Does anyones MIL treat her other grandchildren different?

Crystal - posted on 05/23/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Ok this really pisses me off (sorry bout language) anyways. My MIL doesnt want anything to do with our children. Now my nephews on the other had she spends WAY more time with them than mine. Its unfair to my children bc their grandmother doesnt want anything to do with them but she ALWAYS has their cousin. You can tell that my children have nothing to do with her because when they happen to see her(not very often) they dont want anything to do with her and they cry like they dont know her. I know that she is their grandmother but I really dont even want her around them (when she is) bc all they do is scream bc they dont know her or want anything to do with her. (I know kinda harse but the truth)

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Kat - posted on 05/23/2009

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I'm not saying that favoritism isn't wrong, but mothers and daughters have an extra close bond. I have two older brothers, both of whom have kids. Even though my mom loves my brothers and her other grandchildren the same, she has a closer bond with mine, just cos i'm her daughter. She does a pretty good job of not showing any difference in how she feels about them most of the time, but i do sometimes worry that my SILs might get jealous or have their feelings hurt.

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Catherine - posted on 05/24/2009

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I have so much to say - but facebook isn´t as private as it *should* be hehe sigh!

Crystal - posted on 05/23/2009

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When my daughter was born she would get her and take her places keep her over the weekend and stuff. Then when my nephew came along it slacked off.. and by the time I had my son she didnt even want to take her for me while I was in the hospital (she didnt think she would sleep through the night) Hubby had to tell her that she would have to take her at night bc my mom had no place for her to sleep (she has a house full) and that my mom would watch her during the day while MIL worked. She didnt really like that idea but had to deal with it.

Jennifer - posted on 05/23/2009

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My sons are the only grandchildren right now, but we have a problem with grandmother treating my 3 yr old better than the 6 month old. She bends over backwards for my 3 yr old. She will buy him whatever he wants, carry him everywhere (which is a very BIG problem cause he is too old to be carried). She has held my 6 month old twice since he has been born. When my older boy was a baby she held him all of the time so I know that it is not that she is nervous around babies or anything. We see them about once a week or so and it drives me crazy. She acts like she is the mother to him, not the grandmother. I hope it gets better when the baby gets older or we are gonna have a huge problem!

Carly - posted on 05/23/2009

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I feel for your children. My family was the least favorite kids never get over things like that. My only advice is don't be the reason your kids don't see them. As they age they will learn soon enough the unkind truth who loves them.

Crystal - posted on 05/23/2009

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Yeah I know.. She will drive farther to her daughters house to see her other grandson but cant drive to ours and its closer. She dont see that she picks favorites we've told her but she doesnt believe it. My mother has even told me that she sees that she picks favorites.

Lisa - posted on 05/23/2009

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Girl, I hear you. My MIL is the same way. she's openly told me that she has favorites. And I feel the same way you do, it's takes so much energy to act like it doesn't bother me. I feel sick to my stomach when we actually have to see her (which also isn't very often) and it's always us going to her house, cause she won't put the energy into coming to ours even tho it's only a 10 min drive.

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