carry on on their own. they go nuts and naughty when they dont get their little bits of loving attention every now and then. Just another thought, try and make a workspace somewhere else in your home, maybe in your bedroom. so that there is a door you can close when you with your family. currently we have moved into a 3 bed townhouse, but i do not have a sewing room for now. i sew in our bedroom. my husband has his pc there to, right next to me. we find that our night times are the best sort of quiet times to work when the 3 critters are in bed. Your schedule will change all the time as your children grows up. but after a while it becomes second nature to just flow into it. Lots of blessing with all the wonderfull things you are experiencing, and congratulations on getting your degree. that is awesome!! ;-0
Rachel - posted on 01/12/2011
Wow all you impressed me!!! I only have one child currently-a toddler whos going to be 2 in March and im due with my second child- a boy this time, 2 weeks after her birthday! I work at home but have never fully set up my office so i am in my livingroom working which is hard for me. Im also a high-risk pergnancy so im not allowed to do much physically and its hard sometimes to entertain my little one being so big & slow at 29 weeks right now :P You are all doing an amazing job! I thought what i was managing-and about to manage was hard :P I have a fiance and planning our wedding was chaotic so i changed everything recently (sorta last minute:P) so i cant say ive mastered my time management when it comes to "me-time" every spare moment i have, i take my daughter outside or to a public play place so i can spend some time with her outside of what can feel like a work environment. My fiance works too so hes not home during the day and i was in college my first pregnancy-took 6 months off (the last 3 months of the pregnancy and 3 months after) btu recently got my college degree and am using it to work for a great company whos been really flexible with me :) (ie: letting me work from home :P) Im 21 yrs old, getting married this year just before my 22nd birthday so im really excited about that, i just dont know how ill have time for a honey-moon with my hubby since i work, he works and we dont have many reliable people to watch our children :S but Thanks for all your stories--very encouraging to know im not the only one trying to be a stay at home mom and still provide for my family :)
Rebecca - posted on 05/06/2010
Hey guys!! I too work from home and I have 4 kiddos to balance!!!
The way i basically manage it, is scheduling and sticking to my schedule. I work while the kids are playing for about 20 min then i get off and play with them, or while they are eating lunch of breakfast I know I have enough time to do a few things for my business. My son goes to school in the afternoon and my daughter all day. So when I put him on the bus, i then put my other kiddos down for a nap and i have about 2 hours to really work work work. Then i hop off and do some household chores...after that its time to get the kids from the bus and I spend the evening with them and my fiance. sometimes I hop back online and work for an hour after they go to bed, or attend my team meetings or whatever...then I go to bed...on the weekends I focus on my family and the house!!!
The kids understand mommy has to work and are fairly cooperative during the day!!
Rene - posted on 02/26/2010
wow. veronica. i take my hat off to you. i have 3 children, i hectic couture business,i work in the morning, i also have a strict routine. i have times in the day that i allocated to the family. ie. my second comes from school at 11.45, i then make lunch, he eats, i feed baby, my hubby fetches my oldest at 12.30, we then have lunch and my second goes to bed. i relax with my oldest a bit and play with my baby, then i put my baba to bed, i resume my work till 4 oclock. my staff pack up and go then, i place kids in the bath, they play splashingly well while i cook, they get washed by hubby, he then washes baba, i dress them, they then play or watch a movie, we eat, and they are all in bed by 7, no nonsense. i have time out with my man till 8 or so, i then resume work till 11 or when i am done with my days layout. if i dont maintain this then i struggle for order. oh yes. i dont even have a maid, i might get one for my ironing from end march. otherwise we do all the cleanup etc. good luck to you!
Veronica - posted on 02/26/2010
Hi Rene -- Im Veronica. I too work from home - I have five children, and soon six!!
Balancing at home -- this is a very hard thing to achieve - but what is working the best for me is a schedule/routine. I keep the schedule flexible - but the routine is the same.
Everyone has a part in the housework, and help around the house. I make sure I make time for stuff as well - hours with my business, time with my children, time with my husband, and time for myself.
But- its not always easy! And everyday changes from the next - and that is why I keep a routine - for instance: My two oldest get home at 4 pm -- so while Im waiting for them to get home, I prepare supper and get it cooking (between 3/3:30) this way, when they get home, i have supper ready to finish - and then we can all sit down and eat. I then allow some play time, then we do clean up, bathtime (every other night), and then depending on the night - its either strait to bed, or a little movie and then bed. My kids are very accustomed to this - and it helps me tremendously - as my husband is working at those hours - so im on my own!!
How about you, Rene? How do you balance??
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